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Snoring OMG what worked except LTB?

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 08:06

I am so sleep deprived. DH comes to bed, falls asleep and starts snorting, snoring, so loudly. I wake up about ten times a night, nudge him but however he sleeps makes no difference. We don't have a spare room or bed.

He tried a pillow for snoring 🙄 and apparently the GP said not much could be done. I can't face the rest of my life with no sleep. I'm the main carter for the kids incl one who is very unwell and this is not helping.

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2cats2many · 30/12/2018 08:08

Silicon earplugs for me. They sell them in Savers. They're better and more comfortable than the expensive ones I used to buy from the Snore Store.

FlibbertyGiblets · 30/12/2018 08:11

The GP will not have said not much can be done. Husband needs to ask for a referral to a sleep clinic. He just doesn't fancy a cpap machine I'll bet.

LoniceraJaponica · 30/12/2018 08:14

I agree with Flibberty. I suspect that the GP has given advice that he doesn't want to follow.

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Elderflower14 · 30/12/2018 08:16

My late DH was a horrendous snorer. We spent a night in a TravelLodge and his snoring was the worst EVER.
I poked, prodded, rolled and kicked him. Nothing worked so I took decisive action.
DH woke in a panic in the morning as I wasn't in the bed. He was very relieved when he found me asleep in the bath with the spare bedding!

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 08:18

Oh god am I condemned to sleeping in the bath? 😂

Am out today so will look for silicone earplugs.

Interesting that you think the GP may have said more - I will interrogate him when he wakes up. Bastard is slumbering peacefully.

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Mammyofasuperbaby · 30/12/2018 08:19

My dp is a terrible snorer. Its all down to not being able to breathe properly at night. He got a nasal spray from the gp which dialates his air ways and we all get better sleep because of it.
I highly doubt the go said nothing can be done

ArabellaUmbrella · 30/12/2018 08:24

Separate bedrooms. That is why I am still happily married after 20 years together.

BookwormMe · 30/12/2018 08:26

Is he overweight? Losing a few pounds will definitely lessen the snoring. That and having a spare room for you to escape to.

Deeedeeee · 30/12/2018 08:26

Does he drink? If my DH has more than 3 pints of beer he snores. Also being overweight can make it worse. I'm sure there ARE things that can be done, he needs to see a different gp if the first one was no help.
Yes, get some really good earplugs but also encourage your DH to take responsibility for sorting out this problem. I have been known to throw DH out the bed for snoring, it would be him sleeping on the sofa or in the bath not me. He once had to sleep in the car (we were camping so I chucked him out the tent), but it is only when he's drunk too much so luckily (for him) not too often!

porkandbeans · 30/12/2018 08:32

After years of snoring, my DH lost weight. He lost nearly 5 stone and it's made such a massive difference. There is also more room in the bed.
His doctor had told him several times to lose weight for snoring and other health issues but didn't believe him. It's only when he lost the weight that he admitted it was the cause.

soupmaker · 30/12/2018 08:36

My DH used to be a terrible snorer. I had to go to bed first to get to sleep before he went to bed. I spent many a night awake due to him. He wasn't overweight, but if had a few drinks it got even worse. But, he is now cured. Had his tonsils out at 42 and now only snores if he's had a few pints and it's just mild snoring.

Nanna50 · 30/12/2018 08:36

I second silicone earplugs I use these and as pp said they are also available in savers.

www.amazon.co.uk/Pairs-Mouldable-Silicone-Swimming-Sleeping/dp/B00CD243VA/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=Silicone+earplugs&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1546158884&sr=8-6

However he should ask for a referral to a sleep clinic, he may need a CPAP machine.

OutComeTheWolves · 30/12/2018 08:37

Honestly my dh was the same. The gp told him to stop smoking & lose weight to see if that made a difference and if it didn't they'd investigate further ie sleep clinic/cpap etc.

For 10 long years he did fuck all and continued to be an overweight, snoring smoker (he does have other good qualities). The plus point being that when the kids were babies, the lack of sleep didn't bother me at all because I'd been dealing with it for years.

