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Ds 16 is having an operation tomorrow and wanted to ask some questions

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bizzey · 17/02/2019 14:48

Ds 16yrs is having an operation tomorrow but do not want to say what it is as advance search on this subject has brought up allot of "opions "

He has agreed to this opp due to being very "uncomforable" with the situation .
Has anyone been in this situatipn befor and apart from lots of pain killers ... any othr advice

Thank you

OP posts:
Kittykat93 · 17/02/2019 14:49

Sorry I've read your post through twice but can't quite understand what you're asking

Original poster
bizzey · 17/02/2019 14:50

Humm just re read ..." down below " situation

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PrawnOfCreation · 17/02/2019 14:50

Is there an operation to give psychic powers?

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Acopyofacopy · 17/02/2019 14:52

If you want an answer you need to ask an actual question!

Kittykat93 · 17/02/2019 14:53

Sorry I still don't understand - what is a down below situation??

IncrediblySadToo · 17/02/2019 14:53

What situation?

Your post makes no sense, at all.

It reads like you’re vaguing to get people guessing about some trans issue tbh.

mogtheexcellent · 17/02/2019 14:53

If its a circumcision (sp?) then DH had it at 10 due to discomfort. I cant say Ive ever really thought about it. DH doesnt notice the difference.

If it will make his life easier then surely its a good thing?

FadedRed · 17/02/2019 14:54

So you are asking for alternatives to circumcision? There are ways of stretching the foreskin, but if your DS is getting repeated pain/ balanitis, then it is likely that surgery will become inevitable.

FortyFacedFuckers · 17/02/2019 14:54

My DP had it done when he was a few years youngest than your DS and he can’t remember it so couldn’t have been too traumatic for him! Good luck to your DS

bumblingbovine49 · 17/02/2019 14:55

I imagine it is more something like circumcision than a trans operation though I suppose I could be wrong. Op noone can help with your question being so vague

Kittykat93 · 17/02/2019 14:57

Jesus if it's circumcision why not just say the word?? It's not rude or dirty op!! Threads like this piss me off are we adults or 5 year olds

Original poster
bizzey · 17/02/2019 14:58

Sorry ..you are right..it makes no sense at all ...but it did in my head !

Yes ..circumsion..but is it / does it hurt
more as he is older.
Younhet brother had it at 11 yrs ..
Sorry

OP posts:
tobee · 17/02/2019 14:59

I think people are anti circumcision when it's on a non consenting baby? Not a 16 year old who is in discomfort?

cornflakes5 · 17/02/2019 14:59

It's likely that the OP doesn't speak English as their first language.

mogtheexcellent · 17/02/2019 15:04

If it helps my DH was living in an African country as his family had moved for work. He had to go in with all the babies as usually done to younger children and ended up sleeping in a large cot . I am imagining your DS will have a much easier time of it.

And it is nothing to be embarrased about.

mogtheexcellent · 17/02/2019 15:05

And he does not remember any pain so can't have hurt much. Plus thats what painkillers are for...

EverybodysTalkingAtMe · 17/02/2019 15:08

I hope this is a necessary op and not for religious reasons

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bizzey · 17/02/2019 15:12

Right lets start again ...

  1. ENGLISH is my first language (just not typing what i want to say )
  2. have any of you had a 16 year old gone througj a circumcision...and can you give me any help/ hints to help hom next week .
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PeterPiperPickedWrong · 17/02/2019 15:18

It isn’t going to hurt more because he is older, he will just remember it more than a small child would.
DH had one at 13, it was sore for a few days. Very sore. Keep him topped up with painkillers, he will get over it.

You said
Younhet brother had it at 11 yrs
so presumably you have already looked after his sibling after his op, your 16 year old isn’t going to be any different.

PrawnOfCreation · 17/02/2019 15:18

Start by asking your Son if he wants your support or if he feels able to ask questions about and deal with his own aftercare.

Given you can't say circumcision or penis on an anonymous forum I can't imagine what the conversation would be like. Hand puppets, euphemisms and about as much fun as playing cards against humanity with your Catholic great granny.

FadedRed · 17/02/2019 15:32

Sitting in a warm bath.
Regular pain meds, alternating overlapping paracetamol and ibuprofen.
Ask for a local anaesthetic cream, though use this sparingly strictly adhering to the instruction leaflet.
Non adherent dressing loosely around the suture line. Cling film loosely when the wound dries, to prevent his pants rubbing. Tightish supporting pants - briefs not boxers.

Original poster
bizzey · 17/02/2019 15:35

@PrawnOfCreation...what has his Catholic granny got to do with it .
I avoided words in my post so i would not be called a troll.

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EleanorLavish · 17/02/2019 15:43

OP was reluctant to mention circumcision as it can be a volatile subject (genital mutilation etc.)
Obviously this is a different scenario and OP is wondering if anyone who has been through it could give her some tips.
I haven't been through this OP, but am a nurse.
Ask for and take regular pain relief for the first few days, whether sore or not.
Good luck!

LostInShoebiz · 17/02/2019 16:47

Are questions not best directed to doctors and nurses he will see tomorrow? Make sure you’re a bit less coy with them so they have a fig what you’re actually trying to say.

steppemum · 17/02/2019 16:53

OK, yes circumcision hurts.

I used to live in a country where the boys were all circumcised at around 10 years old (I think , maybe older)
It was a big deal, big party etc. But it was no secret that it hurt and took a while to recover.

If he is uncomfortable/in pain, and needs it done to relieve the tighness of the foreskin, then any opinions over the rights and wrongs are irrelevant, he is doing it for medical reasons.

I can't see any difference between 11 and 16 though