Can I have some sympathy please, I walked around for two days with a fractured spine

[darksideofthemooncup]

I'm not getting a whole lot of sympathy or help at home.
I was thrown from a horse last Friday, I knew I'd hurt myself but thought as I could walk it couldn't be that bad.

Turns out I have multiple spinous process fractures, it's agony and although I will be fine and don't need any treatment other than rest and painkillers I am feeling extremely sorry for myself.

Mulberry, no I didn't, I could barely stand let alone heave myself back on. Not sure I will ever ride again to be honest

I really feel for you! I went to A&E in agony and was told they wouldn’t do an X-Ray as it was a pulled muscle and to come back in 2 weeks if no improvement. I told my DH that I would kill myself rather than live with the pain (bit dramatic I know) but pain was horrendous. Went back for x-ray and I had been walking about with a T12 fracture. Take care of yourself

God I got up and walked after a total L1 fracture. A mile down the road I was screaming in agony, properly hysterical. Hope you continue to heal well.

I found I couldn’t lay down or get comfortable it really was the worst pain I have ever experienced. I didn’t get any sympathy either. Please take care of yourself

Mine are T3 - T10 spinous process fractures, basically my muscles and tendons sheared them off with the force of the fall, apparently St Mary's has never seen so many in one person, there is still a chance I might have to have fusion surgery but I'm hoping that won't be the case

A very close relative of mine had several spontaneous vertebral fractures due to an underlying undiagnosed condition. Spent 3 months being told it was just muscular skeletal, even had physio. After a stand off at the GP paid for an MRI - multiple fractures which then needed surgery.

This person has been married a very long time. Their spouse has done everything for them, willingly, as their life has ground to a halt.

I've observed just how painful this is so you have every sympathy from me. I'm not surprised this is the straw that's broken the camel's (not yours !!) back with your marriage. How do you come back from being shown such disdain.

@darksideofthemooncup

Fours years ago my ex racer bolted with me (I stupidly put her in a bit less bridle ) sidepull and when she set her neck I realised I had no breaks!

She threw me, whilst flat out. I hit the deck.
Remarkably I got up and walked away, we are horse riders we don't bother with hospital

I was hobbling around for a few days but over time I 'healed'. Approx six months later I woke one morning to find I was paralysed from the waist down.

Visit to A&E resulted in being told six months earlier when my mare tried to bury me i had fractured my spine in two places, had water in bone marrow, an infection, calcification and various other shit going on.

Very long story short, I will need to surgery to open up the fused bones. But while I'm walking (kind of) I will carry on as I am. There are days where the pain is unbearable (this is controlled with steroid injections and pain killers) and I now have the winter off from ridden work because the arthritis and cold weather makes it impossible to ride.

I have a good excuse for now being a fair weather rider.

I still ride the lunatic, I just can't get off once I'm on!

You poor, poor thing. That all sounds dreadful.

One can only hope your husband twats himself on the head with his own golf club and renders himself useless for a while. Entirely self-inflicted so deserving of no sympathy. What a bellend

I have to add, after the fall I didn't go to hospital. I could still just about walk and ride so I carried on.

The surgeon was not a happy chap when I told him the series of events.

Blimey bayandblonde! Yes us horse riders are made of tough stuff but this has shaken me. I hope tour op works out well, I have great respect for you for still riding!

Your op!

You sound very brave. Your injury will heal - take the time and rest you need. Don’t further take health risks because of your H.

Your husband literally doesn’t have your back. Horrible.

darksideofthemooncup your injuries sound horrendous. Ignore your DH. Just concentrate on healing and caring for you.

You definitely have my sympathy

That's absolutely disgusting treatment from him. I genuinely couldn't forgive my dh if he behaved with such little empathy or care.

@darksideofthemooncup

Obviously you are not riding at the moment, but you will get on again??

I have actually found, with my mare now having winters off she comes back a much nicer and more mature horse. She likes the time off too.

Over the last couple of years I found the riding actually helps my back. It helps keep my back muscles strong.

I had a new saddle made for her, which included memory foam in the seat for me. That has helped massively.

And obviously a back protector, I never ride without it now ( I wasn't wearing it at the time of the accident)

Bayandblonde, not sure at the moment, I was adamant when I was immobilised in hospital that I would never ever ride again but I have a horse mad daughter so am very much still going to be around them. I wasn't wearing a back protector either (although my Dd was and does) so IF I decide to ride again I will definitely purchase one first

I fractured L1-L4 after a catastrophic fall from my old boy, now sadly no longer with me.
It took a year for the NHS to finally diagnose the fractures.
By then it was too late for any effective treatment.
I did carry on riding, but I had lost my nerve, so we retired together.
Don't make any rash decisions, OP

Have you damaged it any more by walking around?

My sympathies.
It happened to me when I was 16, bucked off by my own (evil) horse. It was a couple of months before anyone realised I had broken my spine. I was in agony and still get back pain.
It's a big shift in thinking as much as anything else. I miss riding and I dream about it, but was warned that my spine is too rubbish for it now. I only rode once afterwards.

Big sympathies ... no hugs lol 😆

I found out I broke a rib ... 2 years after it happened! When physio told me it all fell into place .... the pain, stiffness, inability to move properly 🙄 can't believe I didn't get it checked out

Blimey - a narrow escape 😱. Rest up and get planning that exit strategy. It sounds a wise plan

Ouch, poor you, darkside 💐 & 🍩
That sounds so scary and painful

Take care of yourself now and don't do any chores for that unsympathetic bugger while you are recovering.

An ex-friend who golfs (she was horrid too - what is it about golf ?) seriously buggered her knee playing
If your OH does that, you can recycle the "self-induced" whinges

Bloody horses. I don't think I can think of any of my horse friends who hasn't got a horse related injury from a fall,or a bad back from mucking out etc. Wish you well OP.

You have my sympathies OP! Your husband on the other hand sounds like a prize twat. Lets hope that he gets hit on the head by a stray golf ball, which of course would be 'self inflicted' since he chooses to go play golf in the first place

I am so sorry that you are in pain and even sorrier that your husband has been so unsupportive. Perhaps you could ask him at what his understanding of "in sickness and in health" is. A doctor has said that you need rest. Need. He has to step up and see that your needs are met.