I'm ashamed to say that it was vanity (& possibly hormones) that made me snap. After one night of snoring I caught my reflection and I looked knackered. I snapped and had such a rant about his selfishness. That I'd had years of sleep deprivation because he couldn't be bothered to lose a bit of weight and clearly he loved cigarettes more than he loved me Blush. I said he had until Christmas to start doing something about the snoring or we were splitting up. I'm not sure if it was not wanting to split or because dh loves to think of himself as a 'nice guy' so can't stand to be thought of as selfish, but he gave up smoking and went on a diet that week. It didn't take long before the snoring stopped so there was no need for the gp to do anything further.

I'll admit that threatening to leave was a huge over reaction on my part but it was a result of years of sleep deprivation. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. The problem is people think snoring is funny but it's no joke at all if you're the one losing sleep. You have my sympathies op but I don't believe for one minute the gp told him that there's nothing he could do.

stayingaliveisawayoflife · 30/12/2018 08:45

Flare ear plugs one day delivery amazon prime!

Believeitornot · 30/12/2018 08:49

I got angry and upset because dh would not take me seriously. Not until I recorded it and told him the impact it had. Only then did he finally see the GP. He got a referral but I suspect he wasn’t fully truthful.

Dh now takes a nasal spray which stops his snoring most of the time. Although doesn’t stop his over dramatic coughs and spluttering about the rank taste 🤔🙄

EnidAlexandraRollins · 30/12/2018 08:54

My husband has a Snoreguard which is made and fitted by the dentist. Expensive but has totally revolutionised our sleep!

purplerainbows · 30/12/2018 08:58

These are amazing

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Babdoc · 30/12/2018 09:04

OP, I suspect your DH is lying about the GP saying nothing could be done. There are dozens of possible treatments, including jaw splints, nose strips, nasal steroid and decongestant sprays, weight loss, restricting alcohol in the evenings, laser soft palate surgery and CPAP machines.
Perhaps you should accompany him to a GP appointment and push for a referral to either ENT or the sleep lab?

missmartha · 30/12/2018 09:06

I have been married for 25 years to a snorer. He has had 2 operation , one to remove his tonsils, uvula and any loose skin in histhroat, I have gone through soft ear plugs and the hard sort. I have prodded him, propped him and threatened him.
He could have a cpap but the GP warned him that while he is waiting to be assessed for this he will have his driving license suspended.
I didn't believe it but it appears to be true. They are affraid chronic snorers will fall asleep at the wheel.
He cannot afford to loose his driving license even for a few months so wont do it.
He doesn't smoke or drink though he does battle a bit with his weight.
In the end the only thing that works for us is seperate beds. It's fine and it works.

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 09:13

So this is interesting. He is overweight, and I have been on at him to lost it - he hates it and moans but does nothing.

Definitely cannot lose his license for any time - he would lose his job and then we'd lose the house etc.

Nasal spray? Can he try that without a referral?

He drinks one pint a night maximum unless we are out (rare) but never to any excess.

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SciFiScream · 30/12/2018 09:26

My DH has a dentist made snore guard. Proper name mandibular repositioning device you can buy them off the shelf at Boots now.

It. Has. Changed. My. Life. (And his!)

He also moaned and puffed and banged his teeth together and was grinding his teeth.
He's now mostly silent and if he doesn't wear his snore guard he wakes himself up snoring.

We also found sleeping with the windows open slightly (open locked with our set up) helps as does a little bit of olbas oil on a hanky near your head.

LoniceraJaponica · 30/12/2018 09:27

I think the GP has advised him to lose weight.

rogueantimatter · 30/12/2018 09:32

My husband was a terrible snorer until he lost weight......

wantthenailsoffnow · 30/12/2018 09:33

DH is also a snorer and it's a constant source of arguments for us. He keeps avoiding going to the GP (selfish bastard). I've told him there are treatments so just go to the sodding GP!! Doesn't smoke, not overweight. He has always snored but it's getting progressively worse. 😪

Deeedeeee · 30/12/2018 09:38

Noeuf has he always been overweight and has he always snored?

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