What time does your 10 year old go to sleep?

[RhubarbTea]

Just heard DS arsing about upstairs and he is still not asleep. I'm a single parent and don't get a lot of evening to myself as he's up later and later and yet still wakes up bright and early... What time does your 10 year old go to bed? I think I need to get my head round the fact he's getting older but I haven't yet.
His bedtime was supposed to be 8pm but has now crept to 9, which means he's often still awake at 10 faffing about. Argh! I can't fully relax until he's asleep whch I know is my issue but I'm an introvert and I desperately need time alone to recharge.

Just heard ‘muuum, I can’t get to sleep’! 🙄Bedtime here is 9pm but often she isn’t asleep until 10ish. Also on my own!

my eleven year old goes to bed at 9 and is allowed to read or watch tv till 10 and then it’s lights out and he goes straight to sleep.

Do you make sure he isn't using any screens later in the evening? If he is, he will be wired and not able to drop off. Ideally no screen time at least a full hour before bedtime.

My 9 year old goes at 8.30, asleep by 9.

Up to bed at 8:30, read until 9-9:15, 9:30/10 on weekends. Up at 7:15 weekdays, 8 on the weekend.

I aim to have him upstairs in bed by 8:30, he can then listen to his audio CD for about half an hour. If he’s still awake he can listen for another half an hour. I like the audio CDs because I think he often drifts off whilst listening. If he lays there in silence he seems to find it really hard to fall asleep.

9 yr old here is upstairs at 8.30, in bed 9.15ish and asleep between 9.45 and 10.30pm. Also is up bright and bouncing by 7am without fail.

DD is not 10 anymore but at that age it was about 8:30pm (could read until 9pm though) during the week. She generally had activities, then had to do homework, dinner, shower etc. Was about 8pm by the time she finished that! Then she needed some time to chill.

Weekends was 9:30pm

Like you I wanted a couple of hours peace!

Ds is 10. He goes up between 8.30 - 9 but is often still awake at 10. I don’t stress about it as long as he’s not bothering me! But he does struggle to get up in the morning unfortunately. On a weekend he’s never up before 9am. On Christmas Day we had to wake him to get up and open his presents!

Ugh it's getting later and later. Screens off by 8 and into bed by 9. She's still faffing about at 10 though, and is difficult to get up for school in the mornings. Weekends she sleeps in late, usually till around 10.

God I wish mine would sleep in. He doesn't ever have screens just before bed and I often read to him and then chat to him or we have a quick cuddle. Which is lovely, but sometimes I want to scream "it's almost 10pm! Go the feck to sleep!!' I do not, of course.
I think he may finally be asleep. I'm going to have to work on a different bedtime routine I think, perhaps where he is able to read for 30 mins to relax before lights off while I potter downstairs.

At ten DD was lights out by 9.15, she’d go up about 8.30 and read for a bit. Pretty sure she was mucking about a bit afterwards but was usually flat out well before 10pm.

The advice is no screens for at least 2 hours before bedtime

School nights in bed for 8pm,, lights out by 8.30-goes straight to sleep. Later on fri/Saturday

My 9 year old goes to bed at 8. He'd be wrecked if he went to bed at 10pm!

Mine is reading from 8pm, lights out 8.30pm, gets woken up 7.30am.

11 year old goes to bed between 8:30 and 9 and usually falls asleep very quickly. Up at 6:30.

Screens off (not tv's) between5.30 and 6 depending when tea is ready, upstairs to read around 7.30 lights out by 8. I wake dd at 7. On weekends it's not much different but lights out are by 8.30.
I am on my own and work in childcare I NEED alone time in the evening to switch off!!

9 on a school night
10 at weekends if he wants to (but often doesn’t)

9 and up at 7.

Dd has only just turned 10, we aim for in bed by 7.40 reading till 8pm but some nights it creeps forward.

She definitely couldn't cope with constant 9/10pm bedtime she's exhausted this week because her grandparents came to visit for her birthday and she's been up late.

There's another thread on this topic OP, might be worth a read of that too.

My 9 1/2 year old DS is usually in bed reading or listing to an audio book by 8-8:30pm on a school night (same time as his 7 year old sister). I pop up about half an hour later to kiss them goodnight. I tell them just to finish the chapter they're reading then put out the lights and settle down. I suspect they often read for much longer and are certainly sometimes awake for quite a while, but I try not to police them once I've said goodnight.

Apart from the occasional film or TV at the weekends they're not allowed on screens after about 6:30pm. As long as they are quiet and in their rooms I let them get on with it. They both always get up at about 6:30am regardless of what time they go to bed.

I'm trying to get used to the fact that OTHER PEOPLE are awake in the evenings, and to learn to switch off even when they're not asleep!

I'm trying to get used to the fact that OTHER PEOPLE are awake in the evenings, and to learn to switch off even when they're not asleep!

This is it essentially, I need to wrap my head around this as I am used to being able to chill on my own. DS has ASD and is home educated so I feel like he is always in my face needing help with stuff or wanting to play, so I expect that is why I am so desperate for some alone time come evening.
I've told him tonight I'll read to him early, around 8 to 8.30 and after that he can read quietly by himself before lights out at 9. We'll see how he gets on...

Mine go to bed at 8 but often mess about for half an hour.

I think I’ll move their bedtime. They’ll like that as their little brother goes at the same time.

Tbf my 13 yr old is in bed by 8.30/9 on a school night.