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Please help understand illegible writing my dad made on his deathbed .

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kerstina · 10/02/2019 21:17

If I posted the photos of diary entries can you help me . I have worked some of it out . Mom originally thought he took to his bed after lifting something heavy but it looks like he coughed up blood and had pain in his back .

Please help understand illegible writing my dad made on his deathbed .
Please help understand illegible writing my dad made on his deathbed .
Please help understand illegible writing my dad made on his deathbed .
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kerstina · 11/02/2019 14:49

I agree about farewell it didn't seem right for funeral not something I think he would have said . Definitely his writing is all in CAPITALs

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Redskyandrainbows67 · 11/02/2019 17:54

I think it’s ‘finding many’ last sentance on first pic because there is a distinctive d in there

Redskyandrainbows67 · 11/02/2019 17:55

Finding many ills of late?

kerstina · 11/02/2019 18:34

Thank you I am going to write it all out what it could be so far . Lots to think about comforting and heartbreaking at same time .

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Redskyandrainbows67 · 11/02/2019 19:58

Disease rather than disagreed?

I get you wanting to know - I would too

JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 11/02/2019 20:11

3rd picture I can make out
“Thinking about”
And “good times”
But I can’t make out anything else

kerstina · 11/02/2019 21:29

Pic 3
I Am THINKING ABOUT BORTh GOOD TIMES ON FAREWELL
( I keep looking at the ABOUT wondering if it could be my name ALISON but don't think it is )

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kerstina · 11/02/2019 21:31

We had lots of happy memories of being at our caravan in Borth so that would make sense

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Redskyandrainbows67 · 11/02/2019 22:33

Definately it’s about not Alison sorry as it’s AB
I think it’s BR too so Brian would make more sense
Could be good times though - it’s definately good.

Redskyandrainbows67 · 11/02/2019 22:36

It’s definstely ‘good’ (tears?) ‘on’ - look at the o’s - the same in on as in good

kerstina · 11/02/2019 22:54

It may say brother ? He was close to brother rather than Borth or Brian . I will look at the diary again when next at moms as ithe photo might have cut word short

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Redskyandrainbows67 · 11/02/2019 23:01

Your mum would be the best person to help read it

kerstina · 11/02/2019 23:15

I Don't want to upset mom . I did look at it with her she has memory loss and she didn't seem that interested . I think she might be if it has a message for her though

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kerstina · 12/02/2019 14:31

Thanks so much it has really helped to try and make sense this is what I have so far for pic 2
FELT REALLY ROUGH COUGHING UP BLOoD KEEPING TO BLAND FOOD CORNFLAKES. A LITTLE APPLE AND ICECrEAM. DOT LOOKING AFTER ME
LOOK AFTER HER. FOR MY LAST WISHES HERS

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unicornsrule · 12/02/2019 15:52

summer starts today I had coffee and cornflakes with lots of milk for breakfast

coughing up blood doesn't look good

SingaporeSlinky · 13/02/2019 09:49

I don’t think it’s BLAND, as the first letter doesn’t look like his other Bs, I think it’s L and the big circle in the middle like a Q so i think it’s LIQUID.
And I don’t see LOOK AFTER HER either at all in the last line of pic 2.

Could it be DECEMBER in the bottom line?

DontCallMeCharlotte · 13/02/2019 10:01

OP, I'm sorry about your Dad and this must have re-opened the wound.

But from a practical point of view, surely the cause of death was on the Death Certificate? Also, as his death was relatively sudden/unexpected, did they not do a Post Mortem?

I hope you get it solved and I like to think he's happily reminiscing about good times at Borth Smile

kerstina · 13/02/2019 17:10

The cause of death on certificate was the coronary heart attack he had along with multi organ failure .
I was not aware he was coughing up blood until I read the diary as as far as I knew he had taken to bed after lifting something heavy and hurting his back . Dr had visited him st home prescribed antibiotics.
He was in bed for at least a month prior to his admission to A and E .
I wished I had intervened earlier as does my Uncle but at the time I was respecting my dad's wishes . I also felt like he was giving up on life to some extent or thinking he was ill as he suffered with his mental health .As I had mentioned mom is very forgetful and I think or he may not have told her everything at the time.

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kerstina · 13/02/2019 17:11

He had heart attack in hospital

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