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Just gave DS pancakes for dinner and the world didn’t end

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BasinHaircut · 05/03/2019 19:24

Been struggling a bit with my mental health recently. I am not diagnosed with anything but definitely something not right. I struggle massively with worrying about what ‘needs’ to be done.

DS (5) declared on the way home that he only wanted 4 pancakes and sugar for dinner. I really haven’t had a good day so decided to just give him what he wanted. Knew I couldn’t cope with the fallout from trying to make him eat dinner.

He had 3 pancakes and then asked for carrot sticks and some fruit. So that’s what he has had. I have had a relaxed evening so far, managed to prep DH and I’s dinner whilst DS was in the bath and sort tomorrow’s lunches. Hung the washing out and cleaned the kitchen floor quickly.

I know it’s not the answer to just feed DS pancakes from now on but by simply not worrying about him having a balanced meal tonight life feels better.

I don’t know why I’m writing this but felt like I needed to tell someone.

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Crikeyblimey · 05/03/2019 19:26

Well done. Shrove Tuesday is all about the pancakes. We have always ‘just’ had pancakes for tea and we’re all still alive.

You seem to have achieved way more than I have this evening, so good on you.

Hope the rest of your evening is relaxing and fab.

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 05/03/2019 19:26

Pick your battles, my daughter just wanted pancakes for tea so that's what she had also followed by a yoghurt, she was happy and be tears or kick offs at all. My son wanted pizza then pancakes so he had that also both happy and went to bed full, I'm now having a lounge on the sofa and they are asleep ! Win win tonight

TheChineseChicken · 05/03/2019 19:26

Good on you. I sometimes need to make myself remember not to sweat the small stuff

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Chasingsquirrels · 05/03/2019 19:27

My 13yo, 16yo and I had pancakes for tea, with variety of fillings - lemon & sugar, nutella & cream & raspberry sauce, banana & nutella & cream.

We frequently have pancakes for Saturday or Sunday lunch.

Milk, flour & eggs.

At least your ds asked for carrot sticks and fruit!

Hangingtrousers · 05/03/2019 19:28

My dd has had pancakes for every meal today... Plus one at school. She's had the best day ever apparently. 😂

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BasinHaircut · 05/03/2019 19:32

Thanks all! Thought I was going to be told to get a grip!

crikey I usually wouldn’t get all that done but I would have been fretting about DS’s tea and arguing with him instead and worrying about what time he went to sleep.

He is currently still up and waiting to come with me to pick daddy up from the station any minute now. Will go to bed when we get back. Bit late but I haven’t stressed about anything yet, dinner is practically done and nothing else to do tonight except flop in front of the telly.

Need some more nights like this. This morning my mood was so low I didn’t feel like I could move my face till about 11am

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bobbetybob · 05/03/2019 19:32

OP my eldest is autistic. I have a toddler and also struggle massively with my mental health. I did a parenting course for children with challenging behaviour where they taught me about parenting in baskets. It has changed my life hugely and what you wrote above is the essence of it. It has really helped with my child's behaviour (he's pushing back much less at the big stuff now) and has also helped me balance my mental health with my parenting responsibilities. I highly recommend it!

https://www.caregivervillage.ca/index.php/file/672/ThreeParentingg_Baskets.pdf

StrongerThanIThought76 · 05/03/2019 19:32

I'm fairly certain that eating anything other than pancakes today is illegal

bobbetybob · 05/03/2019 19:32

And I'm glad you had a good day :)

Gottalovesummer · 05/03/2019 19:33

Hi OP, that sounds brilliant and you've made your son very happy. (And achieved a lot more chores than me so far this evening)

In our house, pancakes are the main tea, I don't have time to make them AND another meal. Suspect it's the same for most of us.

Have a lovely evening x

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 05/03/2019 19:39

Well done! My dd had pancakes for breakfast and dinner and also had one in school GrinBlush

So 6 altogether mostly with sugar and lemon with a few strawberries and banana added for a healthy conscience!
I struggle with my dd too at dinner time so tbh I was really taking advantage of today Grin

Don’t be so hard on yourself

Undies1990 · 05/03/2019 19:45

Ah, well done OP, that's perfect for pancake day dinner! We never, ever have anything but pancakes for dinner on Shrove Tuesday - my DS (19] and DD (17) are still alive and well! Happy memories

Well done, make the most of those occasions and don't be so hard on yourself - you're doing a great job 💐

poppinpink · 05/03/2019 19:47

We just had pancakes too then a wee fruit salad. Couldn't be bothered thinking about what to make and they seemed happy with that and didn't want anything else later on so it's not like they are starving!! Sometimes you've just gotta give yourself a break!

Witchend · 05/03/2019 20:04

Only pancakes for us today.
Because we managed to over buy eggs by around 36 we're having the same tomorrow.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 05/03/2019 20:34

I know this is not AIBU, but YABVU, @BasinHaircut, because I haven’t got any pancakes, and there’s only me here, so it’s not worth making them and anyway I am on day 2 of trying to eat more healthily so I couldn’t have pancakes - but I want pancakes now!

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 05/03/2019 20:37

It's not midnight yet, still plenty of time for the world to end, and now we know who to blame. Grin (My DS is 14 and he only pretended to eat his dinner and then filled up on pancakes and more honey than Winnie the Pooh.)

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BasinHaircut · 05/03/2019 20:42

SDTG Grin sorry!

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KnitterOfSocks · 05/03/2019 20:49

I did not even know I was supposed to feel bad about only supplying pancakes for tea. My three children had three each with a variety of fillings including sugar, more sugar and some extra sugar for taste. They will survive...

Orangeday · 05/03/2019 20:52

Well done OP. Tonight was a win.

PinkHeart5914 · 05/03/2019 20:55

Pancakes are rather filling so a ok for a dinner imo and a few nights of simple dinners be it pancakes, pizza or jacket potatoe never hurt anyone

Upsy1981 · 05/03/2019 20:58

My mum always made us have something 'proper' first, just simple like beans on toast or soup. But I really can't be faffed with the battle for one day! In fact, DH has just got the pan on again for a second round of pancakes before DD goes to bed! (She is 12!)

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 05/03/2019 20:58

Take the win, OP, your brain deserves a rest.

Ace link @bobbetybob that’s so handy

SurgeHopper · 05/03/2019 20:59

It's fine. It really is.

Bluelonerose · 05/03/2019 21:04

I've eaten nothing but pancakes all day and dc have leftover pancakes for breakfast tomorrow. No guilt here Grin

Genderwitched · 05/03/2019 21:39

Oh yes, pancakes with sugar and lemon for those with taste, and pancakes with chocolate sauce for the others.

It's all I provide on Pancake day.

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