Have you had or know anyone that’s had a midlife crisis ?

[LardLizard]

As I think I can understand it !

I’m currently having one it’s awful but so far I’ve ended marriage, fallen for someone toxic, become self-employed, lost weight and had a bit of cosmetic surgery. I’m wondering where it’ll all end.

From the outside looking in though, I seem like a well-put together, committed single mum who also holds down a professional job. Thank goodness people can’t read my mind.

My 55 year old boss. He dumped his long term partner last year and hooked up with a 25 year old colleague who's recently moved in with him with her young child (he hates children). Everyone is WTF and it's caused massive problems at work, several people have walked out and I'll be the next. He keeps embarrassing himself by ordering things from Lovehoney and opening them in front of his staff

He thinks he's a big stud but in fact he's a sad git with a golddigger girlfriend who'll be his carer next year when he has his hip replacement op.

I know someone who's showing the early signs! Just career and drudgery related so far... fingers crossed it doesn't get stickier than that...

I'm perhaps having a bit of one?!
Big birthday approaching. A couple of years ago I went on a massive fitness overhaul and took up Martial Arts. I'm in the best shape of my life and very slim with some pretty good biceps 😂. I dress much younger too. Oh and I'm considering a tattoo too.
However if this is the extent of my crisis well it's got me feeling great and very fit. My marriage is great and I'm still devoted to my kids so It's not affecting my life negatively.
In fact I've made more friends and considering a new career in fitness because I'm more confident!

Yes me as i get closer to 40. Got my 1st tattoo last year. Only a small one but dh wasn't impressed.

Yeah think I'm out the other side now though. It lasted about 2 years and there were some destructive elements to it. Luckily i had built up enough brownie points in the preceding years to be forgiven by those I hurt. I'm hoping that's me done for another 20 years.

Yes, me.

Nothing exciting so far, although if I had the money I’d have bought a mustang by now!

Really it’s just been an even deeper existential crisis than the one I’ve been dealing with off and on for my whole life, made a bit more poignant by a bereavement in the family and my daughters both coming up to adulthood, and watching them start out in life with all that promise, potential and opportunity. The realisation that realistically, the things I really would have wanted to do are not going to happen. That doesn’t mean I can’t have a continued great life, but I am having to let go of some things. I don’t yet know what to replace those dreams or ambitions with.

Losing my youthful fairly good looks has been much, much harder than I ever would have imagined - having been a committed feminist since my early adulthood I’ve always consciously avoided putting too much stock in my physical appearance and/or my attractiveness to men, so I’ve really surprised myself in finding it actually quite heartbreaking to see everything start to deteriorate. I guess it’s pretty easy to not care about it when you’ve got it! I think it bothers me so much because it’s a physical representation of a metaphorical shift in my life, and because I’ve not really accomplished anything that I can look at and be proud of. I can’t think about it too much or the pain quickly overwhelms me.

Having one now at 45.

Forgot to say, so far mine is manifesting itself in lots of sadness/anger/frustration, often being unable to sleep, and overspending because I buy away my feelings and I buy for the life I would like to have.

Trying to get a handle on it is not easy!

Yes, definitely having a mid life something or other, but I'm not in crisis as such. Last year I joined a band and go out gigging with them (all mid life men) most weekends and will be making a debut at a very famous London venue soon! DH supportive and comes along. But I do think the other Mums on the school run must think, what the f is she doing?

Do most people have them? Surely it’s a life stage

Think I'm in the midst of one! 🤣
Lost nearly 3 stone, had piercings! Was 40 last year.

I think my dh is having one. Although he has skipped the get fit and tone up bit.

It's not fun and he has become enormously selfish and takes me for granted. I don't think he cares what I think anymore.

Does it last two years? So either he will leave or go back to normal. Two years is s long time isn't it? I'm not sure I can put up with this for two years.

My cousin, although he's far older than midlife. After tragically losing his DW, he's playing the field OLD, and last time I saw him, when he said 'I'll show you a picture of my baby' I was expecting his new DGC - no, it was a Lotus Elan!

I feel like I deserve one! Was happily getting on with life, when blindsided by finding out dh cheated. Have gone from being content to muddle through any difficulties, to thinking whytf should I? And questioning/being depressed by everything, much the same as Holger. Unfortunately still have too many DC responsibilities to have a really satisfying MLC, but have a few low level traits such as increased spending and dissatisfaction with life in general.
(Dh cheating was historical, not his own MLC, but now find it hard to believe he won't have another one now, which would be a MLC. )

I think my DH had one about 5 years ago. He gave up his well paying job, although he was unhappy doing it, to start up a business in a totally unrelated hobby he had. To be fair it's doing well so far and he's a lot happier but it could have gone very wrong

Frances I don’t think that counts !