Anyone lost an item and been able to move on?

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I've lost three rings! Engagement, wedding and one that DH gave to me on our 10th anniversary. I feel absolutely sick.
I last had them just over two weeks ago- came back from a night out, not drunk but had been drinking, and put them somewhere. And I don't know where! I've looked everywhere. Pretty sure it was downstairs. Looked in bags, shoes, toy boxes, between, under and behind the sofa....everywhere.
I've come to the conclusion that I dropped them in my work bag and either they fell out as they were in open side pockets or I threw them away by accident when throwing some paperwork away.

They've gone. I need to accept that because I'm having problems sleeping. Life is very stressful at the moment (I could write a whole series of threads...) with job issues, a health scare and school problems and this would be a huge source of comfort if I could just let it go. But how? How do I stop thinking "oh, they could be in the suitcase with my summer clothes" or "maybe I accidentally put them in the freezer" and then look there and of course, they aren't there but the disappointment kicks again.

Has anyone lost anything, forever, and stopped looking for it? I know these are just objects and I've lost people so I know it's not the same but I just need to move on from this.

OP years and years ago whilst still living at home, I lost my rings. They weren't worth much but sentimental value. I looked everywhere in the house and couldn't find them and gave up thinking they were lost for good.

One evening I was in my bedroom and getting my clothes ready for work and pulled out a pair of trousers that I hadn't worn for while and they were in the pocket!

It hadn't even occurred to me to look somewhere like that but actually was obvious as always took my rings off when I washed my hands so must have popped in my pocket and forgot about them.

Also my SIL lost her wedding ring for years, it turned up in her DD's built in wardrobe on the floor, do you have young DC? Could they have picked up and put down somewhere? Hope they turn up.

I lost my wedding,engagement and eternity ring. I really wasn’t that upset by it, I’ve got my lovely DH,he’s the most precious thing to me. It probably helped that they were covered by our home insurance so I got the all replaced with shiner new ones. I still find myself looking out for them 5 years later. It’s just so frustrating,I don’t understand how they just vanished! One of life’s mysteries!

Honestly OP, i know it's upsetting when you lose something of value, but in the grand scheme of things these are just replaceable, material possessions. Tell your DH today and share the problem with him, then you can concentrate on your other important issues. I'm sure he'd rather know, even if he's upset, so that he can help you to get over it.

Did you come home by taxi? Does your house insurance cover lost items?
Sometimes we think we are sure what we did with something, then they turn up in the weirdest place, usually when we stop looking for them.

I lost my wedding ring recently. I had taken it off and left it somewhere safe when I went for a run (it's a little too big for me so gets slippy on a cod day when my hands shrink). It was there when I came back. I re ran my run in case I had actually worn it and it fell off. I bought a cheap replacement online and fessed up to dh.

A week later I was tidying receipts from a side pocket of my handbag and there it was. There is no way I can think of that it got there.

I hope yours turns up soon.

I had s friend who lost her door keys. She usually kept themin a pocket in her handbag. She searched the bag thoroughly and her daughter searched it too. They tipped it upside down. She gave up and thought she must have lost themin town. The next time she went to use the bag she found the keys in the pocket. No idea why they didn’t find them in the first place. Search everything again

Thanks all. I'm pretty sure I dropped it in my bag and they've fallen out. Stupid. I've looked everywhere. Feel so dumb. I need to stop looking. Maybe once I've bought the really cheap replacements (not that mine were expensive but they obviously mean the world to me) I'll stop thinking about it.
Appreciate all your kind words, I really do. Xx

I've done the same. Husband bought me a beautiful broach of mixed stones. Absolutely love it. The following year he bought me the matching necklace which I love. Where the necklace is, I don't know. I haven't seen it since 2017. I have turned my bedroom upside down, gone through pockets, bags, moved furniture. I have a few theories.

1. I wore it and I dimly remember wearing it to work, which was surprising as it is more eveningly and poss the catch slipped

1. I had cancer in 2017. Did I wear it in a celebration to my last radio appointment, take it off and then lose it? I think this unlikely.

1. After finishing treatment, husband and I went away for a few days to a city and stayed in swanky hotel. Did I leave it there . I don't really think I took it with me though so unlikely.

1. I usually leave stuff on bedside chest of drawers. Had a workman in to do stuff to bathroom but had to nip out for 15 mins. Did I hide it in sock drawer ( likely but can't find it in there) or in a tissue or something and then it got accidentally chucked or is somehow still lurking somewhere even though have searched. Or workman took it (hopefully, unlikely and straw clutching).

It keeps bugging me and I miss it. It was so lovely and gave me joy. It's whittling away. Perhaps the cancer took it as a parting present?

This thread made me so sad. My lovely mum gave my husband her engagement ring from my dad when he told them he planned to propose. They're still together but she wears a wedding and eternity ring instead. I had grown up hearing the story of how they'd gone to Hatton Garden to choose the ring together when they had hardly any money to their name.

Three months after we got married, I left my rings in the shower in the gym for literally 3 minutes before I remembered and went back to get them and they were gone.

It was 6:30 in the morning so there really weren't many people there but I was in an awful panic and the receptionist told me that they could hardly accuse half a dozen people so I just left and went to work.

