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Original poster

If you ask for charity donations for your birthday, would you expect a gift to open as well?

33 replies

00100001 · 07/02/2019 18:06

Or is the gift the donation?

OP posts:
ApolloandDaphne · 07/02/2019 18:08

The donation is the gift. The birthday person does not want any actual gifts.

DeRigueurMortis · 07/02/2019 18:10

Simply put - no.

You can't expect someone to make a donation on your behalf then get a gift as well.

A card however should still be sent and if someone bought a token gift (eg a small box of chocolates) if would be very much appreciated but by no means expected.

FairyMoppings · 07/02/2019 18:11

No. The donation was asked for in place of the gift. Can't have both.

SlinkyDinkyDoo · 07/02/2019 18:12

No.

Omzlas · 07/02/2019 18:19

The gift is the donation....... you can't have your cake and eat it

BBInGinDrinking · 07/02/2019 18:20

No. DeRig has it covered.

I always really appreciate a nice card, especially if it's obviously been chosen with me in mind.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 07/02/2019 18:30

No.
There was a thread on here last week where the OP suggested donations, then was a bit peeved when her friend gave a donation but didn't get her a physical gift too

NorthEndGal · 07/02/2019 18:34

If you ask for a donation, that is the gift. It's nice to get a card too, but not really a big deal

GummyGoddess · 07/02/2019 18:37

Nope, if someone was asked what they wanted and they said a charity donation then that's what they get.

Leeds2 · 07/02/2019 18:56

Absolutely not.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 07/02/2019 18:57

No. A gift as well would be two bites at the cherry Grin

MikeUniformMike · 07/02/2019 18:57

No. Giving a charity donation instead of a present if not requested to do so is taking the mickey.

Fireinthegrate · 07/02/2019 19:12

You shouldn’t expect both
My dad just had a big birthday and we had a party. He asked for donations to a charity that helps my mum. We got £400 and he got lots of cards and one box of chocs.

OhHolyJesus · 07/02/2019 19:19

No. I'd prefer a charity donation or a pledge on DoNation. I have enough stuff and things.

greendale17 · 07/02/2019 19:19

Donation is the gift

Original poster
00100001 · 08/02/2019 07:14

Thank you all, I was just getting a second opinion as my friend asked for donations, which indie, then got pissy that he didn't have present to open

We were at dinner and he got all excited and said "right, where are my presents?" I said to him "I donated to your charity, happy birthday" and he got all stroppy and said "you could have got me a present too!" Shock

OP posts:
BlackCatSleeping · 08/02/2019 07:17

That’s just greedy! Shock

CigarsofthePharoahs · 08/02/2019 08:00

Yeah that's greedy.
Asking for charity donations is great, but that IS the gift.
If you want actual gifts then ask for actual gifts.

megletthesecond · 08/02/2019 08:02

No.

ZenNudist · 08/02/2019 08:05

What a dick

ShatnersWig · 08/02/2019 08:15

He'd be an ex-friend now if he pulled that cheeky shit on me

OnTheHop · 08/02/2019 08:18

That’s ridiculous!

The whe point is that the charity gets the present!

Lifegoeson600 · 08/02/2019 09:39

No the gift would be the donation

minipie · 08/02/2019 09:41

I think it’s pretty rude to ask for anything for your birthday - donation or gift.

To ask for both is beyond spoiled.

AnnabelleLecter · 08/02/2019 09:43

I honestly don't know any adults who ask for any kind of birthday gifts.

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