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Horrible experience feeling really shaken

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insidecardboardboxes · 10/01/2019 16:24

Was just walking down the road (a residential street) with my one year old in his buggy and was about to cross the road when this complete lunatic comes haring down the road, easily doing 60 miles an hour. If I had stepped off the kerb about 10 seconds later he would have hit us both. I shouted at him, more out of shock than anything else and then I see he's stopped his car up ahead. Feeling quite scared so I turned and walked the other way, then he starts following me in his car down the street so I go into a shop and say to the woman I've just come in for a minute because there's a man outside I'm scared of. A minute later he follows me into the shop, gets right up in my face, screaming at me, saying I'm a cunt and a bitch, don't fuck with him, who do I think I am. All while my little boy is crying in his buggy. I really thought he might hurt me. Just stood there blabbering "I'm sorry, I'm really sorry". Eventually he went. Was too frightened he might still be outside so stood in the shop for ages then walked another way home.

Feel pathetic and awful but I'm really shaken up. My stepdad was violent and used to hurt my mother and all I could think of was that this man was going to hurt me and my son.

I'm so scared to go back out now in case I see him again. I walk down that road every day.

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youarenotkiddingme · 10/01/2019 18:44

You should be amazingly proud of yourself for walking home afterwards. That's a strong woman there.

Absolutely terrifying for you.

I was driving a few months ago and a misjudged space so my back wheels rested on the zebra crossing white lines (the lines either side not the actual crossing). I'd been there 5 seconds of so when a huge man flew at me and stated hammering my car and kicking it and screaming abuse at me.
Yes - technically - I was in the wrong but like you I just think there's some crazy people out there who over react to anything. They are dangerous. I was extremely shaken up too.

Gin
Bigonesmallone3 · 10/01/2019 18:47

I'm glad u have reported it OP I would have advised u to do that.. don't be afraid, in the unlikely event that you cross paths again he will probably feel silly regarding the way he acted especially if he tells anyone that he had a go at a woman and her child who was apologising profusely..
I really hope the police catch up with him..

ChesterGreySideboard · 10/01/2019 18:47

Need to move out of London. Been here my whole life and it gets worse by the day.

Sadly there are cunts like this all over the country.

Troels · 10/01/2019 18:52

Get your Dh or someone to go to the shop with you and ask them if they have CCTV and let them know you need it for the Police. Also see if you can get in touch with the lady working, and let her know, she was a witness to it all and might be asked questions by the Police. I hope they take it seriously.
If not I'd be tempted to make a new name and open a Facebook account and let the whole area see what a cunt he is.

fluffiphlox · 10/01/2019 18:54

Police.

insidecardboardboxes · 10/01/2019 19:05

Thanks everyone I really appreciate all your kind words and advice

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4forkssake · 10/01/2019 19:36

Write everything down including the description of him while it's clear. And easier said than done, but try to go out ASAP, with someone at first if need be. Otherwise you might work yourself up into not wanting to go out.

tablelegs · 10/01/2019 19:36

That's awful!

nottakingthisanymore · 10/01/2019 19:40

How awful for you op. You were very brave to walk home afterwards. So sorry this happened to you.

ourkidmolly · 10/01/2019 19:45

Yes don't minimise this. Report to police. He's more than a bully. He's unhinged.

RadioGagga · 10/01/2019 19:49

Bastard shouldn't get away with it. Hugs.

theluckiest · 10/01/2019 20:06

Oh you poor thing, I sympathise completely.

Nearly exactly the same thing happened to me - was pushing DS in his buggy & we had started to cross a zebra crossing to get to the local shop. Some dickhead doing at least 40 failed to stop & instead drove towards us at speed so I had to pull us back, quick. Shocked, I loudly said 'You are supposed to stop!' as he drove off. Big mistake.

Prob because I was a silly little woman who dared speak to him, the knob actually drove round the nearby roundabout at the top of the road and back towards me, then screeched to a halt to hurl abuse.

Had got across the road by then & just watched, open mouthed as he called me a 'stupid fucking bitch' among other things.

