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Those of you who have got shit together

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 21/01/2019 17:26

You know all you people who wake up feeling ok, shower, put on make up, have nice hair and a well put together outfit, have breakfast and get DC to school/ yourself to work with time to spare?

Tell me how that happens. Please.

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caringiscreepy · 21/01/2019 18:05

I get up at 5 to do some writing then have a shower at 6.30 which usually wakes everybody up. Kids dressed before they go downstairs, get breakfast, usually stick on a load of washing / put dishwasher stuff away. I am a morning person and that definitely (obviously) helps. I'm shattered by about 9pm every night though

SagelyNodding · 21/01/2019 18:05

I'm up at 5.45 or 6.30 depending on the day! Shower while the kettle boils, cleanse and rough dry hair before waking up the kids (1 out the door at 7.15, the other 8.20,but his dad takes him to school). COFFEE, breakfast, finish hair and face and I'm gone!
My bag is packed the night before, and I put my outfit and shoes in the bathroom!
In summer I'm up earlier to fit a run in, but at the moment it's too cold and dark.
Im in bed between 10 and 11pm in the week, I really need my sleep!

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 21/01/2019 18:06

I go to bed most nights between 10 and 11. I do have something on my phone on Netflix like friends but I’m not watching it, it’s just to listen to to get me over to sleep. I wake at 7 to make sure my eldest has gotten up with his alarm but then I go back to sleep until about 8am. Then it’s mad rush to get everybody fed and out the door. Eldest takes care of himself really so just youngest as myself to worry about. On mornings when I don’t start work until 10 I come back from school run and just sit on the sofa until I have to leave. I permanently feel like I need to go to bed. I started taking some well woman vitamins and St Johns wort last week but I’ve missed a few days and not feeling any effect yet.

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BlancheM · 21/01/2019 18:08

I find it hard going to get up but I just make myself do it then I'm up. Then I just do my usual shower/makeup/hair routine.
Since having children, I actually cherish the early mornings, it's my me time.

SleepingBooty · 21/01/2019 18:10

I have 1.5hrs from getting up to out the door. That's plenty of time to sort myself out and make a lunch for work. The kids sort themselves out too. I only have to do a ponytail for my youngest.
I echo making future appointments before I leave hairdressers, dentist and nails. I use google calendar for these and enter any school stuff and party invitations as soon as I have them.
I meal plan, although quite fluid so I can switch it up if not as hungry or DH has already fed the DC.
I'm fairly organised but it's a craft I've had to learn.

greenelephantscarf · 21/01/2019 18:11

getting up earlier!
I could get ready and leave the house with dc/lunchboxes/showered etc within 45 min of getting up but that would be a rush. so I get up 45 min earlier. gan drink a cuppa in peace, talk to dc order shopping...

steppemum · 21/01/2019 18:11

OP
taking a step back, you wake up feeling shit.
Starting right there, ask some questions:

(apologies for some, just covering ground)
are you drinking anythignthe night before?
are you sleeping ok?
are you getting enough sleep?
do you snore massively (sleep apnaeia (how do you spell that??))
are you on any medication?
do you have any medical condition that affects you?
do your dcs wake you in the night ever/often?

If the answer to all thos eis no, then there is no reason for you to feel shit when you wake up, so trying to find out WHY you do is step one.

It coudl be, for example, that you are anaemic, and therefore over tired.

Sorting the sleep will sort the rest. Maybe that means going to bed earlier, or drinking less etc, or maybe it means a trip to GP to find out why you are chronically tired.

Being chronically tired is NOT a normal part of life!

SleepingBooty · 21/01/2019 18:14

OP it's the snooze that's making you feel tired. If you get up when you first wake your body will feel better for it. I always feel worse if I snooze the alarm. Drink plenty of water before bed, it could be dehydration.

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 21/01/2019 18:15

are you drinking anythignthe night before? no I don’t drink
are you sleeping ok? it takes me a long time to go over. Sometimes houses sometimes I wake up during the night too.
are you getting enough sleep? I don’t think so. I never feel rested.
do you snore massively (sleep apnaeia (how do you spell that??)). I don’t know, I’ve no partner to tell me!
are you on any medication? no
do you have any medical condition that affects you? no
do your dcs wake you in the night ever/often? no

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 21/01/2019 18:16

Houses= hours

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babysharkah · 21/01/2019 18:17

I go to bed early and get up early. Alarm goes at 600 and we don't leave until 815. I don't like stressing. Two mornings a week I go to a 615 gym class.

ivykaty44 · 21/01/2019 18:18

Put everything ready to wear at bedtime, make all lunches on a sunday night, go to bed by 9:30 most week nights, wake early, shower first & get dressed - do hair and makeup, child dressed before allowed downstairs ( no tv upstairs) and the breakfast. Always make sure we’re 20 minutes or so ahead of schedule

TitanicWasAGreatMovie · 21/01/2019 18:19

Yep, routine!
Bed the same time every night, everything for the morning ready the night before.
Reminders on my phone a week and a day in advance for anything and everything.
A grudging acceptance that good enough is bloody good enough. Perfection takes too much time.

theredjellybean · 21/01/2019 18:19

I used to think that people who couldn't get up and were disorganised in the morning were just lazy and undisciplined but as I have got older I have come to realise some people are just not morning people and some are.
My dexh just seemed unable to function in the mornings... Literally would stand in middle of kitchen while I wirled round him.
It made me so resentful... But now I see that he was good in the evenings when I collapsed at 7:30 and like to be in bed by 8:30
I do think being naturally organised helps.. I have regular appts for all maintenance.. Hair, nails etc, I exercise five mornings a week early that helps you feel energised in the morning.
I have regular reviews of wardrobe and check have enough stockings, underwear and shoes regularly cleaned and re heeled so choosing outfits that look put together is easy.
I also always choose outfit night before and hang underwear, stockings, shoes etc all together.
I also made my dc as independent as possible as young as possible so they did they uniform night before, checked bags, gotvpe kit ready etc.
And definitely no TV in the morning

steppemum · 21/01/2019 18:22

sorry OP - you didn't have to answer them to me!
Just a sort of check list of things that can make you wake up tired.
If none apply, then time to see a GP.