I have so many regrets that I didn't take action somehow (not even sure of what!) I still cry now when I think of it because that ring would have been such a lovely connection to my mum for the rest of my life and I feel that my total carelessness has taken that away from me. I'm not even an overly emotional person!

I didn't bother wearing any rings for nearly 6 years after that because no replacement could even be as special.

I got burgled in the summer, he only took small things that fitted in his pockets. But he took my pandora bracelet, it was a present from my children, and they've added charms over the years. It's was the only piece of jewelry I own. Ironically I didn't wear it everyday because I was worried id loose it. My wrist feels empty without it and I feel so sad that I will never get it back.

@Sadiesnakes can you claim on your insurance?

I've lost my engagement ring and DH lost my wedding ring. So we're even.
I had the engagement ring copied from a photo on the insurance and my wedding ring was really basic and I got the same one from the same chain.
But yes, it is upsetting.

my Dm lost her house keys, looked everywhere in the house, in handbags etc, she thought she had left them in the door and someone had taken them, and was worried so we got a locksmith in to change them, the following day they turned up in her handbag under the lining, and because they were in a little pouch we couldn’t hear them rattling around.
Don’t give up , try not to think about them , I know that’s difficult, but sometimes it works to not look for a couple of days and try again.

I am trying not to panic about a miniature painting of a beautiful young man, dressed in Italian renaissance style clothing that I wear as a necklace, and can’t find him anywhere, he was expensive and unusual, I used to hang him up beside my dressing table, but moved him because the sun might fade him.

We moved house when DD1 was 6 weeks old and I lost all the photo I had of her up to that point, (this was pre digital times). I was absolutely gutted. I got over it by sternly telling myself that I had a happy healthy DD1 and a few newborn photos are nothing in the scheme of things.

Fast forward 3 years and sorting out the Moses basket that had been stored away since we moved, ready for DD2, and there were the photos tucked under the mattress.

Never did get round to sorting out the baby album though.

Rings have a habit of turning up ime. My sister lost her wedding ring in her pils garden not long after she got married. They live in the country and it's a massive garden so try as she might she couldn't find it. About 25 years later her sil found it, just sitting in the flower bed. pity she was divorced by then
A few years ago on holiday after being at the beach with dh he realized that his wedding ring was gone. We went back to the beach the next day with very little hope of finding it, the beach is at least 3 miles long. We estimated where we had been sitting the day before, and within a minute we saw it glinting in the sand! Don't give up op, there is every chance you will find your rings.

I hope they turn up op when you least expect them

I’m still gutted about my aunts 1 carat diamond ring. She had dementia and gave it to my mother. My mother had dementia. She wore the ring a lot.
Then I noticed she wasn’t wearing it.
We turned her house upside down but never found it
Mum had to have a lot of carers beforre she went into a home
There was a lovely one I used to chat to on the phone .who mysteriously disappeared
I really hope she had nothing to do with the rings disappearance but the care agency were really cagey about her departure

It’s been several years now and her house has been sold
I just have to accept its loss.

‘10 years ago my elderly mum shared out the few meaningful possessions she had, amongst her nearest and dearest. She wanted to do it before, rather than after her death. I was given my grandmother’s wedding ring.

I was burgled shortly afterwards and it was stolen and never recovered. I have never been able to tell my mum this and when she passed away last year, I felt relief she would never know, followed by a deep sense of regret and anger at the toerags who took such an important link with her from me.

In the end though it’s the memories, not possessions that really matter although over the last few months I have sometimes had the weirdest sensation that there is a ring on my wedding ring finger when I haven’t worn any ring for 30 years.

I absolutely hate losing things.

I lost a ring that my parents had given me as a child. I remember giving it to DD to try on, and it was too big for her. I thought I'd put it back in my jewellery box but clearly hadn't. DD didn't leave my side so it's not like she could've put it down anywhere. I wouldn't have put it anywhere other than my jewellery box. I can only think it'd dropped on the floor and I've then hoovered it up. I occasionally feel really sad about it.

Doesn't have to be anything of value either, sentimental or otherwise. I get angry about losing silly things that don't really matter. I've been known to get up in the middle of the night to search for things!

I FOUND THEM!!! YES!!!!!!

They were on top of a perfume bottle-around the spray bit. Why the hell I put them there, I do not know!

It's been an awful, awful month. Got given notice at work, DH has taken a week off work due to stress, have had to go for a colposcopy and have had a month long virus. Maybe this is the start of things changing? Bloody hope so.

(Best go hide the three cheap replacement rings that I bought )

Good news! My daughter was on holiday in Sicily and took off her diamond necklace to have a massage on the beach . The necklace went missing. DD had spoken to the massage lady every day and did not want to believe she had taken it.
Two days later her toddler son was digging on the beach and uncovered her necklace . She was so lucky .

That's great news op!!!

Fantastic news.

This all reminds me of this incredible story! www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-tyne-44954476

So thrilled for you OP.. I know that feeling of utter relief so well!

Brilliant update OP!

My husband lost his watch i brought him for our engagement - it was thought to have accidentally been left in an hotel room after a drunken night years before so much upset we wasn't to talk about it he was sad as it was the nicest thing he had owned jn in his opinion and brought out of love. Queue 6 months later a new one was brought queue a year later tidying random shoes in the garage... His watch was found god knows how it got there but it found its way back to us eventually!!