My baby doesn't tell me when his nappy needs changing

[Notthisoneagain]

I check every couple of hours so he's not left with a dirty nappy on but through the night if he doesn't wake for a feed sometimes I'm sure he's sat in a dirty nappy for a few hours and it makes me feel really guilty.
I use barrier cream so his bum doesn't get sore. He's only 4 weeks old, I always thought babies cried when their nappy is wet?

Anyone's baby do this too?

No, babies don't care. He'll only start making a fuss if he gets nappy rash.

Some babies complain about a wet nappy, some don't. If he isn't dirty and isn't soaking through his clothes, there's no real need to change overnight.

Yeah, IME babies quite like the warm, comfortable, squishy feeling of poo up their back. It's only when the nappy comes off that they scream their discontent.

You say you're checking regularly so it's fine. It won't be sitting there long enough to cause much irritation. Wait til he's weaning.

Baby milk poo is lovely in comparison to sticky, stinky, weaning food poo. Make the most of it while you can.

Neither of my babies cared if their nappies were wet/dirty. I was recently looking after a friend's baby who cried every time her nappy needed changing; the first time it happened I didn't even think to check her nappy and it took me ages to work out what the problem was. I hadn't realised some babies do actually notice this stuff .

No mine never has, she’s now nearly 2 and will often tell me when her nappy is dirty but I’m not sure it actually bothers her

I read somewhere that they cant poo on their sleep, so as long as you are checking at the end of every feed in the night you're fine

P.s. I have found that the least disruptive way if checking is using my finger. Sorry.

DD would never cry if she had a dirty nappy and it didn't smell either much so we had to keep checking her nappy.

I just changed at every feed or if they smelled or felt wet. Mine used to go through their nappies through to their clothes so it was obvious for me.

Mine never gave a shit about sleeping in their own shit. If i could tell by the smell of course I changed them, but I wasn't about to disturb their sleep by checking.

I used Vaseline on their bums. A midwife recommended it and it's a proper barrier. Nothing is getting through Vaseline. They never got nappy rash at all.

I think nappies are so good these days that they don’t feel much.

None of mine cared if their nappy needed changing.

Oh and the midwives also told me never to change a nappy that's just wet during the night. Modern nappies are so absorbent that they just expand and expand and wick away moisture from the skin. Especially those Pampers ones with the 3 channels. And if you use "+" ones. They can pee all night and not be bothered by it.

Most bakes don't notice or care. I made the mistake with dc1 of changing his nappy in the night every time he woke for a feed, even if only wet. Don't do that, unless it's full, bulging or leaking!

Mine didn’t ever care about being in a wet or dirty nappy.
But I don’t think they really notice it’s wet, either because the nappies are good at absorbing the moisture or because they just don’t clock the feeling of being wet

My 5 month old has never cried to let me know his nappy is dirty. I just always made sure to change nappies regularly. To be fair, he made it quite easy to spot the poos as he always seemed to have one during a feed - often the first feed of the day. We haven’t changed his nappy at night for ages as it just wakes him up and makes him hard to settle and in the right nappy he doesn’t leak - although, he generally doesn’t poo at overnight and I change him if he does.

I used to worry about this too, DS never bothered so I just changed him after feeds (he was naturally a 3 hourly feeder) and checked if he was being whiney.

DD however, she would scream the second her nappy was wet! We ended up changing to cloth because we were going through so many disposables, turns out she had a skin sensitivity to ammonia and had never ending rashes and thrush until she toilet trained

Ha babies don't give a shit. I think mine might be getting somewhat conscious of his dirty nappies now at 5 months but I still don't think he cares much. I still feel very guilty when I miss them but there's no reason to. When he's awake, check/change regularly. When he's asleep, let him sleep unless you can actually tell he's pooped.

Mine never bothered. You just need to go by the smell, or ehrm, weight .

I agree, most don't care. Mine did and would wake up and scream whenever she'd done a wee. When she was about 5 months I asked my MN antenatal group (60-odd people) about it and they all fell about laughing in shock at the amount of money we must be spending on nappies. Unfortunately, we tried leaving her wet and she really wouldn't let us! But she was the only baby in that group who minded.

2 of mine didn't care, one of mine hated it and would wriggle furiously until changed.

Mine only cried if there was poo. They’ve never cried about a wet nappy - I was told by a midwife that a lot of babies don’t cry when it’s just wet because nappies are so absorpant it doesn’t even feel wet until it’s totally saturated, just warm! And a lot of babies like the warm feeling

You don't need to change a nappy during the night unless there's poo or theyre really full, don't worry.

Mine care - you get through stupid numbers of nappies if they do. DD wouldn't poo in a wet nappy so would fuss massively, get changed, do part of a poo, get hysterical again, then finish after part 2. Wouldn't sleep with the tiniest amount of wee in a disposable and once mobile would remove a pooey nappy if left more than about 30 seconds (like if I had gone to pre myself).

DS will at least poo in a wet nappy and will wait to "finish" a poo or a feed before being changed. Neither had nappy rash issues despite sensitive skin and DD potty trained with basically no accidents at 2.8

Neither of mine were bothered either. I felt really bad when my second spent the night in a dirty nappy, I could smell something, but didn't remember that's what new baby poo smells like... we both survived.

Dd isn’t bothered by dirty nappies but it’s quite obvious if she does a poo as it involves 10 minutes of grunting and staring into space. Then I can smell it.