Have you had or know anyone that’s had a midlife crisis ?

[LardLizard]

As I think I can understand it !

I did. Ruined my life

Yes, turned into a middle aged groupie , had a fabulous time. I regret nothing

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Yes, turned into a middle aged groupie , had a fabulous time. I regret nothing

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I think my brother did. Bought a sports car and then he left his wife and ran off with a woman aged 22 - he was 47.

My husband did. Went off with some woman. We have 3 kids together.

Everyone I know is in a full blown MLC. We’re all battling on but depression / malaise / too much booze / are all in evidence. No signs yet of the stereotypical affair/fast car but it’s all basically the same feeling. Time passing. Losses accumulating. Work pressures. Lots of dependents - parents and children.

I'd rather not tbh but I'll say if you're hitting middle age and feel like the grass might be greener it probably isn't.

My mum- divorced my dad and swore she wanted to travel and help Indian orphans. In reality she re married within a year, grumpy man who tells her what to do and keeps her home a lot. She lives 20 miles from her old home
My dad had a meltdown initially but since met a lovely kind lady who makes him very happy.

My father-in-law. Left his second wife, for a third only a bit older than my husband, and had another baby with her. Now they're looking at having a second baby and he wants to buy a convertible mustang . Oh and they're broke and live their entire lives off credit cards.

My MIL shoplifted and then tried to kill herself

Sorry to hear thatRedhats
I went NC with half my family, got tattoos and had my vulva pierced- does that count as a MLC?

My great aunt took up dogging

My exes mum.
She was a Catholic married to a raging alcoholic for decades.
All of a sudden, she vacated the family home, went to London landed a good job, got a flat and got herself a foreign toyboy.
My ex and his brother were aghast.
She came back to our house for a visit, she looked and sounded so much happier. But her toyboy couldn't speak much English and I had to restrain my ex.

I don’t know if it sounds like a car crash or wonderful
I guess it builds up from the feeling of being sensible all the time, this strong urge to just go wild !

Lard

I tend to agree with that. have often wondered why dh and i have never had a midlife crises and presume it's because we haven't had the sensible time in 30 years of being together, both big kids at heart.

Most of my friends turned 40 in the last few years and most people seem to be in some sort of crisis (a couple of affairs, some losing lots of weight/dressing much younger/seeming very unhappy about losing looks, more unhappiness in marriages, friendships becoming less close/spending less time with friends). I feel like I had a bit of a crisis in my late 30's and am past it now and am happy. I'm sure another one will be along soon . I seem to have one a year or so before a "big" birthday. I'm not worried about getting older though. Just want to make the most of my life!

I’m fending it off. There’s definitely something brewing!

My ex boss did. Bought a fancy sports car and offered me a fair few nights together. I'm not ashamed to say I played along, got a good bonus and fucked off out of there

My boss. Ran off with a teenage girl who's near enough a third of his age....he'd been married over 30 years. Will not end well, obviously, but what can you do?

Its funny how this happens in midlife

I think I'm coming out of one. Was in a big funk for the last couple of years: hated my job and career (I work in the city), wanted to move somewhere away from London and reduce our outgoing, to start my own small business, wife and I starting making plans of sorts. Then she has some good fortune with her career so wanted to stay. I changed my mind set with work and now don't give a fig, it's a much less stressful way to live, mental health much improved. So we're not going anywhere and I'm staying working in the city.

@PowerhouseOfTheCell please tell me she thought that's what taking her dog for a walk is called in youthspeak?!

Define 'mid-life crisis' OP. I don't really know what one is.

Arf at PowerhouseOfTheCell !!!!!