As he didn't get out of the car, I just shook my head sadly & said something alone the lines of 'Nice language in front of a baby.' Which tbh might not have been the wisest thing to say, but prompted him to yell a final expletive at me and then drive off.

Utter cunt. Not a single person in the shop (they had witnessed it all) met my eye or said anything apart from a lady who tutted, & shook her head sympathetically in my direction!!

I was shook up for a few days & just kept thinking about if he was happy to abuse a strange woman with a young baby in public whether had a wife or gf or kids who put up with far worse...

CottonSock · 10/01/2019 20:10

You did everything right. I hope the police follow up, they would where I live

insidecardboardboxes · 10/01/2019 20:20

Can't get his stupid horrible face and voice out of my head. Got to go out first thing tomorrow and walk down that road to take DS to nursery.

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Anothermothersusername · 10/01/2019 20:26

I hope he doesn’t have a poor wife/ partner at home. Imagine living with that everyday Sad

Bigonesmallone3 · 10/01/2019 20:26

U will be fine, have ur phone in hand.. camera at the ready in the unlikely event u see him again

insidecardboardboxes · 10/01/2019 20:31

A man that angry has almost definitely been a DV perpetrator before. I could just tell by the vile way he spoke to me.

I wish carrying pepper spray was legal.

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TheCrowFromBelow · 10/01/2019 20:32

Have a hug and a cup of tea from me OP you poor thing.
It’s horrible being called names and being in the end of aggression from strangers. I don’t think he will be there tomorrow.

insidecardboardboxes · 10/01/2019 20:53

It was the fact he actually turned his car round, got out of it and came to find me.

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Nativityriot · 10/01/2019 21:09

OP a VERY similar thing happened a few years ago to me near to our flat in London... the guy stayed in his car but kerb crawled along beside me and the buggy after we had dared to cross the road as he came speeding round the corner across a junction and nearly killed us, muttering next time you bitch I’m going to kill you, I’m going to mow you down you bitch, etc. The worst thing was there was quite a few onlookers, guy in a van etc, but they all thought he was someone I knew just chatting out the car window to me! Then he just sped off. After looking at me and the wall behind me and genuinely seeming to consider whether he could off road and flatten me and the buggy. It was absolutely terrifying, I was sure he had a knife. Unfortunately I lived beside one of the mahoosive crime-ridden council estates where crime was rife (I’d always previously lived on or beside estates with no problems, so not a dig at them, this one was hectic though). I just kept walking very slowly, didn’t make eye contact or engage, pure grey rock.

You did absolutely the right thing, just placate placate placate, keep your and your baby’s life safe.

I always wonder if guys like these would have joined up or gone and fought a war somewhere in eras gone by, it’s like they have all this aggression and nowhere to go.

allupsidedown · 10/01/2019 21:32

That sounds awful. My aunt's husband (I refuse to call him my uncle) was an abusive twat. I remember being terrified in his car as a child as he hurtled around at speed and shouting abuse at anyone who pulled him up on it. Thankfully he is dead - so it wasn't him but there are truly awful people around. I'm saddened that the lady in the shop didn't help you, at least when he had gone.
Hope you are ok.

insidecardboardboxes · 10/01/2019 21:32

nativity I'm so sorry that happened to you, that sounds horrific.

Police have emailed me saying they won't do anything as based on the information I've given there's not enough. Didn't even bother to ask the shop woman if she has CCTV.

It's no more than I expect of them tbh, my stepfather was never arrested despite multiple instances of violence.

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CallMeRachel · 10/01/2019 21:56

I'm sorry you experienced this.

You will not be his only victim. By reporting him you may be saving his wife/girlfriend/dog/kid from a beating tonight.

You never know, he could be on bail and will go straight into custody.

You have a witness and potentially cctv. The police can put you down as c/o police for witness address if that's what you're worried about.

CallMeRachel · 10/01/2019 21:58

Oh sorry cross posted I didn't see your update.

That's shocking, how disappointing from the police.

Where I live we still have a good standard of policing and this would be dealt with.

insidecardboardboxes · 10/01/2019 21:59

sadly they have already closed the case rachel.

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