As you have answered them, I wonder about the not enough sleep. have you ever kept a sleep diary, and recorded how many night s a week you can't get to sleep for hours, or roughly how many hours you are getting?

Again, it is just a check list, if you do it and find you have on average only 4 hours a night, there is your problem. Then go further - why can't I drop off, look at food, stress etc. try relaxation techniques etc.

If you do a diary and realise you get on average a decent 7 hours, again, time to see GP

HollowTalk · 21/01/2019 18:25

I wake at 7 to make sure my eldest has gotten up with his alarm but then I go back to sleep until about 8am.

This is your mistake. You should get up then, have a shower, have a coffee, get dressed etc. By going back to bed you're going into a deep sleep and then it's really hard to wake up properly.

soberexpat · 21/01/2019 18:25

Sort everything you can the night before!

Lay out school uniforms, pack bags, select your outfit (including bran and knickers and jewellery!)

I even have the coffee cups ready next to the kettle.

Oh and I get up 15 mins before DD so I'm sorted when she gets up.

I could sleep walk through our morning routine and it's actually one of my favourite parts of the day as it's so calm and ordered.

Youmadorwhat · 21/01/2019 18:26

I have the lunches made the previous night, all uniforms and clothing laid out for easy dressing. I also put all bags and coats in the car ready to go.

Morning
6.30 wake up, downstairs make coffee and set DC (3 and 6) up with breakfast
6.45 go upstairs and have a quick face wash and brush teeth, put on clothes, and make beds.
7.00 back down to DC (hurry them on as they are slow eaters) then get youngest DC dressed and aid 6yr old with hair, tights etc
7.20 instruct them to brush teeth and put on shoes, and I usually set up the washing machine on a timed wash and clean up breakfast area.
7.35 I send DC to the playroom and I go upstairs to do hair and makeup (I like to spend time on this)
8.00 come down and tidy up playroom a bit, sort out any others jobs that need to be done
8.10 get DC in the car
8.15 leave
8.25 drop DC to school/Montessori
8.45/50 arrive at work

duckling84 · 21/01/2019 18:27

6am alarm goes off. Hit snooze
6.10am - repeat
6.20am reluctantly get up. Some times I'm up and bouncy and ready, other days I'm a zombie. Youngest is 3 and still wakes 2-3times a night though.
6.30am jump in shower for 10mins
6.50am, get dressed and do make up
7am, bounce downstairs and make tea and breakfast
7.30am wake up the 3 youngest dc (eldest is teen so gets her self up, dressed and fed)
7.35am feed kids, wave goodbye to dd, go and dry and style hair.
7.50 send dc to get dressed
8am walk out the door to worl whilst dh takes over and does the school run. He usually wakes about 7.15 and has a shower and gets ready whilst I feed and dress the dc.

MinorProphet · 21/01/2019 18:28

I suspect you need to go to the GP and get your iron, ferritin, B12, and D checked,as well as thyroid and other things they may want to test for. All easily treatable.

juneau · 21/01/2019 18:28

Get everything ready the night before
Get up 10 mins earlier than you think you need to.

Lessons bitterly learned!

kaytee87 · 21/01/2019 19:43

I only have 1 toddler to get ready and don't start work til 10 (plus only work 3 days a week).
7.00am Get up, have breakfast & clean up
8.00am Shower together, get him dry & wrap in towel in front of tv, get myself ready then dress him.
9.00am quick tidy up of house
9.15am Leave

(DH leaves the house at 7am so isn't part of the morning routine)

kaytee87 · 21/01/2019 19:44

Oh and I always pack our bags and look out our clothes the night before.

IdentifyasTired · 21/01/2019 19:46

I am not a glamazon by any means but I have 4 dc, including a baby and have never been late for school or nursery.

The only 'secret' is to get organised the night before and get up early.

So the night before: all bags are packed, lunch for nursery is made and packed, uniforms/clothes are laid out ready, shoes ready by the door, hats and gloves placed inside bags, water bottles cleaned and refilled.

Morning routine: Up at 6, shower and dressed first thing, bit of make up on. I have a 'uniform' of sorts myself. Always wear a dress, tights and a cardigan so getting dressed is a simple task. Children woken at 6.45. Dressed, hair done, breakfast and teeth brushed. That leaves plenty of time before setting off at 8.20-25. We're usually a few minutes early.

Truthfully speaking, it is good to be organised and far less stressful than rushing around in a panic but it can feel pretty dull at times! I love Saturday mornings when I can drink tea in bed and slob about.

kaytee87 · 21/01/2019 19:48

Watching / listening to something at bedtime would keep me awake longer!

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