Just need to vent and I'm being pathetic and selfish, I know this

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I've had enough of the housework and all the menial stuff.

I've spent 3 hours just sorting, cleaning, sorting, washing and it's not even 10% done. I have 2 wash loads (dreaded socks and small stuff) to put away and 3 more to go on.....

It's just endless. I have an average household. But the washing, the washing! and all the ironing - it's endless - I have to change the beds and wash the towels today - I only do this once a week but it feels like I've just done it.

I don't do a great deal during week as I work, I do clean as I go and do washing most days.

I'm not hard done by and I'm sure I'm in the same boat as most home owners with a family - but I've just had enough.

I know the answer - get the kids to help more, don't stress so much but it just feels relentless and so boring.

I don't have any ferrying around to do during the week or weekends and my DH does all the cooking at the weekend so I am certainly not doing it all but I feel so fed up.

Doesn't help that the beautiful sunshine is showing ALL THE DIRT (it looked cleaner yesterday with it being dull )

Anyone else or is it just me? I do get plenty of down time (I think) but this makes it more difficult to motivate myself, because all this stuff is so boooooring and repetitive.

I just want to leave it all and go out for a lovely dog walk but I'll just have it all to come back to.

Good idea Nico, I could just lay the duvet cover on top until need new then go for something else. Sorry cross posted about the socks.

No tips to add. I have fairly low standards and still find it tedious and relentless. And not all of us can afford a cleaner.

Could you get some of those mesh laundry bags for socks and knickers? Only put one person's stuff in any single bag (kids do it themselves) and then sorting would hopefully be much quicker? If you felt daring you could even name them so you know instantly who they belong to?

The DDs (4) have to sort the washing because is it is beyond DH and I to remember whose stuff is whose now they are older especially with my hand me downs/swaps!!!!

Def get them to strip their own beds and remake them fortnightly, they could even wash them during the week then stick in dryer. Hopefully the one with ill health can still partake with this or some other core whilst their sister does that bit?

We try and wash a few times during the week so there is only school uniform and PE kit that has to get done at weekends.

It is tedious!!!

I keep cleaning stuff in each bathroom so it gets cleaned as and when it needs doing and I'm more in the mood.

What about a robot vacuum cleaner?

And I hope you don't mind the assumption, but if you've had the income for a three bathroomed house, I think you are likely to be able to stretch to paying for cleaners to come in for a one off spring clean - that way, everything is sparkling and you only need keep on top of it until you get fed up/book a weekly cleaner/book them to come again.

It's easier to deal with washing if you can see out of your windows, IMO.

Agree it is boring as fuck.

The underwear thing - buy everyone a met washbag - they stick their grundies in it, you put it in the washer and the dryer and then you hand back to the owner. Protects bras too!

I listen to podcasts and radio 2 when I do specific jobs. Graham norton on a Saturday morning for the first 90 mins and on a Sunday night Paul o grady for meal prep. Helps it to be less torturous.

Chin up lass

Its fucking tedious op.

Its taken me 2 weeks to get to the point when the was basket was almost empty. A combination of a holiday mid December then Christmas and more clothes been worn by everyone without the routine of uniforms and work stuff.

Washed and dried 2 loads yesterday and didn't have a full load of anything today. Dds come home from a sleepover. 2 lots of jeans and hoodies, a pair of muddy trainers, decided her big dressing gown wants washing and stripped her bed, which is weekly but usually done Saturday afternoon then washed sunday morning.

So now the basket is full again and I have mine and ds bed to do as well.

Windows look filthy. Skirts are dusty. Am halfway through sorting kitchen cupboards and drawers out.

The sofas need cleaning and the carpets upstairs could do with doing.

Kids rooms were blitzed and deep cleaned beginning of December but could do with doing our room.

The bathroom needs repainting.

Then the decking needs jetwashing and oiling. All the pots need washing and sortibg ready for spring bedding plants. And the shed needs a good fettle and dh muttering about painting the fence this year.

And that's without even thinking about the huge allotment.

On top of all these extra jobs there is the normal fucking drudgery. Have delegated the ironing to DH this weekend. And he does ds bath and bed every night. And cooks on Saturday. And will do anything I ask to 'help' but I don't want fucking help I want it all to be someone elses problem.

But no one fucking cares about the skirting boards or the wash basket or a meal plan or the T towel drawer self identifying as a second fucking junk drawer.

It's boring and tedious and relentless and never, ever, ever fucking ends.

Beds are better changed each week. If you do it a day later each week after 7 weeks you will have skipped a week. I do this. Housework is very boring.

Beds are better changed each week.

Why?

Make everyone shower before bed and change once a month. Washing and putting away towels is so much easier. Stop ironing and adopt a four basket system. White and light, brights, black and jeans and towels. If it's not in the basket, don't pick it up or wash it. It's the only way we survive.

I recently discovered the sheets you put in the wash to catch colours. They really work and I got them dirt cheap from aldi. So you could mix colours to reduce loads.

I had a moan the other day to my Dsis about the exact same thing. It's just constant isn't it. Like you're forever chasing your tail. Don't worry I get it too. Music helps a lot.

Because they don't smell very nice if left too long. A month is way too long. Just my opinion. I'm all for dodging housework any way I can. Sorry I don't know how to quote.

I bought 6 school shirts for each of my dc and shoved them all in on a friday night. Straight from the washing machine onto hangers.
I also used net bags for socks and underwear.
Changed sheets once a fortnight, pillow cases once a week.
Teenagers can clean their own rooms.

Because they don't smell very nice if left too long. A month is way too long.

Mine don’t smell to begin with. If you wear PJs and/or are clean when you get in it, they won’t smell. There are quite a lot of options between a week and a month!

Wow!

"2 kids going through puberty so things need washing more often." At that age they are MORE than old enough to do own laundry (you could assign certain days to each person when they get to use washer) change own beds, do own ironing (if necessary), tidy, dust & Hoover own rooms... They could even each make a simple meal once a week.

As for dh - he cooks at weekends is that it?! He's also "big & ugly enough" to do own laundry & ironing, tidy own mess away, Hoover at a weekend etc

Why are you doing it all? Do you work?

Re all the different colours of uniform - colour catchers!!

www.amazon.co.uk/packs-Colour-Catcher-sheets-Caraselle/dp/B0036BCQVG

"He might work long hours but you are also working too? Tbh gardening is mostly a hobby, DIY, taking the dog out and cooking are all the fun tasks.

Youve got all the drudgery tasks" I agree with this too.

Is there a reason you & 2 DC have similar socks? Could you tag each persons with a different coloured thread when you get new? Eventually they'd all be tagged and someone else could match up? I knew a family with 4 kids and it was the youngests job to Match clean dry socks once a week - daily done sat watching a film of a Sunday.

"Give each kid a netting bag or pegs to keep their socks in pairs" even better idea than mine, different coloured nets or tightly tied ribbon as a marker.

Exactly what is the situation with the ill child? Because it's very rare that one would be too ill to do anything, can they not even do sock pairing or sorting their own laundry when they discard into hamper? It could actually be good for them emotionally/mentally to be a contributing member of the household. Or could they draw out/colour a rota for everyone?

It's not about how to make it easier, I know I could change things. I'm not being walked over, I chose to operate like this.

I just find it so dull and relentless. I was just offloading. Even if I did 25% of what I'm doing know, I'd still find it dull......

... then get a cleaner

Then accept that this is what you choose. There is a payoff that you want ie clean and tidy home.
Make it more bearable with good music, radio and audiobooks and have somethings to look forward to.