Anyone else feel like they can't believe they have an actual baby/child?

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Bit odd I know, but I wondered if anyone else feels this way...

My baby is now 6 months old and I still can't really believe that he is mine. Every day I still think to myself 'wow, I grew him and gave birth to him'. I can't actually believe I am a mother.

For a long time, I felt like I didn't really 'know' him. Now, I have a very strong bond with him, I love the bones of him, but sometimes I feel like he was an amazing gift that was given to me rather than actually being 'mine'. Is that strange?!

I've got 3 and I still don't believe it

I think this loads and he's 2 Usually when he's asleep and quiet or being delightful... Less so when he's screaming the house down because I won't give him a second biscuit and doesn't want his coat on despite it being - 2° outside.

I feel the same. It's like I'm playing at being a grown up, if I talk about my daughter or say that I'm a mother.

Me too and she's nearly 3.
When she was tiny and I was pushing her in the push chair I would have to check that she was there and I wasn't imagining her because I couldn't see her.

Phew! Glad it's not just me

Yup I have 3 too. I remember a dear friend's mum saying she felt like this when we were at uni. Like she felt much like she did at 18 inside and only a 'grown up' looking outside. At the time it was weird but now I get what she was trying to say.

No, I don’t think it’s weird. I felt the same when DD1 was a baby. It was all a bit surreal for the first few months. She’s 9 and I’m used to it now!

I have a two year old and my twins are one, sometimes I look at them and can’t believe they’re really mine. I spent my life wanting babies and imagining what they’d be like and I can’t believe that they’re really people now

I do! When he calls for his mama it takes me a second and then I realise that mama is me and I'm responsible for an actual 2 year old

I'm going to be doing a school run, and have family holidays, and do Christmas and Easter shit because it is now my job because I am an actual proper mother.

I still look at him and think, wow, that is my son. Like I grew him inside of my womb and birthed him and kept him alive and he is in my house and I have to look after him forever, it's weird lovely but weird and I don't think I will ever fully come to terms with the fact that I am a mother!

Yep!! DD is 3 and I still struggle to get my head around the fact that she's an actual, proper little person with ideas and thoughts and feelings that I'm responsible for bringing up. It's awesome (and slightly terrifying!)

I'm the same, and my "baby" is 19.
I'm still absolutely besotted with her.
I could still put her on a butty and eat her.
Although I'll freely admit without shame. I.did have to grow to love her, too. There wasn't this instant ping of motherly love. Never mind the sun. The moon stars and whole universe shines out of her arse now

My DD is 5 and second due in a few weeks and still have days where I'm like "yeah this child is mine... How weird".

Yup I’ve got 2 and daily think, wow, how did that happen. Same with my house and husband tbh! Feels very surreal that those things happened even though they all take a long time to materialise/you get a lot of warning 😄 makes me worry that I’m not paying attention to what is actually happening to me haha.

I could still put her on a butty and eat her.

That is sooooo lush. So glad that doesn’t go away!

I don't feel like this but I do struggle it believe I was pregnant. When I see a pregnant woman I think I can't actually believe I experienced that and felt a baby moving inside me.

I have 5 children. My eldest turned 17 yesterday and when she was blowing her candles out I had a little moment of "wow I can't believe she's mine how have I got a 17 year old" I'm only 34 and my baby will be an adult next year ☹️

I’m having my 4th in May, my dc are 15, 14 and 18 months, and I’ll sometimes just sit back and watch them when they’re all together and it’s like, ‘I did that. I made them. These amazing people wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for me’ and then I get angry at all the sour pusses that sneer and try to belittle you when you say your kids are your greatest achievement, cos my kids are mine And I’d give up everything else I have ever achieved if it means they’re happy.

What gets me sometimes is, I know how much I love my kids, and I know other mothers must and do feel the same about their own, yet It’s sad, because you’d think that with all this love floating around that the world would be a better place.

So glad I started this thread, it's lovely.

When my little boy was first born and people would say 'oh do you want to go back to your mummy?' it used to take me a while to respond and then I'd be like oh shit, yeah, that's me

@HalfBloodPrincess I totally agree, but I also think I have become kinder, more patient and more forgiving of others since becoming a mother.

I can't believe I have a 28 year old, still besotted with him. Those first few years are just amazing and terrifying (mainly amazing).

I quite often have moments of thinking ‘wow, I can’t believe I have a baby!’ Said baby is now 19 months old but I waited a very long time for her and she was a bit of a surprise. Sometimes I’ll be watching TV downstairs in the evenings, like I used to in my childfree days, and I’ll think ‘right now, upstairs asleep, is my baby!’ And I’ll be amazed by her all over again when I see her in her cot when I go up to bed.

I’ve got two now, a 2 year old and 10 week old and I still feel like I’m pretending somehow! I can’t believe I am actual mum, responsible for these tiny people’s lives. I am not a proper mum, they always have tissues up their sleeve and cook roast dinners for Sunday lunch - I’m just muddling through!

Pivot I was thinking the exact same thing 5 minutes ago! I've been pregnant twice, once with twins, and I wish there were more photos (got 3) because it is just so hard to believe! Despite dealing with the consequences every day

Yes! Like who approved this, surely I'm not capable of being a proper parent

I love him so much though. I'd tear the world apart for him if I had to.

I have 2 - almost 14 & almost 17. I am still in denial about being pregnant. I am not sure I have yet managed to master the user manual.