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Does anyone else find the comments made by this mans son odd?

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HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 10/01/2019 09:17

So one of the sons in the recent news story regarding a man who found out his 3 children were not actually his, when he discovered he was actually infertile, has spoken out.

He is 19 years old and during his interview he made some comments which I found really peculiar.

"'I've not fallen out with Mum over this. We're all OK. She had just had an unhappy marriage and she wanted kids."

"It didn't hurt me. I felt nothing. It didn't really matter because we were grown up and he and my mum were divorced."

Is it just me who thinks these comments are strange and not what you would expect from an 19 year old talking about how his mother deceived another man and her children into believing they were related.

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LadyKalila · 10/01/2019 09:20

I don't find it strange at all, he obviously has no feeling for the man who lied to him for years.

UnsungHero · 10/01/2019 09:21

I have a newly turned 20 year old son

Have to say I don't find those remarks unusual in any way either

myrtleWilson · 10/01/2019 09:21

I don't think the Dad did lie did he?

potatoscone · 10/01/2019 09:21

Nah totally detached isn't abnormal in this type of situation

UnsungHero · 10/01/2019 09:22

He's probably still processing it all and will develop a new opinion every few days

Bowchicawowow · 10/01/2019 09:22

How did the man lie?

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HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 10/01/2019 09:23

he obviously has no feeling for the man who lied to him for years

His father didn't lie to him, his father believed the children were his biological sons until he found out a few years ago he was infertile.

Surely by that logic he should have no feelings for the women who lied to him for years?

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Birdsgottafly · 10/01/2019 09:24

I think that he is exceptionally mature and has excellent reasoning skills. He's also got a high level of empathy for his age.

They know what went on in the marriage and its very telling that they have dropped contact with him, now he is suing the Mother.

The impression given from some reporting of this, is that he knew about the Affair.

Birdsgottafly · 10/01/2019 09:26

"He's probably still processing it all and will develop a new opinion every few days"

He's known since 2016. It couldn't be reported on because the children were under 18.

myrtleWilson · 10/01/2019 09:27

I read the youngest child was still in contact with him

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 10/01/2019 09:28

I guess we just don’t know enough about what went in in the family. It’s a shitty situation but the dad may we’ll have been a complete nightmare and maybe the son would have cut off contact anyway.

Either way, what teenager would want to be gossip rag news ‘my dad isn’t my dad’ type ‘news’ stories.

Birdsgottafly · 10/01/2019 09:28

Just to add re him knowing about the Affair. The children, all born four years apart, are the same man's.

Sarahjconnor · 10/01/2019 09:29

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Birdsgottafly · 10/01/2019 09:29

myrtleWilson, the youngest are twins, two of his children are NC and one hasn't cut contact.

LemonBreeland · 10/01/2019 09:30

I find it sad that only one of the DC is still in contact with him. It makes you wonder about their family relationship.

I do feel sorry for this man to find out after so long he is not a father. I also feel for the 3 sons having lived a lie too.

Pretyui · 10/01/2019 09:31

I don't find it odd, as pp said he will have more insight into why her marriage was unhappy and her motives then Joe public.

Thesearmsofmine · 10/01/2019 09:34

To me it sounds like maybe the dad wasn’t that involved in his life much post divorce so he hasn’t lost out.

I think that it is terrible to do what this woman did(if it is as the story said) but I also think he did something terrible by going to the press and allowing them photos of those boys.

PoliticalBiscuit · 10/01/2019 09:35

Well whatever he tells the press I'd take with a pinch of salt, who wants to give them your deep soul searching? Vultures.

That said, the eldest very clearly said to his Dad "if you sue Mum, I'll never talk to you again."

I can understand that opinion.

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HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 10/01/2019 09:37

I guess we just don’t know enough about what went in in the family.

Very true. I suspect it is a difficult thing to be part of and its difficult to imagine how you would react in that situation. I wonder if they will track down their biological father as they get older.

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Perfectly1mperfect · 10/01/2019 09:43

It's the daily mail. 😬

But it sounds like the son didn't have contact with his father even before this came to light. The son said he noticed from age 15 that his dads behaviour was off, that he was manipulative and not someone he wanted to be around. So clearly not dad of the year in his sons eyes even before this happened. I think that if he'd been a good dad and they had been close, the son would have thought his mums behaviour was totally wrong. I presume he's standing by mum because dad wasn't great but obviously I don't know. The mum was completely wrong to lie to this man. But if the son has seen dad treating mum badly and he's not been a great dad then it pretty normal this lad is protecting his mum. Shit situation but as I said, it's in the daily mail so who knows.

Wotev · 10/01/2019 09:48

There are a lot of children raised in the world with Daddy not being the real Daddy. I'm not sure why the media has jumped all over this one. Perhaps because of Dad's millions.

Juells · 10/01/2019 09:53

You'd think that even if you found out children weren't yours, if you'd brought them up since they were born you'd feel like they were yours, and not want to hurt them by disowning them.

feministfairy · 10/01/2019 09:54

I thought the son came over as thoughtful and grounded. This man has sold his story to the press. Yes he was 'wronged' but at the heart of this are the three boys and it is telling that their needs came last after his wish for publicity, revenge and no doubt money. And now he's demanding that the other man comes forward. Again creating a drama and publicity involving the boys. How vile.

It is telling that they want nothing to do with him.

winsinbin · 10/01/2019 09:55

It’s a natural reaction but a very sad one. I am sure (as other people have said) that as he processes it over the years, and particularly if he has children of his own, he will go through many conflicting feelings and emotions about this.

fruitbrewhaha · 10/01/2019 09:59

Well, I expect he may be a bit embarrassed that this has all come out. The alternative would a be a emotional teary response at how he can't trust his mother now, or doesn't know who he really is, or has lost a dear father. Perhaps he is just giving a bland answer to an intrusive reporter.