My baby doesn't tell me when his nappy needs changing

[Notthisoneagain]

I check every couple of hours so he's not left with a dirty nappy on but through the night if he doesn't wake for a feed sometimes I'm sure he's sat in a dirty nappy for a few hours and it makes me feel really guilty.
I use barrier cream so his bum doesn't get sore. He's only 4 weeks old, I always thought babies cried when their nappy is wet?

Anyone's baby do this too?

Mine never noticed - I don't think they even cared once they were old enough to be toilet trained! It was always the smell that alerted us.

Having said that, neither of mine pooed at night once they'd figured out what night was (so about the age of yours I'd say - although it's all a bit foggy!), so I doubt your little one is sleeping in poop - plus, you'd be able to tell - poo that's been in a nappy for a while is thoroughly dessicated by the nappy, and almost as bad to get off as meconium!

I don't ever remember changing a nappy during a night feed and I didn't automatically do it on a feed during the day, only ever if it was needed otherwise it's a waste of nappies isn't it?

Oh, god, yes, @randomsabreuse - the refusal to poo in a wet nappy! Why?! Why are our babies broken?

DD is nearly 2 now and weirdly a bit less of a drama queen about wee, but it's driving me nuts as well-meaning people keep pointing out she comes and tells me she's done a wee or a poo and that's a sign she's ready to toilet train. And it bloody isn't. She's been doing that since she was a few months old. I can remember her piteously dragging herself from me to my DP and back again when we both had filthy colds, because she was trying to tell us she'd pooed and we didn't know because we couldn't smell it.

I think most aren't bothered. Also 4 week old babies nappies are pretty much always wet as they wee every few minutes. So don't think of it as changing after he wets it, more like changing it when the volume of liquid has built up enough.

My son is one now and had never cried for his nappy to be changed, pretty sure it could be so heavy it'd be hanging on the floor and he wouldn't care.

If you look up Priscilla Dunstan on Youtube, she has a few videos "decoding" newborn cries.
All newborns have 5 standard cries for various needs, all based on innate reflexes.
I have found the videos really informative, and have improved my ability to understand what my baby needs.

My DS is 2 1/2 and still won't bloody tell me when he's done a poo!
He's very verbal but just doesn't care, complete denial, drives me crazy.
Potty training is going to be fun... 🤦🏻‍♀️

Why would he tell you?

My DS is 2 1/2 and still won't bloody tell me when he's done a poo!

Our 9yo (ASD/SLD) still doesn't tell us

My DD never cared about dirty nappies unless she had nappy rash. I just used to change her every 3 hours or so during the day.

Ds hated his nappy being wet or dirty. The instant calm after his nappy was done was great.

Dd isn't bothered at all. All she does is make a poo face as she's producing it and then Carry's on doing what she was doing (feed/sleep)

if you think thats bad just wait my daughter at 18 months i had to put a back to front sleepsuit on.She would play with her poo and smear it on the cot.

It can be really hard when you wake up to find they have a dirty nappy but babys unfortunately sometimes just sleep through .There's nothing to feel guilty about all we can do as parents is give them a bath if they been sitting in it for a wile,dry,put some cream and a fresh nappy.As long as you cared enough when you found them like this to do that then you have nothing to feel guilty about

I’d be more surprised at that each if they were communicating that they needed changing!
My third baby is now 5 weeks. I know when he poos as he grunts/strains and then there’s an explosion (he’s very windy). Otherwise I’d have no idea unless I checked.

I’m another one who’s DCs wouldn’t poo in a wet nappy what’s all that about?!!
Change a wet one for them to immediately shit in a clean one Very odd. Both of them did it though!