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Are you still good friends with your university friends?

79 replies

Willowdenedixon · 25/02/2019 18:04

Wondering if I’m unusual in that I haven’t really kept in touch with anyone from my uni days nor did I ever have a big gang of mates when I was there?
Everyone else I knowseems to have met their closest friends during this time of their life who are all now their bridesmaids, children’s godmother, etc.
While I did plenty of socialising, most were friends for that particular time only, I knew them from different places, so they weren’t one big gang and I don’t really look back on these days as ‘the glory days’.
Anyone else?

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Bathbombs · 25/02/2019 20:09

Well I married one of them and 3 others are still my best friends even though we all live in different parts of the country.
Only really 1 from school although still have a few others on Facebook

WinterBerry7 · 25/02/2019 20:12

My friends are the same ones that I’ve had since 15. We’re all turning 30 now. Weddings, babies. Still going strong!

Lulutheboss · 25/02/2019 20:14

I keep in touch with three. One is godparent to my son and I am to hers. I lived at home during my uni days so kind of missed out on that whole lifestyle and making big groups of friends.

HaventGotAllDay · 25/02/2019 20:16

My closest friends in the whole world are my university friends. They're the ones who saw me grow up, really fall in love, cry and throw up after too much Soave, sleep with undesirables and desirables, and somehow helped me to form myself if that makes any sense.
One is the other side of the world, I'm in Italy, 2 are at opposite ends of the UK, one I haven't seen since Graduating Day in 1988.
But they're my best friends and always will be.
School friends not so much.

Rockbird · 25/02/2019 20:16

I didn't make one single friend at uni, in three years, not one. Actually tell a lie, I made one friend but she changed courses after a month and went elsewhere.

Gwynfluff · 25/02/2019 20:25

Still see 2 friends from uni from 26 years ago. Keep in loose contact with another 2. A mate from my postgrad studies, I see often. 2 mates from A-levels, I see loads of. Known bf for over 40 years

Farmerswifey12 · 25/02/2019 20:29

I didn't meet a large group or socialised a lot. I stayed at home as my uni was under an hour on the bus. I then fell pregnant in my 2nd year and though I continued uni I was also dealing with a young baby and my priorities changed.

There was a group of 5 of us. We've kept in touch a bit over the last few years on social media and about a once a year catch up. Go to each other's weddings, christenings etc.

That's about it though, life gets in the way

VoyageInTheDark · 25/02/2019 20:30

Don't speak to anyone from uni anymore but still close with my friends from school. I think it turns out I just had alcohol in common with my uni friends

Whatififall · 25/02/2019 20:36

Yes. Graduated in 2002 but the 6 girls I met at uni are still my go-to friends. Life and miles have got in the way a bit but we try for 1 meet up a year with partners and children and 1 just us. When we meet up it feels like no time at all has passed.

Like others though I am not in touch with anyone from school. And in my mid-late 20s I was definitely guilty of not making enough effort to make new friendships as I had my group so didn’t need more.

Snappedandfarted2019 · 25/02/2019 20:37

I was in several groups at university but I’m still very close with two girls from my nursing course.

dotdashdot · 25/02/2019 20:38

I'm the same, I have no friends from university. I enjoyed my time there but it definitely wasn't the best time of my life. I only made 2 friends at uni and I only kept in touch with 1 of those for about a year after we finished. I still have my best friend from school though.

Urbanvoltaire · 25/02/2019 20:39

Yes, in close contact with 1 whom I go on holiday with, we have kids similar ages now and we're like an extended family and she's a friend for life.

We also have another 2 mutual friends, one we still see when she's in the country ( she lives abroad), the other only once every few years.

PissOffPeppa · 25/02/2019 20:43

I met my best friend at uni. I have another friend who I very occasionally meet up with- maybe once every couple of years.

Other than that though, I don’t see any of them. I never really had a big group of friends though. Two girls who I lived with in my first year, then the best friend I mentioned and one other girl. Although I was friendly with everybody, I didn’t really socialise with anyone other than those four.

Charley50 · 25/02/2019 20:45

I'm Facebook friends with my uni friends and went to some of their weddings etc. but not close to any of them, although they were a lovely crew. I think some of them have stayed great friends with each other.

My school friends and a few others I met afterwards are my proper friends. We went through all the boyfriends, partying, drugs, holidays, life changes etc, together and I don't know what I'd do without them. Grin

RubyJack · 25/02/2019 20:46

One from university,none from school.

adiposegirl2 · 25/02/2019 20:49

I'm still good friends with my ladies from secondary school. Made no friends whilst at Uni. Have two close friends from the university of life.

Meet0nTheledge · 25/02/2019 20:53

Only one and we often go several years without any contact other than Christmas cards. We pick up where we left off when we do see each other though.

OTOH i have a very close set of friends from 6th form college, about 10 of us plus partners, we're in our 50s.

Gilead · 25/02/2019 21:03

I’m friends with four women from school and a few people from uni. My school pals and I are all 60!

anniehm · 25/02/2019 21:13

We still occasionally see each other but are spread across the country. Thinking of a 25th anniversary bash in the summer!

moodgold · 25/02/2019 21:18

No, I'm FB friends with one and I follow a few on Twitter, but very little direct contact with any of them. No friends from school days. I tend to change up my groups of friends when I move on to a different phase in life - so most of my friends now are the people who I see regularly and have a common, current interest with. But I don't feel particularly attached to them - I have a closer relationship with my siblings/parents.

Arowana · 25/02/2019 21:20

Still in contact with several uni friends, but none from school (except on FB).

ShadyLady53 · 25/02/2019 21:24

No one from university but I was a commuter. I did have nice enough friends on the course but we rarely met up socially. I had one very close friend on the same course who ghosted me shortly before graduation. We’d done everything together. Turns out that she’d failed the course and didn’t graduate. I was pretty gutted at being ghosted to be honest.

I’m in touch with 2 people out of 15 from my MA regularly and have about 5 others who I happily see now and again. The people I’m closest too now from that course are not the ones I was closest to at the time, if that makes sense.

MamaFlintstone · 25/02/2019 21:26

I’m only still friends with one person from university, we’re good friends but live in different cities so only see each other every few months. Still in touch with a few others on social media, but not really friends. My friends now (I’m 35) are mostly people I went to school with, a mum friend from maternity leave and a couple of work colleagues I picked up along the way.

Blessthekids · 25/02/2019 21:26

No. I lost touch with all of them over the years. One I still text with but she lives far away so never see her. Closest friends are from school, work and mum groups.

Dreamzcancometrue · 25/02/2019 21:30

Big fat NO!
Long story short. Some people only want ro be friends with you when they have no other options.

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