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Snoring OMG what worked except LTB?

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 08:06

I am so sleep deprived. DH comes to bed, falls asleep and starts snorting, snoring, so loudly. I wake up about ten times a night, nudge him but however he sleeps makes no difference. We don't have a spare room or bed.

He tried a pillow for snoring 🙄 and apparently the GP said not much could be done. I can't face the rest of my life with no sleep. I'm the main carter for the kids incl one who is very unwell and this is not helping.

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OutComeTheWolves · 30/12/2018 09:42

Op I know it's frustrating for overweight people when every time they see a doctor, their weight
Is brought up. But in dh's case, he was very overweight but even after he lost half a stone there was a huge reduction in his snoring.

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 09:47

No he was very fit and slim when we met (gym etc) and now he is overweight and snores. Got worse and worse to the point I want to kill him at 3am.
Might look in Boots today for the mouth thing?

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PerverseConverse · 30/12/2018 09:50

My ex was referred to some kind of clinic and told to lose weight. He didn't. He'd tried mouth guards, nose devices, sprays. I'd use isolate ear plugs with silicone earplugs over them and still could hear him - when I was downstairs on the sofa! He had to go. Wasn't the only reason but a major one. People at camp sites would make comments he was that bad.
Yoyr dh needs referral to a sleep clinic and to lose the lard. Alcohol plays a major part, even just one pint. Ditching the drink would help him lose weight.

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Deeedeeee · 30/12/2018 09:50

Noeuf i think you've identified the problem. If the gp didn't mention weight then they weren't doing their job properly, but maybe your DH wasn't ready to hear it?

PipGoesPop · 30/12/2018 09:52

Sleep in different rooms. Ear plugs on holiday. I refuse to put up with it.

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 09:53

I suspect that's true. It's the vasectomy all over again (long story 🙄) - I think he's so used to his weight and he's resigned to it. He moans all the time, moans he's fat, moans he looks fat when we go out but does nothing. Eats crap, ready meals for two, family bags of crisps etc.
Maybe I need to tell him rather than moaning at night.

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redsummershoes · 30/12/2018 09:55

as pp say. he needs to lose weight and to stop smoking as a matter of urgency fir both of you health's sake.

if he then still snores he needs a referral to a sleep clinic to see if it's sleep apnoea. if it is he will get a snorinator (c-pap mashine fitted).
that thing is noisy and you might find it easier to sleepin a different room.

good luck. almost january - good time to make a change!

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 10:01

Oh he doesn't smoke. So, I've told him he needs to do something and maybe he should lose weight as his resolution for this year. Probably unhelpful of me but I'm very resentful at the moment.

I feel like I had four kids and kept slim (I know, I know, genetics and issues and all that) and I am the main carer sacrificing my job prospects for first one and now two of the dc (I work but have to take time out) and he can't even let me sleep at night.

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OhHolyJesus · 30/12/2018 10:02

Boot silicon earplugs when away from home and separate bedrooms at home. I remain happily married as a result.

Deeedeeee · 30/12/2018 10:06

Noeuf i don't think you're being unreasonable to want to sleep.

Who does the food shopping? Less of the ready meals and crisps maybe?

Elledouble · 30/12/2018 10:06

I’m the snorer in our house Blush

I’ve been using these and they seem to be helping.

OxanaVorontsova · 30/12/2018 10:06

Silicon earplugs from snore store
Failing that do you have a guest room?!

ErictheGuineaPig · 30/12/2018 10:07

Yep the weight loss would sort it. My husband used to snore very badly and then developed sleep apnea. He was referred to a consultant who said there was an op they could do but it was pretty unpleasant and to try and lose weight first. He did lose the weight and the sleep apnea went, the snoring is also much better. It only flares up if he's ill or had a drink.

Deeedeeee · 30/12/2018 10:08

...and it's not just for your benefit, he sounds unhappy being unfit and overweight.

LucyLogan · 30/12/2018 10:15

Mine snores and makes noises also stops breathing, has done for about 10-14 years on and off. Refuses to do anything about it despite me begging/getting cross.

Really affects how I feel about him now. It's so selfish and I feel he clearly doesn't care about me or he'd go and get it sorted out. It's making me so miserable. And that's just from my point of view. His health must be awful with the constant broken sleep and lack of oxygen.

Beamur · 30/12/2018 10:16

I'm the snorer. Gained a few pounds a couple of years ago and it had made a difference. Am going to try and lose them this year. I also have asthma and rhinitis which doesn't help as my poor nose and throat are constantly a bit inflamed. Alcohol also makes it worse.
I find a combination of no drinking, steroid nasal spray, nasal strips and inhalers give my DH the best chance of unbroken sleep. Failing that one of us goes in the spare room. I've suggested earplugs but he doesn't like the ones we have, might have to look at those silicone ones!

Starstruck2020 · 30/12/2018 10:19

My dh eventually had a sleep study and discovered he had severe sleeep apnoea. He now has a cpap machine and the snoring is gone when he wears it. Best thing ever!

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 10:21

Amazing, but there's no way he's ready to get near a sleep study.

I do the food shopping for me and the dc - he stays away sometimes for work,gets back late and does his own thing often. But I'm going to get him on board with weight loss first I think.

He is unhappy about it so two birds and all that.

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Mewe · 30/12/2018 10:23

My DH snores and it nearly broke our marriage. We now sleep in separate rooms which is divine! We still make time for each other but it has changed our life.
Our GP didn’t offer DH anything as he didn’t score high enough on the sleep apnoea test.
His mum has the same problem and had an operation for it but that was unsuccessful. We have tried earplugs, nasal sprays, retainers and white noise machines; nothing works as well as separate beds!
Good luck OP.

Starstruck2020 · 30/12/2018 10:23

The turning point for DH getting an assessment was when we went camping with friends and they all told him how bad his snoring and apnoea was.......

Once he had the assessment and they told him straight the effect it was having on his heart he got the machine. I would say it took a year though of having it for him to be 100% compliant with use and accept he needs it.... but now he is, he hates to go without it as he knows how much better he feels

Starstruck2020 · 30/12/2018 10:25

And yes my DH could do with weight loss too...

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SouthWestmom · 30/12/2018 10:33

Thank you for all your tips and experiences; an out now with a list (ear plugs, mouth guard).

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PerverseConverse · 30/12/2018 10:48

Mouth guards in order to be effective need to be fitted by a dentist according to what I read. Don't waste your money. Try eat plugs but if he's got sleep apnoea then they won't help much. The reality is he needs to get to a healthy weight because he's damaging his health, particularly his heart. I used to wonder if I'd wake up to find an ex dead next to me. That's no way to live. Get a snoring app on his phone and then he will see how bad it actually is. There's no quick fix to this. Except leaving of course but he needs to want to do something about it. Not just the easy oh I'll try a spray, try a mouth guard etc. These things take no effort. If he's not prepared to put the effort in to sort himself out then you don't have a snoring problem, you have a husband problem.

wannabebetter · 30/12/2018 11:01

In the snorter (horrendous apparently!) and bought Snore Wizard mouth guard from Ideal Home shopping channel. Was v sceptical but it works!! Took a few nights to get used to wearing it but now no issues & moved back to our room instead of being banished to the box room!!

SilverBirchTree · 30/12/2018 11:57

I'm guessing the GP told him to lose weight...

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