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Reborn babies

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Fortknockers · 09/02/2019 22:07

Have a massive yearning to purchase a reborn baby but wondering how to manage potential piss taking / accusations of weirdness or mid life crisis jokes. I know on an intellectual level that I should say bollocks it's my money and my life but am wondering genuinely what people think about women with reborn babies?

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MiceSqueakCatsMeow · 09/02/2019 22:25

There must be lots of people who have them. I think get one. But don't tell your dds that he is your longed for boy.

nocoolnamesleft · 09/02/2019 22:32

I find them very creepy. They look just like a freshly dead baby. The first time I saw one, I actually grabbed them to start CPR, before realising.

BrizzleMint · 09/02/2019 22:43

There was a programme on TV some time ago now about women who collect them, you might be able to find it somewhere.

It's weird to buy one because you wanted a boy and didn't have one. Celebrate your lovely daughters instead and forget about trying to buy a boy would be my view.

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Fortknockers · 09/02/2019 22:45

Pls don't misunderstand. I absolutely love my dds. I just always imagined having a son.

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Fiddie · 09/02/2019 22:47

You do you, OP.

BrizzleMint · 09/02/2019 22:48

I'm sure you do love them but having a reborn doll isn't going to be a son. What happens when the son you would have had would be a toddler, school child and young adult?

Have you thought about counselling to help you instead? Without meaning to be horrible, I do think you'd be better off with counselling to help you come to terms without having a son. I'd always imagined having more children than I was able to have and considered counselling for a while.

silkpyjamasallday · 09/02/2019 22:48

You can't hide it at work!! Imagine if a cleaner found it. Or it fell out of a cupboard when someone was in the room. I think it's fine to have one at home but don't take it out with you, especially not to work. People do think they are weird, and people will think you're mentally ill.

whereisthepostman · 09/02/2019 22:48

I don't think it's healthy really. It encourages you to moon over the thoughts of a lovely placid perfect baby. In reality it would be puking and shitting over you and crying in your ear at 2am. It's like those people who get sucked into fantasy relationships online. No one would ever think it's good for someone to get sucked into a pretendy life and forget about their real one.

PCohle · 09/02/2019 22:54

I would think it was a bit worrying to be honest OP.

Losing yourself in a dream world with a perfect imaginary baby son rather than engaging with the life you do have doesn't strike me as particularly healthy.

I'm genuinely not being facetious but what about a pet?

I mean I'd have enormous sympathy for someone who wanted one of these dolls because of a loss etc, but it would make me concerned about how they were coping with their grief.

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Fortknockers · 09/02/2019 22:59

I hadn't really thought of it like that @PCohle I have had a pretty tough last few years with lots to come to terms with. I guess this does represent a fantasy which is removed from my current reality. I'm under a lot of pressure at the moment and there's lots of big changes happening in my life. Perhaps that's why?
Sadly a pet isn't practical

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Letthemysterybe · 09/02/2019 23:10

I would worry about any friend that did this, and I am concerned for you tbh. You sound like you need a break. I think it might be more healthy to find some other solution.

Singlenotsingle · 09/02/2019 23:44

Well if you've got a few hundred pounds to spare... Shock

explodingkitten · 10/02/2019 00:04

I thought about buying one after a couple of years of unsuccesful fertility treatments and miscarriages. Something held me back... maybe because I do think it's a bit weird and I couldn't explain it to someone else (likd DH). Having one did sound a bit soothing to me at the time.

nos123 · 10/02/2019 00:23

I don’t see the problem and I wouldn’t judge. Yearning to care for an infant can be very natural- sometimes a doll can provide relief

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Fortknockers · 11/02/2019 16:26

Thanks all for your comments. I am thinking that I will go ahead as although I can appreciate being unnerved and in some cases repulsed by reborns, this is not how looking at a reborn makes me feels. Like a previous poster said - I wouldn't be hurting anyone and may (at worst) be perceived as a bit odd which I'm kinda ok with Grin.

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AngelaStorm73 · 11/02/2019 16:36

I wouldn't but to each their own

Knittedfairies · 11/02/2019 16:52

I would be concerned if a friend bought one, and would ask them to explore other options before buying one (maybe counselling?) I'm wondering how your daughters would react to it if they knew it was filling a perceived gap in your life.

Hedgehogblues · 11/02/2019 16:57

My mother had one. She treated it a lot better than she treated her actual adopted children which was quite painful

PCohle · 11/02/2019 20:51

How old are your DDs? Are they old enough to pick up on it as Hedgehogs suggests and find it hurtful? I suppose if they are young enough they will take it in their stride that mum has a doll just like they do.

Whilst I agree it is totally your business if you want to do something "odd", I would reflect on how they might affect your actual children now and in the future. I'm really sorry you've been having a tough time and it seem to me this is a bit of a sign you're aren't necessarily coping with the pressure. Have you considered discussing how you feel with someone like a GP?

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Fortknockers · 14/02/2019 09:13

@PCohle @Hedgehogblues these are fair points and yes I am already on anti depressants for ongoing family issues.

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blueskiesovertheforest · 14/02/2019 09:19

Fortknockers I think you can work out whether you yourself think it's healthy by being honest with yourself about exactly what you plan to do with it:

Will you hide it from your daughters?

blueskiesovertheforest · 14/02/2019 09:23

Its not strangers and acquaintances thinking that you're a bit weird that matters, it's whether it's going to send an unintended message to your existing children and be good or bad for your mental health.

How far are you intending to go with treating it as a baby and how far are you going to treat it as a doll - do you imagine you'll leave it in its box for a couple of weeks sometimes, or do you imagine buying it a car seat?

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 14/02/2019 10:25

They use them in my DMs care home (dementia specialism). They are much loved and very well cared for.

blueskiesovertheforest · 14/02/2019 10:34

Myimaginarycathasfleas they sound ideal for some dementia sufferers - especially people who have always been "useful" and still desperately need to be caring for someone - but that's quite different to the OP if she's still got young children.

I think it's a bit worrying that the title refers to reborn baby not doll.... How far into escapism should someone presumably still caring for dependent children deliberately choose to go?

blueskiesovertheforest · 14/02/2019 10:37

Just properly registered the plan to hide it in your office and get it out when nobody's looking...

This is going to go badly OP...

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