Did anyone else give their DC a valentines card?

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I remember as a kid (about 5ish) getting a card, a box of dominoes and some after eights off my Mum's boyfriend at the time.

Always wondered if this was a thing.

I got DS (aged 4) a valentines card and simply put inside "You're my little Prince. I love you more than the plant earth (something he says to me) Love Mummy"

I obviously got DH a card.

Am I odd?

My mum always got us a card and something like a chocolate lolly or heart shaped chocolates. As far as I know she’s not a pervert. She wished me a happy Valentine’s Day when I spoke to her this morning as well.

Haventgotallday your assumption is wrong! I wouldn't dream of dressing children in clothing with inappropriate slogans but think it's fine to broaden the scope of St Valentine's day traditions and bake your child chocolate buns with heart shaped icing as I have today or send them a card from the dog. It's a sign of affection and a bit of fun (a bit like pancake day or similar) and personally I think it's a bit wierd if you can only frame it exclusively in terms of romantic love and sex.

No, never. I think I made heart shaped biscuits with the DDs one year, then I lost the pastry cutter and never bothered after that

DP is her stepdad btw, and I have no issue with him giving her some chocolates, even if he hadn't have been railroaded into it. If he took her to dinner and bought her a dozen red roses, that would be weird and inappropriate obviously, but I can't get worked up over a box of chocs.

I never have, always found it really weird . Until this year I've just gone and bought my daughter a card, chocolates and
a bunch of roses secretly for myself. I only done it as I noticed on Facebook this morning a lot of the parents from her class had so I didn't want her to feel left out. I've probably been a mug but at least I have some nice roses to brighten up the room and can steal some of her chocolates since she always steals mine

Unfortunate cross post with expatinspain. Promise I'm not a creep I just really wanted the roses

I know lots of people do it but I find it very creepy. Valentine's day is about romantic love not family love and the two are quite separate.
What kind of message are you sending to your children if you are sending them Valentine's cards so they have one on the day? Something along the lines of "I know no-one else loves you so here's a card from your Mum"?
And what is the thought process behind sending anonymous ones to your children? That's trying to make them think someone fancies them and makes them start to think about themselves in sexual terms. If they don't have a clue who it's from, it could make them very uneasy and unsettling.

Telling your children you love them is right but not with a card meant for "grown up" relationships. That's just my opinion.

When younger yes but not at secondary school. Instead I bake something heart shaped & send heart shaped gifs on whatsapp 💕😄

Husband and I don't celebrate! 😂

My dad did this once when I was about 15/16 It was obviously him as his writing but signed 'from a secret admirer'. It just seemed like a horrible piss take, I was going through a bit of heartbreak at the time and a part of me had dared to hope... So no I would never do this too a child. It isn't cool, they have their own lives and you don't know how they will take it.

The odd thing is he has never bought me anything, not a bday/Christmas gift ect.. ever (mum did all that). So i really don't know why he did it. Maybe he had good intentions and it just backfired :/

No cards, but I give them heart shaped chocs and another small treat, plus bought dd a cute little lip balm. She asked if I was buying her a teddy for V day, but I didn't particularly want to add to the 4,000 she already seems to have .

I think it's sweet, and I will definitely give dd a silly card when she's a moody teenager!

Valentine's Day here in Finland is Friends' Day so not just about romantic love but love for anyone you care about it so thinking about it maybe it would have been nice to give my kids cards but I completely forgot it was today until last night. DD made me a card though.

Haha pivot. I don't think you're a creep at all.

I wouldn’t as it is a romantic holiday, but others can do what they want and I wouldn’t judge them

Out of order lightofday

I bought cream cakes for later. DS1 asked why I bought them ( I rarely buy cakes) so I told him they were a Valentine's day treat. He then saw the label and said "oh... I see you love me so much you bought me a reduced cake"

God no.
There is no way I would introduce another thing to remember or do!

It is a celebration of romance, so doesn’t apply, but understand that others might like to do it for fun and why not ❤️

DH does for our 2 girls and it’s sweet. He buys them each a card and a teddy and some heart shaped choccies and they love it. The cards tell them how much they are loved.

I find buy a valentine card for anyone.
I'd never have dreamt about doing it for the kids.

I've got DS one which says 'From the Cat' on the front, she's also bought him a chocolate orange.

I don't, because I associate Valentine's Day with romantic love. But it would be wilfully obtuse and offensive to assume anyone who does is a 'pervert'.

I'm 25 and my dad has always gotten me and my two younger sisters a teddy and a chocolate with an "anonymous" card - it's really lovely/cheesy and I'll probably do it with my kids too

I wouldn't send cards as I feel that's for my dp and I to give each other. I really like the idea of a chocolate lolly or balloon though.

I got one for my DP's DD, signed it '?' and posted through letter box. She was saying last night that she really reeeeally she gets one so I thought it might be nice! She's a smart cookie though so will probably work out its from me