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Flamed for my anxiety but I’m determined to beat this. Guess what I’ve just done!

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GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/12/2018 15:27

I recently posted when I was in need of distraction due to a situation my ds2 was in a few weeks back. I was waiting to hear he had arrived safely and just needed something else to concentrate on so I didn’t harass him with messages. Whilst some posters were lovely, there was the usual crew sticking the boot in with insensitive remarks about my anxiety. I had to walk away before I let myself get worse.

Anyway, I’m continuing on my progress to recovery and one has been to not message the children asking where they are etc unless they are late/ I have an actual cause for concern. The whole holiday I have succeeded and just now I let the two older ones and a friend take dd (8) out with them too. They are ultra sensible and I haven’t given rules/ times because I know I can trust their judgment. They have phones if needed and I doubt they’ve gone far, probably over fields, the park or shop or something.

I’m mindful that they are out and I’m thinking of them, but there’s no panic attack, no chest pain, no pacing around.

I can and will be fine!

Happy new year to you all!

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Joyeuxjoel · 30/12/2018 15:29

I remember your thread. Well done OP!

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/12/2018 15:37

Thanks :-)

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RunSweatLaughAndLatte · 30/12/2018 15:38

Well done OP, anxiety is difficult but you are strong 💪

Also there will always be people that want to stick the boot in. I was suicidal a while ago and people still kicked me while I was down. But here I am, rising up from the ashes like "fuck you wankers, I'm better now!"

AornisHades · 30/12/2018 15:41

I remember your thread too. Well done :)
I have taken steps this year to address my severe anxiety and it is working. Feels good to have some control back!

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/12/2018 15:56

It’s amazing when you start to talk about it, just how many people are also suffering.

Flowers to anyone going through the same and thank you Smile

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Carol020582 · 30/12/2018 15:58

Excellent work, OP!

Whatififall · 30/12/2018 16:07

Well done! What a huge step forward for you Flowers

cantfindname · 30/12/2018 16:08

Anxiety about your kids is a massive hurdle to overcome. Well done you for loosening the leash. Flowers

PhilomenaNewYearButterfly · 30/12/2018 16:11

Well done!

DD 11 suffers from anxiety. How should I help her?

PineapplePen07 · 30/12/2018 16:14

That's fantastic Georgie 😀.

As a fellow anxiety sufferer I know how hard that is but honestly the more you take these steps the easier it gets.

MunchMunch · 30/12/2018 16:18

Well done OP!

I have anxiety and depression which I'm now on sertraline for which has helped a lot!

I totally get where you're coming from and I try not to "pester" my ds1 who is nearly 19 when he goes out but I do like to text him and ask him where he is and who he's with at least once just to set my own mind at ease.

It's hard to let go of your dc and give them a bit of space but it's even harder when you suffer anxiety.

VoleClock · 30/12/2018 16:25

Good for you, OP Flowers

Lovemysofa · 30/12/2018 16:30

Well done, that's a brilliant step forward. Anxiety is awful and even when you recognise you're in the grips of it, it is so debilitating. Ignore the critics and keep on moving forwards, xx

BifsWif · 30/12/2018 16:33

Philomena do you have a CAMHS referral for your daughter?

There are also some excellent workbooks to help children with anxiety, I haven’t used them but heard good things. Google or Amazon should throw some up.

PhilomenaNewYearButterfly · 30/12/2018 16:37

Yes Bifs, she starts one to one in March.

Thanks for the heads up about workbooks.

PhilomenaNewYearButterfly · 30/12/2018 16:49

What if she just said no to workbooks?

AcrossthePond55 · 30/12/2018 20:08

Oh, wonderful! Congratulations Georgie and a huge WELL DONE to you!

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/12/2018 20:22

Thank you 🙏 I feel really positive moving in to the new year.

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DMCChristmasCakes · 30/12/2018 20:26

Well done OP! That's brilliant progress!

TyneTeas · 30/12/2018 20:30

Well done OPFlowers

this free app from Bristol University for anxiety is quite helpful

www.sam-app.org.uk/

spiderlight · 30/12/2018 20:30

I remember your thread. So pleased for you that you're taking positive steps to beat your anxiety :)

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/12/2018 20:42

Thank you. I already was taking steps and seeking treatment for several months. The assumption (and thread de-rail) was that I wasn’t. The steps have been small and sometimes backwards before going forwards but I’m really proud of myself for actively encouraging my children out of the house. I didn’t even watch them leave from the window which I used to always do but stealed myself away Blush

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Millie2013 · 30/12/2018 20:44

Wow!! That’s amazing progress Flowers

Orchidflower1 · 30/12/2018 20:45

Good for you! 👏🏻👍🏻

solomonsfish85 · 30/12/2018 21:55

I'm in the same situation at the moment with worrying about my ds1 being out im always ringing him to see wjere je is. I think im being a bit suffocating! would love to read the original thread. Has anyone got a link please?

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