Am I too positive?!!

[Ratatouille76]

Basically I try to have a really positive attitude to life. I'm really grateful for my family, my home, friends, my health, a job I love, my children are healthy my marriage is good. I really try to appreciate stuff and not take things for granted. But my parents will say well you need a new bathroom or a decent car, etc, etc. Course in an ideal world those things would be nice but we can't afford it and I genuinely don't mind. I would love to win the lottery as much as the next person but I read on here about couples that can't have children or their children are ill or they have a chronic illness and I just feel incredibly gratefully. It could all change so quickly. My parents take the piss out of my attitude to life but are they just being very materialistic or should I be wanting more? My mother will say don't think you deserve the best of everything and I will say no actually I don't. No more than anyone else!

I think you sound great!

Thank you! My mum constantly has new clothes, they always have a brand new car. My husband and I prefer to spend any money we have on doing things like a holiday or a trip with the kids. I work part time so I can be at school events and really try not to miss anything. I could work full time but my kids are growing up so quickly I would hate to miss anything. My sister is the same as my parents. Every conversation with her comes back to money and having the best of everything.

Well I think your attitude is great and more realistic. It will lead to a much happier life!

Thank you! You are making me feel better!

I feel exactly the same as you. People are often surprised at how happy I am because I'm a single mum and don't have a lot of money but I have so much more than a lot of people. I don't want a high paid job as often that comes with a lot of added stress. I don't want a huge house. I live a simple life, I am healthy and my DS is healthy. We have lovely family and friends.

Totally with you!

You sound fabulous! I have exactly the same attitude.

If I wake up and my country isn't at war, I'm not facing a terminal disease and there's no death in the family, happiness is a choice for me.

I'm very positive and sometimes teased for it, I'm past caring as I am genuinely happy and thrilled by small pleasures!

If you were in an abusive relationship and living in poverty saying you might as well be happy because you can never be more ywbu but it sounds like you have a nice life and you're happy with it. What's wrong with that?

I'm the same as you OP. I'm single, live in a nice little house with my cats in a warm country by the sea. I have lovely friends and earn enough money to pay my bills, run my car and have a couple of breaks a year - I literally don't want any more!

There's nothing wrong with being positive, what's the point in being negative.
I love positivity and glass half full people.
Keep at it OP 🙋😁

I feel like this too. I try and be grateful for my life even though it’s not been easy at times. My mother is very negative and pessimistic so I try and not get dragged down by her !

I practice gratitude as it helps my mental health more than mindfulness. It is not always easy but I think it can be a real positive in how you feel day to day.

Wow you sound lovely op, I wish I knew you as I seem to be surrounded by pessimistic people who spend all of their time moaning.

Its a pity more people aren't like you

I often stand in the shower thinking how lucky I am to have hot water, a shower, nice soap e.t.c. It's the little things.

On Saturday night I yawned and said to DH at about 10pm "right! I'm done! I'm off to bed". He joked and said "ohhhh another exciting Saturday night for us!!" I said "we have had a lovely steak dinner, a glass of red wine, watched a couple of episodes on Netflix and our beautiful baby is upstairs sleeping....what more could we want?" He said "you are so right!! I actually can't think
of what else I would want either!"

Love your attitude OP. Too many people nowadays trying to keep up with the Joneses. They are not happy unless they have lots of materialistic things, sacrificing the meaningful parts of life in the process.

I like your way of thinking OP. Reading what you had written you are grounded, live within your means and think of others. Shame there are not more people like you in the world.

We can all do with a newer car, more holidays, new furnishings etc etc - My motto is as long as I can pay all my bills and save a few quid a month I am happy with my lot.

You need to share some positive vibes with your dm & ds.

I find myself not happy with everything I have. I'm always moaning I need this and I need that and I'm told by mostly everyone that these things take time to save for and that I can't just have because I want! (which can be annoying at times) I have always wanted to be the way you are and its a lovely trait to possess... If you're happy, Your DH is happy and your DC Are happy then it doesn't matter what anyone else says or thinks. You have such a wonderful attitude to life. ❤️

I agree! I could try and get a job that earns more so we could have nice holidays and fancier stuff, but I have 4 kids I love, a kind decent husband and my Mum is still alive ... I'm grateful for what I have, and that we get by.
Currently one of my adult children is very unwell in hospital and will be there for weeks... but she has free, good healthcare , she was treated promptly and is being supported... I think of how in the USA that make her actually bankrupt...or maybe she would have just died from not being able afford to get treatment. So I'm grateful for our lives here!

I feel exactly the same as you but I would call it contentment. And I think it is unusual to feel content; it’s far harder to be positive than negative. It’s so easy to moan or feel hard done to, I think it’s refreshing to be happy and nothing to be ashamed of. People gravitate more towards happy, secure people over the Debbie downers who zap your energy.

Although I have come across a strange “friend” who only likes to associate with people who are doing worse than her; kids not as bright, house not a mansion, car not flashy. I find that outlook bizarre and insecure, and give myself a pat on the back that she ended our friendship. Means I’m doing something right (but my house is very small).

Anyway I digress, I think you’re doing life right for what it’s worth!

Op, you sound absolutely wonderful.
Don’t change

Can I be your friend, OP?

Whenever I find myself feeling negative, I remember the saying "Dont be a drain, be a radiator"

You sound great OP! I always try to appreciate what I have - a DH of 30 years, 2 wonderful DS, a lovely (if dated !) house. Would I be happier if a had a bathroom less than 25 years old? Not a chance. Yet seeing the beauty of the sky when the sum is rising - glorious.

Oh wow thank you everyone. Saw my kids in a little school concert today. My eldest goes to secondary in September so am savouring these last few months! Maybe this should be a thread to say what you are grateful for?!!

You sound and are, AMAZING! I wish I was your friend!
I am publicly very positive but internally a major jangle of nerves stress and anxiety. Keep spreading your great attitude around OP!

Thank you!