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What do you call your ‘husband’ if you’re not married

136 replies

Seaseasea · 05/02/2019 20:31

Been with DP 7 years, 2 DCs together... not married.

I cringe at saying ‘boyfriend’ and feel pretentious saying ‘partner’... what do you say?

I find myself pausing everytime I mention him to someone who doesn’t know his name Blush

OP posts:
Crushedvelvetcouch · 05/02/2019 21:26

Oh confused
I bloody love posters like you, please do carry on...

abbsisspartacus · 05/02/2019 21:26

Oy you usually sufficed

Floralmoral · 05/02/2019 21:26

I’m going to disregard the comment about my lack of commitment to my non-husband.
I call him my partner but find it pretentious in certain settings. Occasionally he gets called “the father of my child” or my manfriend (when I’m amongst my friends). I can’t call him boyfriend, he’s in his late 40s Grin

Cynara · 05/02/2019 21:27

I say boyfriend, because when we got together I was 27 and it sounded fine. He's now 52 and strenuously objects to being described as such (we've been together 8 years, have a mortgage and a child) but it's gone on so long I just can't bring myself to call him a partner as it sounds like we're either in a same sex relationship or business associates.

abbsisspartacus · 05/02/2019 21:28

Ok I call him by his first name really Hmm odd thread

Crustaceans · 05/02/2019 21:32

My ex (we were together 10 years) I referred to as my partner. I’ve never really considered whether people thought I was a lesbian. Or cared.

Currently I refer to my boyfriend of 7 months as my boyfriend. But, honestly, it feels a bit ridiculous at nearly 40. There’s no reasonable alternative. If we get to the moving in together stage, I’ll go with partner. But it’ll have to be boyfriend until that point. I guess we could get married at some point too but it’s 7 months in so I’m not really thinking about that.

deadsexy · 05/02/2019 21:32

This was one of the main reasons I got married. Together 8 years, 2 children, mortgage etc and couldn't stand partner or boyfriend. Love saying husband

blamethecat · 05/02/2019 21:32

Depends who I'm talking to, partner, NotHusband, dick head, or on a good day , his name.

cstaff · 05/02/2019 21:32

Sorry but baby daddy sounds so wrong - like a pimp maybe 😁😁.

My sil is married to my brother for about 15 years and only refers to him as my Husband in a posh accent - never by his name. Sooo weird.

DareDevil223 · 05/02/2019 21:32

I call him my partner, he hates that though as he thinks it makes us sound like a firm of solicitors Grin. He calls me his girlfriend which sounds a bit weird to me as I'm in my early fifties.

When it's people who know us I just call him by his name, they all know who he is.

Bubastes · 05/02/2019 21:34

And no I'm not married, just that I can't take anybody seriously when they talk about partners and having kids and talk about commitment, when their unwilling to actually make any real commitment what so ever.

That's okay, babe. I can't take you seriously either.

VWpurse · 05/02/2019 21:34

Significant other?

Why don’t you just say husband?

Crustaceans · 05/02/2019 21:35

Given how many marriages fail, @Confusedfornow, I’m not convinced you’re right.

Nor am I convinced that people take you less seriously if you’re not married. They really don’t.

DareDevil223 · 05/02/2019 21:36

Confusedfornow

There are many arguments I could make to refute your arrant nonsense but as I can't be arsed I'll just say this

'BOLLOCKS'

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 05/02/2019 21:36

Boyfriend,name or partner. DD's dad when relevant. Never fussed too much about it.

Lottapianos · 05/02/2019 21:37

Partner. No idea what's supposed to be pretentious about it, and couldn't give a crap if people think I'm a lesbian. He's 44 and I'm not much younger, so 'boyfriend' gives me the heaves. I just use his name when talking to people I know. Never ever 'other half'

PrismGuile · 05/02/2019 21:40

I say partner. Together 5 years. How is it pretentious? He's not my husband because we're not married, so he's my life partner

Foonababoonalagoona · 05/02/2019 21:41

I refer to him as my husband even though we are not . We've been together for 25 years so that's how I feel about him .

PrismGuile · 05/02/2019 21:46

Ooooh I like 'lover'.

May begin keeping a long cigarette holder up my sleeve and when people ask I can whack it out, call him my lover and take a debauched drag.

Nice reply to that prat above OP

Dowser · 05/02/2019 21:47

One of the reasons I remarried.
I hated calling my nOw dh partner
Husband is much better

Genderwitched · 05/02/2019 21:48

If I'm introducing him to people who don't know him I say 'husband' and he introduces me as his 'wife'. We've been together for twenty three years and have two, nearly grown up children.

His face would be Hmm if I described our life together as a glass house and without substance

Genderwitched · 05/02/2019 21:49

Although I do like swain Smile

Dowser · 05/02/2019 21:52

Oh yes I used fiancé too

mellongoose · 05/02/2019 22:01

Gentleman caller. Surely!

Loyaultemelie · 05/02/2019 22:04

My ex was partner (although I can think of many other names to call him)
Dh before we got married was usually the other half (NI)