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Original poster

Sooo new next next door neighbour has moved in....

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 20:50

The house next door to me has just been sold. I saw a pretty cute guy there over the weekend. I thought he mught be some sort of handy man doing some bits there before the owners moved in because I am not that lucky I bumped into an acquaintance today who knows him. It turns out he is the new owner. He is divorced with children. (as am I). This never happens!
It's OK to just go and knock on the door and introduce myself, right? In a neighbourly way of course.

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BifsWif · 27/01/2019 20:51

Absolutely....nothing wrong with being a good neighbour! Wink

Tiredismymiddlename85 · 27/01/2019 20:52

I hate overly friendly neighbours Grin

Sarcelle · 27/01/2019 20:53

You are only being friendly, go and do it. Wink

AliceRR · 27/01/2019 20:53

Go and let us know what happens!!

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 20:54

But surely it's not overly friendly just to introduce yourself? Plus he's pretty. Grin

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SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 27/01/2019 20:55

Do it!

Tiredismymiddlename85 · 27/01/2019 20:55

Haha I'm just anti social, we have an overly friendly neighbour (2 doors down) who keeps suggesting coffee. I don't want to be that friendly, it's all a bit awkward.

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 20:55

It's too late in the eve to go now isn't it? But tomorrow I am on it. 😁 Christ, wish me luck!

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SpamChaudFroid · 27/01/2019 20:55

It will be like Ever Decreasing Circles except you won't be cheating on your spouses! Grin

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 20:56

Oh that is awkward. I don't drink coffee so if I do that I will actually mean something else. (getting a bit ahead of myself there!)

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importantkath · 27/01/2019 20:58

Do it! Take some home made muffins.

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 20:58

Dating your neighbour would be good though wouldn't it? All the good bits idf someone being around but no dirty socks.

Tbh I would be happy if he was a nice guy to have a fun friendship with. (I have been re watching friends recently!)

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 20:59

I don't think I should put him off with my baking skills. Grin

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Tiredismymiddlename85 · 27/01/2019 20:59

I know she's being kind and friendly but still, would rather not be that friendly. We have pleasantries with next door over the garden fence or out the front.
Yes too late now - need to time it when you're both outside the front and 'bump' into him Wink

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 21:00

But it's OK just to rock up, empty handed, and say 'Hi, I am Iris' and he will invite me in and we will chat and totally hit it off, obviously.

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Bluntness100 · 27/01/2019 21:00

Take him a bottle of wine and go in the evening, he may invite you in for a drink,,,

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 21:02

I was thinking bumping into him Woukd be better. But, given how bloody cold it is the time of year, that may not happen. So I will give it a couple of days and then I am knocking!

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 21:02

If I totally embarrass myself I can always move...

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 21:04

Good plan with the wine I will see if I can stalk him bump into him tomorrow

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BigFatBloomers · 27/01/2019 21:08

My next door neighbour popped round with homemade biscuits a few day after we arrived. It was a great welcome.
We’re now really good friends.

Biscuits which he could share with his kids maybe a bit less ‘loaded’ than a bottle of wine.

cavycavy · 27/01/2019 21:16

This scenario happened in the book “why Mummy drinks”. Except she was married and he turned out to be gay.

OP, I’m now hoping to witness a budding romance take place from scratch.

Perhaps he’ll be at work one day when Hermes try to deliver him a parcel, you can do the kind neighbourly thing and take it in so he can come to your house to collect it!

Or maybe you need to orchestrate it so one of your parcels is left at his house.

Or play joyfully with your children in the back garden and whoops a ball goes over his fence?

Or maybe you decide to have a bonfire (or fireworks?) and pop round to let him know.

(I’m already over invested)

sollyfromsurrey · 27/01/2019 21:17

BigFatBloomers unless he has already had the kids around or they live with him, the OP shouldn't know they exist....unless she was going around digging up info....like she was!!! So best not to mention them yet!

dalmatianmad · 27/01/2019 21:18

Take him a nice home made curry and a bottle of beer.

We need feedback Grin

Italiangreyhound · 27/01/2019 21:19

Go for it.

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IrisJoy · 27/01/2019 21:21

Ooh good point, Solly. Think I will go empty handed at first.
Dd is always having parcels delivered so a Hermes thing could definitely happen! Think I am brave enough just to go and say hi. (am now happing his car is there soon, on its own, so I can!)
Thank god you lot are here. I love these types of threads but never thought I would start one!

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