Has anyone ever really been outed?

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I NC all the time as I’m so paranoid about being outed. But thinking about it does that ever actually happen? Are there any threads where someone has been the subject of the discussion?

Yes at a toddler group 12 years ago. I posted asking for advice about a baby who screamed all the time in the car then mentioned the same thing in conversation at the group. The person who recognised me was a prolific poster who went to lots of MN meet-ups etc.

It was no big deal because it wasn’t anything private. I’ve changed my name many times since then and always if I want anonymity.

Thankfully the ‘baby’ no longer screams in the car. I’m lucky to get more than the odd grunt out of him.

If you name change do all your previous posts change or do you seem to be a totally different person?
What about on searches?

Asking for a friend...

I name change frequently because I know I have family and friends in here who could quite easily put the posts together and some stuff is private. But I always find it interesting when people say 'nc for this post' and then post a very unusual very specific situation or issue. Surely anyone in rl could work it out quite easily!?

Oh I have a car screamer too!

That’s crazy- at least you weren’t saying anything too private or negative about someone!

But I think the point of that Must is while that particular post is recognisable, people won't be able to search to find all their other posts, where they're bitching about their MIL, SIL, boss etc.

They probably can work it out easily, but then the info doesn't link back to the OP's previous user name or other information they've posted.

Yes, I was messaged by someone who recognised me irl. I name change frequently now.

Yep, under my last name, by someone who recognised it then brought to to the attention of the person I’d written about (she was nicknamed TerribleCuntMum).

Fucking awful at the time, it was an absolute shitstorm that involved the police at one point

I always wonder this! Just name changed to be safe

My sister is on here. She name-changes frequently but i’ll notice a post and know it’s her. We both know we’re on here. I don’t name change as I hardly ever post anything personal.

I recognised my mum on here! Read a post and thought that it sounded familiar, reread it and realised it was my mum. I told her straight away so she could n/c if she wanted. Hi mum if you're reading

No but I recognized a friend, she posted about her DH and his hobby. It was a brilliantly funny post. I know a few people on here, I don't really care if they recognize me.

I’ve not been outed in a big way but my sister always knows when it’s me.
She will text and say ‘found you again’. I don’t even need to say anything personal, apparently I just type like I talk.

Did she name the hobby Lino?

If she did, it's her own fault, because obviously the first rule about hobbies is that they must never be named.

Mum at school making me feel crap! http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3367148-mum-at-school-making-me-feel-crap

Omg - So it does happen then! I’ve never spoken about mumsnet with anyone in RL so no idea if I know anyone on here!

I recognised someone on here, she posted something on Facebook and then posted on here, it was similar enough that I knew it was her, I've not said anything though as none of my business.
I'm sure some people recognise me from things I've said and things I post on here, but I'm not bothered as I don't think I've posted anything controversial!

When I first started on mumsnet, I was convinced I'd recognised a good friend. Her name on here was a reference to her hair type and the city she lives in. She'd posted about conceiving her first child whilst on honeymoon. All those details fitted and I posted saying ah that sounds familiar... it totally wasn't her, made me realise that although those circumstances matched, the same could be said about hundreds and hundreds of people!

So now it always makes me giggle when posters say something totally common and think it'll out them. I thought that on a recent post where the OP nc as she was the 'ow in waiting'. I just thought yeah love, you think you're totally unique and special but there's hundreds of women in a similar situation who think that too 😂

Ah the school mum one- too many deleted posts but I can just about work out what happened. How embarrassing!

I recognised my dhs ex she stupidly put her name as her user name and where she lived.
She had been asking for 'advice' on my dh wanting more contact with their son "should she allow it as apparently he didnt deserve it." The way she wrote was as though she owned my sc and it was a real insight into how screwed up her thought process was.
She left out alot of relevent information relating to the scenario. Such as her moving away with their son and cutting his contact down. Making it extremely difficult when my husband would want extra contact always saying sc was busy on the day months a head in advance or ignoring him.
Lieing that he hadnt traveled to pick up his son when he has NEVER not picked his son up in his life and always maintained regular contact weekly although less than previously as she wouldnt compromise when she moved away on contact so it was cut down.
She made up that he doesnt feed my sc properly and she was making up some horrible lies about one of my children which quite frankly put me off of ever trying with her, she has never been inside my house and only met them twice when they were very small for a brief minute.
She would often text my husband abuse which he would ignore but when asked by another poster to talk to him she said she couldnt as he would just abuse her.
I am glad I found out as I had no idea how much she lied although my friend had known her previously and said she has a lieing problem I just thought I would judge her on my own perception. I had no idea someone can appear so normal to your face but be a completly different person.
It can be a real eye opener.
I learnt to pull back and disengage.

MintedLamb...hello sweetheart.
Wondered what you were called on here.
Odd choice of name considering you’d never eat minted lamb if your life depended on it.

😂

BarbaraofSevillle I know right, her own fault!
I don't get that, unless you're the only person in the world with a DH that practices said hobby, then it's not going to "out" you and if indeed you are the only person, then the word you're probably looking for is fetish, not hobby

Yeah, quite recently. I posted in desperate worry about my dc and some pretty serious difficulties he's been having, including some issues in school. I was upset and scared and angry and posted a bit more detail than I should have (obv no names or geographical locations etc). Some charming person recognised us and sent a screenshot of the thread to SLT at the school.

I was going to namechange/disappear, but frankly I've been here since 2005 and they can fuck right off. I am much more circumspect about details now though and I am very aware that I have an "enemy" on here, which is sad.