Just need to vent and I'm being pathetic and selfish, I know this

[SoooVeryLazySigh]

I've had enough of the housework and all the menial stuff.

I've spent 3 hours just sorting, cleaning, sorting, washing and it's not even 10% done. I have 2 wash loads (dreaded socks and small stuff) to put away and 3 more to go on.....

It's just endless. I have an average household. But the washing, the washing! and all the ironing - it's endless - I have to change the beds and wash the towels today - I only do this once a week but it feels like I've just done it.

I don't do a great deal during week as I work, I do clean as I go and do washing most days.

I'm not hard done by and I'm sure I'm in the same boat as most home owners with a family - but I've just had enough.

I know the answer - get the kids to help more, don't stress so much but it just feels relentless and so boring.

I don't have any ferrying around to do during the week or weekends and my DH does all the cooking at the weekend so I am certainly not doing it all but I feel so fed up.

Doesn't help that the beautiful sunshine is showing ALL THE DIRT (it looked cleaner yesterday with it being dull )

Anyone else or is it just me? I do get plenty of down time (I think) but this makes it more difficult to motivate myself, because all this stuff is so boooooring and repetitive.

I just want to leave it all and go out for a lovely dog walk but I'll just have it all to come back to.

Do you have a partner to share the load with?

I've made a lot of progress by trying to fit in short periods of cleaning in the evenings.

Did you actually read the ops post Stompy? I agree it is relentless a d tedious and boring and getting your children to help isnt always that easy. I do it all by myself, noone to cook for me at the weekends! I dont know the solution. But you have my sympathy.

Re. Ironing - does everything need ironing?

I find a lot of stuff is passable when shaken, straightened and folded.

I’m trying to get more into the mindset with my kids that a jumper or a pair of jeans - if clean then it’s good for a few more wears. I was still in baby/toddler ‘wash after 1 wear as it’s probably grubby’

Can't you cut corners anywhere? Stop ironing so much, get the DC to strip their own beds.

I dont even own an iron. I remember my mum ironing pants and I just thought - Fuck that I'm off to the pub. No one has died yet.

I currently have everything in on a mixed wash. Will hang most of it up on hangers to dry and these go straight in the wardrobes. I even use hangers outside thanks to a mumsnet household tips thread.

I haven't ironed anything since 1976. I feel my life is better this way :)

Take clothes out of the dryer before they go through tbe cool down cycle and put straight onto hangers. You'll find hardly anything needs to be ironed. Takes longer to empty the dryer but skipping the ironing more than makes up for that.

Do your DC shower/bath of an evening? If they do, does the bedding really need to be done weekly? Maybe just a fresh pillow case every week, matress protector as well as sheet, and do the main change fortnightly. (If they shower in the morning then weekly probably needed!)

All socks and undies go clean into the same pile. Everyone has to sort out their own.
Kids will do dishwasher and help with cooking ( but I hate meal planning and buying the food!!)
I miss my dh, he’s in the navy and away. He’s very handy to have around the house ( will cook , meal plan and put the Hoover around).
I run the kids to all their clubs and take oldest to work/ pick him up

It’s dull I hear you. Maybe we could win the lottery 😂😂😂

Could you do towels one week and bedding the next?

What bedding do you wash? If you’re doing blankets could you switch to quilts?

I mean this wkrh kindness, but nobody needs to do 3 hours + cleaning in decades.

How do you have 5 loads of washing to do today if you already do a load every day???

I honestly don't know what you're doing. Even washing the kitchen floor only takes quarter of an hour.

Thanks for all the replies - to be honest, I know I could make changes but even so it would still be so dull and relentless.

If I wasn't doing to the regular tasks I would be fixing, sorting, moving stuff, filing, clearing out.

It's not just about all there is to do it's just how dull it all is....just wondered if anyone felt the same? It appears to be never-ending and just so much work - I guess that's life and I know I am extremely fortunate.

Buck up and get on with it is my new mantra....

Get something like this hamper for your laundry, then you are sorting as you go, when one is full it goes in the wash overnight.

It is dull, it is mind numbingly dull..... music helps, but hen dksturbs the rest of the household.

Are you sure you need to iron and change the sheets once a week? Sheets once a fortnight would save you time. I always used to iron but find a lot of clothes don’t need ironing these days especially if you tumble dry. I only iron the odd top.

I have to change the beds and wash the towels today - I only do this once a week but it feels like I've just done it.

Once a fortnight wont kill anyone. And as for ironing - fuck that!

God yes stop the ironing. I hope you're not ironing bedding too?

I think you need to get a mid week routine so you cam claim back some of your weekends. You say you don't have much time during the week but there will be times when you can do something to make the weekends easier. I used to clean the bathroom while the dcs were in the bath, wipe around their bedrooms and put their clothes away while they sat in bed settling down for a story, dust the lounge while the adverts were on etc. Think about all the jobs that need doing and find slots for them. Give your dh and dcs some too. Put a wash every evening while dinner is cooking then hang to dry overnight.

Leave weekends for bedding and towels only.

I assumed you were single until you mentioned your DH.

How old are the kids?

In answer to Elspeth, I've washed 2 bedding loads and a delicates wash that I've been putting off.

I've got next lot of bedding to wash and towels. I have 3 bathrooms.

The kids and DH all have clean shirt everyday and the uniforms are all wool and some bright, some light and some dark so they can't be washed in same load.

Only the shirts are clean everyday tho.

2 kids going through puberty so things need washing more often.

I am not an obsessive washer and do manage the washing (ie hang back up if just warn once and not for long).

And no, I don't iron bedding, I tumble dry or hang up neatly.

I only try not to use the tumble too much. But I do only really iron shirts and tops and uniform.

Can you get two days out of the school shirts? I do most days.

It's just soooo dull and repetitive and I am a lazy cah, though I fight it so hard no-one would believe that.

All I want to do is have a cake, lay on the sofa, Mumsnetting and binge watching Friends.....

Why is the uniform washing so complicated? Are you sure you can’t cut corners? You could halve the washing load if you got two days out of the uniforms and bedding once a fortnight.

Don't change the beds so frequently and iron watching something good on TV.

Probably should add that me and 2 of the kids have the very similar socks and knickers and it take new longer to sort, DH did it for me once and it went disastrously wrong....