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Wedding with no photographer - would you judge?

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CalmDownPacino · 22/02/2019 11:25

As the title really....it's my wedding - only a small affair, second time around for both of us. Register office and then a party afterwards. We categorically can't afford a photographer so aren't having one. Would you be judging if you came?

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lilyboleyn · 22/02/2019 11:26

Wouldn’t judge. But I didn’t have a photographer (first wedding) and I regret it very much now.

QuirkyQuark · 22/02/2019 11:27

We never had a photographer. We just have family and friend snaps of ours. No one judged us as far as I'm aware.

LostInShoebiz · 22/02/2019 11:27

Wouldn’t judge anyone for that but would feel sad for them that they wouldn’t have good quality photos of the day.

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LostInShoebiz · 22/02/2019 11:28

If it were me I’d worry a family member would feel obliged to play photographer and not be able to enjoy the day as much.

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 22/02/2019 11:28

We had a registry office wedding, local park for pics with phones!
Back home for a meal!
No regrets.

Lwmommy · 22/02/2019 11:28

Not at all, then again i ran off to vegas to get married so may not be your target audience.

My experience as a wedding guest was that the photographer only really interacted with family and wedding party and that was done away from the guests.

If you have a family member or friend with a decentish digital camera and a good eye, ask them to take photos.

AmethystRaven · 22/02/2019 11:28

I probably wouldn't notice, or if I did be glad there wouldn't be a lot of standing around! Certainly no judging, you can do what you like. Your guests will likely get some lovely photos anyway.

Sparkletastic · 22/02/2019 11:28

We didn't have one. Friends took loads of snaps. Never regretted it. Only MIL judged us Hmm

QuirkyQuark · 22/02/2019 11:29

I should say I'm not overly sentimental and have never been bothered about not having professional pics even though we could've afforded them. I don't think I've ever even looked at our pictures and we've been married almost 10 years.

AlpacaPicnic · 22/02/2019 11:30

I had a similar wedding to you, 20 guests inc me and DH, register office. No photographer and no regrets! Everyone took photos but we didn't have anyone bossing us around into groups which felt nicer to me. We just have lots of organic shots.

Llongyfarchiadau · 22/02/2019 11:34

I wouldn't judge at all.

One of the two of you at the registry office would be nice. I'm sure that your guests will take a picture or two throughout the day. Perhaps you can ask them to share any nice ones with you?

Have a lovely day.

Mmmmbrekkie · 22/02/2019 11:35

Judging??? Judging?!
WTAF
No

AuntieStella · 22/02/2019 11:56

TBH, I don't think I wouid even notice if there was no photographer

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CalmDownPacino · 22/02/2019 12:03

Thanks all Smile

I am going to ask people to upload their 'phone photos to an app and I am also having disposable cameras on the tables at the party, which hopefully people will leave and not walk off with!

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DandilionBreak · 22/02/2019 12:06

No I wouldn't judge, in fact I'd be happy as a clam, not being made to pose for ages! I think the informal photos of a wedding are far more interesting and fun than the formal ones. Disposable cameras and asking people to send you their phone photos is a great idea.

Pavlova31 · 22/02/2019 12:08

Just a quiet registry wedding .No photographer as all arranged quickly .Lovely photos from Guests and even a couple taken by the Registrar! Judged ? Not at all

dudsville · 22/02/2019 12:12

I wouldn't notice it. I always think the presence of a photographer is out of sync with the day.

Witchend · 22/02/2019 12:21

I doubt I would even notice.

Lungelady · 22/02/2019 12:23

Two weddings here and no photographer. Or cake.
Second wedding just the 2 of us...we have great photos just from passers by!

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 22/02/2019 12:24

I don't think I'd notice, and I certainly wouldn't judge. The only thing I might judge at a wedding is the bride and groom having a fistfight. Try and avoid that and I reckon you're fine.

Rumboogie · 22/02/2019 12:28

Wouldn't judje at all. But do try and get a friend to take some nice posed photos of you both (plus family). In years to come I'm sure you will want these.

Leeds2 · 22/02/2019 12:36

I very much doubt that I would notice. And, if I did, I certainly wouldn't judge you negatively. In the unlikely event that I ever get married, I would do exactly the same.

Parker231 · 22/02/2019 12:39

I wouldn’t think twice about it and photos from phones are so good these days you will still have lovely photos from your special days. Often random snaps are better and more meaningful than the horrendous posed photos.

MrsJayy · 22/02/2019 12:40

I would firstly not noticed and then if it was mentioned I would be relieved I am weird though i find wedding photographers really intrusive

Jamhandprints · 22/02/2019 12:40

Who would care?! The phone app uploading is a great idea. We had disposable cameras on our tables 7 years ago but never got them developed because it's really hard and expensive to get them developed!

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