Those of you who have got shit together

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You know all you people who wake up feeling ok, shower, put on make up, have nice hair and a well put together outfit, have breakfast and get DC to school/ yourself to work with time to spare?

Tell me how that happens. Please.

Oh. I also drink no alcohol or coffee which helps. And during the week I get to bed early and don't eat after 6.00pm. Like I said though, dull dull dull.

5:30am I get up. Drink coffee. Do make up. Check my bag and timetable.

6am Get dressed, nudge the 10 and 8 year olds

6:15 Get the toddler up and dressed with a snack, pack her bag for nursery

6:30 Get 10 and 8 year old up, 10YO is self sufficient but Aspie kid is not so have to make sure her socks are right, t shirt properly tucked in etc

7am More snacks and checking of book bags PE kits etc

7:30am Out the door, drop big kids at breakfast club at 7:45, toddler at nursery at 8am, then get myself across the city on two buses to Uni

I find eating well is the key to it all.

Eating well means I'm healthy.
It means I'm slim.
Means I look good in clothing :easier to look put together with little effort.
Means I'm not depressed.
Means I sleep well.

Also I’m an Aspie with dyspraxia and ADD, medicated and have to stick to a strict routine or I’m fucked as a single parent. I look together but I really, really ain’t.

And I go to bed at 9pm

Racecardriver is right about a blow dry being the ultimate camouflage!

I wake up at 6 with a coffee. Watch a movie with my 2nd coffee, have cereal. After film I go to the beach and join the surfers at about 8am (I swim and bodyboard, don't surf). 9.30ish I'm back home, have a shower, eat an omlette DP makes, take medication and go to my desk as I work from home and start working at about 10.30ish.

@halfwitpicker What do you eat to stop depression? I'm a healthy eater but still depressed. Please give me some tips thanks

I can’t say I’m massively well groomed but showered, make up done and hair washed and dried. I give myself 90 mins to get us up, fed and out. No screens in the morning for kids.

Bags ready the night before.

I'm amazed so many of you get up so early.

I was asleep by 9.30pm last night and massively struggled to get out of bed this morning at 7.30!

Those of you who are hitting the snooze button are making things harder for yourself. If you snooze you go back to sleep and have to keep on waking up again and again. No wonder you're tired.

I know people who get up ridiculously early (5/5.30ish) and tbh seem to be constantly walking around in a state of sleep deprivation. Sleep is important to me, especially on these cold, dark winter mornings, and I’d much rather have extra sleep as opposed to getting up unnecessarily early and being tired for the rest of the day.

Thanks for the tips everyone. I think the sleep is the problem. i Need to tackle that properly.

It starts with going to bed early.

And I do think you should get up with your eldest.

DH and I are retired; so no pressing need to get up at all. Our youngest is Y8. He gets himself up showered dressed, breakfasted and out the door with no help from us whatsoever. One or both of us always gets up with him though and has a bit of a chat about the day ahead. I think its important.

My mum never got up for me to go to school and it made me feel a bit shit.

I'm the worst morning person!

6.45 my alarm goes off.
7.15I actually get up get ready make up.
7.40 small child gets in my bed and dad brings up breakfast and me a coffee
8 I'm usually ready and child had eaten. Dress him 8.15 down stairs pack bags
8.30 leave house

The only solution I've found is to give up on sleep!!! My alarm goes off at 4.45am weekdays and 8.00am weekends, I am usually finished and ready for bed between 10.30/11pm (closer to midnight if I have worked at night.
It's tough going at times but it's a choice between that and not keeping on top of things. I can't stand chaos so I made the choice to go without sleep......

Timmytoo

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Re. Eating, I eat loads of veg, pulses, full fat diary, meat, eggs. No pasta, bread, rice, very little sugar or processed food. Basically lower carb, but with lentils, sweet potato, squashes etc.

DS went to university in September. No school run, less mess, fewer cereal bowls by the sink, no shoes in the hall, no empty loo rolls that haven't been replaced, no noise, fewer of his loud mates messing up the kitchen.

I miss him but I am so much more organised and together and even blow dry my hair in the mornings.

Think about what time you need to get up then take half an hour off that. I think I can get up at 6.30 to be out of the house by 8am but then I'm always annoyed when the kids faff about and I'm the last one to leave. So I get up at 6am and am waiting by the door at 8am to lock up and head off to work.

I get up at 7am on Saturday for the gym then lie-in until whenever I like on Sunday! Generally in bed for 11ish and asleep by midnight.

Have you tried one of those natural daylight clocks ? I know people who struggle in the mornings who swear by them for regularising their sleep patterns and waking them gently. Perhaps worth a look ?

I have 2 children - 11 years old and 13 months. I get up at 6 whilst the kids are still asleep. If the baby wakes up he goes in his jumperoo in the bathroom whilst I shower, or he sits in the empty bath playing with toys and is happy enough. When I’m out of the shower I do my make up and hair whilst the baby sits in his high chair with some nibbles for breakfast (nursery give him his proper breakfast). I get all of our clothes ready the night before so there’s no faffing around looking for things.
At 7am we are then both ready to go and I wake up my older son, give him his breakfast and make sure he’s getting dressed by 7:15. Out of the door by 7:20, when my partner takes over.
Drop off at nursery for 7:45, at my desk by 7:55. Flying by the seat of my pants every day, but you’d never know

I’m in bed by 9pm every night by the way. It’s rubbush, but it’s the only way I can manage

It takes preparation.

It doesn't always work. But mostly it does.

I am very organised. I deal with things as they come in. As soon as I get the school fortnightly calendar I scan it for things that apply to my child and put them on my phone calendar. I deal with return slips for swimming, school trips, mufti costumes etc within a couple of days of getting them.

I go to bed early. I get up at 7.30 and shower and get into work clothes. A small amount of makeup. I have a lunch ready the night before. Maybe left over dinner. Already done ds2's snack the night before. We have breakfast and then I have 10-15 minutes spare to MN for example.
We leave on time. I don't rush. The atmosphere is relaxed. We walk to school. Or take the car. I arrive 5 minutes early at work. I just don't rush. I don't get stressed.

I manage to get ds fed and to school.Thats an achievement!