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My ex husband is scaring me

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Chickaletta16 · 27/02/2019 02:16

Hi all,

I feel so stupid as I let my ex h stay over for a few days whilst he sorted out somewhere to live. I have had enough. A few days has turned into weeks and tonight he has crossed all limits by seeking into.my bed.whilst I was asleep. I screamed at.him to bugger off into the spare room but he was shouting at me and banged the door shut so hard the whole house shook. I told.him to get out right now but he is refusing to leave. I have warned.him I will call the police but he is currently sulking in the spare room. I am sat here shaking like a leaf. I don't want to upset my parents by calling them as they are leaving for a holiday tmrw morning and I just want him out. I'm planning on calling the police if he doesn't leave the house (which is mine not his) tmrw morning but i need a handhold. I feel so stupid for letting him stay. He has been desperately trying to work his way back in and when he has realised it's not working has resorted to banging doors amd making me feel unsafe in my own home. Sad

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Chickaletta16 · 27/02/2019 02:17

The only reason i have not called the police now is that i dont want to wake the children and upset them.

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ColeHawlins · 27/02/2019 02:21

Call the police.

ColeHawlins · 27/02/2019 02:23

Your parents don't even need to know, do they? (Unless they live with you?)

You can reassure the children if they don't sleep through it and at least he'll be gone. The banging and yelling will wake and upset them anyway, eventually. As will the atmosphere in the morning.

Be brave Thanks

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VioletBedframe · 27/02/2019 02:25

That’s horrible. Call the police now. You have good reason to.

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Chickaletta16 · 27/02/2019 02:27

Thank you. I just wanted to avoid the drama of calling the police as I feel they will think I'm being a drama queen. I want him to leave tmrw I don't ever want to see him again.

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Dreamzcancometrue · 27/02/2019 02:29

Call the police and get peace of mind. He has no right to make you feel uncomfortable in your own home. Especially if there are kids about. Hope all works out!

Justagirlwholovesaboy · 27/02/2019 02:29

If there’s banging of doors so the house shakes surely the children will already be awake and upset? Tell him to leave now, if not call the police

ColeHawlins · 27/02/2019 02:29

They won't think you're a drama queen.

Aggressive/violent men are even more dangerous post-split than they are during a relationship.

If you do it now, you might get it all done and dusted before the children wake.

Janedoe5000 · 27/02/2019 02:31

Call the police.

Drama queen, children - stop making excuses.

Call the police.

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Chickaletta16 · 27/02/2019 02:33

Ok ladies thank you. I've just called them and my brother who works for.them.

Thanks.

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ColeHawlins · 27/02/2019 02:34

Well done. Can you make yourself a Brew while you wait? Or is he roaming around?

Seniorschoolmum · 27/02/2019 02:36

Op, you should call the police now. They won’t mind, they would far rather you and the dcs are safe.

Then change the locks tomorrow if he had a key.

Your home is your safe space. You shouldn’t have to put up with this. Flowers

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Chickaletta16 · 27/02/2019 02:38

He s roaming around so.im in bed where I feel safe. I'm changing the locks tmrw.

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willowmelangell · 27/02/2019 02:59

Is he saying anything? Or stomping about? Anything you can record on your phone as proof for when he back tracks?

VioletBedframe · 27/02/2019 03:14

Have the police arrived yet?

TheGreenEye · 27/02/2019 03:17

Police, all day long and every time.

NotTheFordType · 27/02/2019 03:27

Well done you. I know you're in bed but I'd suggest being fully clothed in case you need to flee. He sounds seriously unhinged.

Smotheroffive · 27/02/2019 03:34

Get dressed and ready, go downstairs and wait outside if need be, but do not be trapped in your house with him.

Tell him whatever you want but get outside and stay there hopefully he will come out and then you can shut the door and lock it!!

Smotheroffive · 27/02/2019 03:35

Are you OK OP? It was a long time ago you called them?

finnmcool · 27/02/2019 03:36

Any kindness or loyalty you felt towards him, delete it emotionally.
You have a predator in your home who won't hesitate to hurt you.
Shut down any human feelings you have towards him. He will not behave like a reasonable human being and you don't need to get stuck in his Web.
Stay strong OP, you've got support here.

Cherim90 · 27/02/2019 03:39

Hope you’re ok ❤️

RebootYourEngine · 27/02/2019 04:19

Hope you are ok. His behaviour is not on.

Shoxfordian · 27/02/2019 05:39

Hope you're ok

TheMaddHugger · 27/02/2019 06:31

Chickaletta16 Wed 27-Feb-19 02:27:35
Thank you. I just wanted to avoid the drama of calling the police as I feel they will think I'm being a drama queen. I want him to leave tmrw I don't ever want to see him again


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Chickaletta16 · 27/02/2019 07:53

Hi everybody thank you. The police arrived as did.my very mad brother. I could see he wanted to murder my ex. The police had a chat with us both I told them what was going on my ex h looked terrified.

They got him to pack his stuff and he did and then he left. I was so very stressed last night I can't tell you. I feel much better and have arranged for somebody to pop over and.change my locks. I can't tell u how scared I was last night.

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