How honest are you with your teens regarding your sex life when you were younger?

[BigSandyBalls2015]

DD has just asked me out the blue how many sexual partners I had had by the time I was 17 (her age). I was a bit taken aback as she’s usually very averse to any straight talking ..... I have to get her in the car to chat about anything important .... so I just mumbled something about being a late starter .

Wondering now if I should have had a proper convo as maybe she’s worried about something but I’m not sure sharing details of my private life is the way forward!

Many of my friends know my number, maybe it's a generational thing but it's not really rude to ask in any of my circles because it really doesn't matter. I have a friend who's still a virgin and another who has gotten jiggy with over 100 men but they're very good mates.

It's perfectly ok to be private but it's not like you're asking a Deep Dark Secret. It's just a physical act and unless love was involved I don't see what's so intimate about it.

AlexaAmbidextra weird and petulant interpretaion you have made.

Not really. Certainly not petulant. What you do doesn’t affect my life. But look at what you wrote.

After all, their relationships are quite frankly none of my business but I would like to know stuff. I'm not going to get far if I just tell them 'it's none of your business' when they ask me about mine.

You admit it’s none of your business but you ‘would like to know stuff’. But that you won’t get far if you don’t operate a quid pro quo.

Gamer, yes it is. Let things go at her pace and keep an eye on her. I didn't say too much to mine until I thought she seemed to be getting interested in boys. When it happened (the chat) it was all pretty relaxed, and then it was another couple of years before she got a boyfriend. Also I suppose talking about the hpv vaccine is a starting point. Weren't around then. The main thing is pregnancy and std prevention and that applies to boys. Also on the original Q. Of telling children ones sex history, are they supposed to tell us theirs? Your children may have a boy/girlfriend but they could easily have a one night stand. Do they have to tell their parents about it?

Mine just know that we lived together before we were married. They don't need to know how many partners we had, in fact I don't know how many DH had and he certainly doesn't know how many I had. It's no-one's business but your own IMO.

I have a great relationship with my adult kids and can happily chat about all sorts but I'm not going to chat about my sex life with them. It's not their business just as their sex life isn't mine.

To make it clear if my dd asked I would tell her to mind her own business but it's not hard to work out that her dad being my first kiss and then meeting her Step dad after we broke up would probably mean my number was 2 which it is.

I'm a complete prude so don't talk about much with them which I know is bad

I'm not sure I'd divulge specific details because they REALLY don't need to know some things, but I will happily tell my children that some sexual experiences were not great and some were very great, sex with someone you love is definitely better especially when you lose your virginity, protect yourself and your partner, respect yourself and your partner etc. With maybe enough information to make them understand I'm talking from (quite a large amount of) experience.

To turn this on it’s head, my dear departed mum once told me that my dad was the only man she’d had sex with. She thought it very funny when I told her that she hadn’t missed much as all men thought they were great in bed but very few were. 😂