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Did you propose, get proposed to or just kind of decided to get married

38 replies

LardLizard · 28/12/2018 21:22

Was just hearing the story of a family member that was proposed too
She didn’t think much toy he way he did it, he have a ring in Xmas day and said are you going to marry me or what it something

So got me wondering what your story or situation was?

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RussellSprout · 28/12/2018 21:26

After many long years waiting to be proposed to, dropping hints etc I got pissed one night and had a whinge about it to him and he proposed as a result and 5 years later still all good!!

katienana · 28/12/2018 21:26

I got proposed to. It was 9 years ago now, we went to Paris for my birthday present just before NYE. I had just turned 26. Was a big surprise but at the same time I knew it would happen eventually! It was amazing we were on the Pont Des Arts watching the Eiffel tower light show at 11pm when he asked me. I said yes immediately we got married 18 months later.

Hedgehogblues · 28/12/2018 21:27

We sat down together and talked about it

TheRhythmlessCarolMan · 28/12/2018 21:29

Yeah us too. Just sat in bed one morning and said let's get married! Not how I envisaged it but there you go. Still happily together 11 years :)

BackforGood · 28/12/2018 21:30

We just sort of agreed we'd both like to spend the rest of our lives together and the next natural step was to get married.
I'd have hated a "performance" proposal, tbh. To me, getting married is a big step for anyone and should be something you are both ready for and have both really thought about, not being put on the spot with an 'expectation' you'll say yes, whether you are at the same stage as him or not.

ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName · 28/12/2018 21:30

We said we wanted to get married on about our third date, knew it was on the cards (sometimes I think when you know, you just know) and so when we had been together a year, we had dinner and talked decided to book the registry office and went to Greenwich Market and brought a ring. Got married shortly after and have been very happy ever since.

Beach11 · 28/12/2018 21:32

He proposed to me during our travels around Europe, whilst in Italy. Had an inkling he was going to

IWouldLikeToKnow · 28/12/2018 21:33

No proposal here. We just sort of decided to get married and went looking at rings. Definitely wouldn't have wanted an elaborate planned proposal. And definitely wouldn't have wanted him to choose the ring!

missyB1 · 28/12/2018 21:34

We just had a conversation and decided. I can’t be doing with all that waiting for proposals crap.

Pagwatch · 28/12/2018 21:36

Met DH and knew immediately that we were going to be together. We started dating and it was serious straight away. We started talking about being together, buying a house etc within a month or so.
He proposed on his birthday after about 8 months as we were having a night away together.
He had a ring and flowers and I was still taken aback and didn’t immediately answer - much to his amusement
It was lovely

We’ve been together 28 years

elQuintoConyo · 28/12/2018 21:37

We talked about it and chose the engagement ring together. We'd been together 11 years by then, not in any rush to do stuff.

Together 20 years now.

CremantDeLoireSocialist · 28/12/2018 21:39

Yes we just had a conversation about it and decided. Is the whole proposals thing a new fashion? I know people proposed formally in the olden days, but it seems to have come back.

IWillGo · 28/12/2018 21:42

I was pregnant & we wanted to be married before the baby was born. We already knew we were committed to each other. It was a more of a practical chat - I've always hated the idea of being a bride and find the expense and fuss of most weddings horrifying.

planespotting · 28/12/2018 21:42

We decided. I brought it up. I am a doer and I make my own life, no way I would have been sitting there waiting and wondering.
Control freak I knowGrin

MissConductUS · 28/12/2018 21:43

We discussed it and decided to, then went ring shopping together in New York. I got exactly the ring I wanted made to order. 21 years and two kids later and still going strong!

CuppaSarahsCuppaChristmasCheer · 28/12/2018 21:45

We discussed it and agreed we were going to get married. But DH wanted to do a 'proper' proposal. So I sent him some ideas of rings I liked and a few months later we had a lovely date, he bought me lots of new clothes to fit my postnatal body. Made me feel beautiful when I was down about my body. We got home and he popped the question with my favourite of the rings I sent him.

I still don't think he needed to bother with all that, but it was lovely.

Stephisaur · 28/12/2018 21:46

DH proposed to me at the Harry Potter Studio Tour. We’re both big Potterheads so it was quite special.

We knew we were going to get married (we’d been together 7.5 years at this point) but he knew I wanted the romance of a proposal. He got someone to film it on his camera and it was lovely.

NoWordForFluffy · 28/12/2018 21:49

We were going to talk about it when then-DP got back from 8 weeks working in France. After a few days of us not having the conversation, I sent him a text as I walked across from the station to work, which said 'Are we getting married or not?' And he sent, 'I suppose so' back to me! That was just under 7 1/2 years' ago now and we've been married just over 6 years!

Jubba · 28/12/2018 21:55

I was proposed too about 3 weeks ago now. We’ve been together a long time. Two kids. It was me not wanting to get married. But he wanted too. So a few weeks ago he took me away. We had a wonderful weekend together and he dropped down on one knee and asked. We’ve got a date set already. Very very small affair though.

swimmerforlife · 28/12/2018 21:56

We definitely agreed we wanted to get married after about 18 months into our relationship but not that bothered until we wanted to ttc. I am very old fashioned in that I wanted him to propose, although I did say that there were to be no big public proposals (in restaurants, beaches etc).

He proposed at a picnic after about 5 years of being together and we were ready for children. I was 2 months pregnant on our wedding day!

sirmione16 · 28/12/2018 21:57

He proposed in Italy at night overlooking the lake in a quiet spot with a violinist in the background. Not too cheesey though as we were sat on a bench and he turned to face me and proposed rather than stood up/down on one knee thing. And just us (and the musician) So so so romantic, I truly felt like something out of a filmGrin he's a good egg.

Did you propose, get proposed to or just kind of decided to get married
SweepTheHalls · 28/12/2018 22:00

Proper on one knee proposal in the Alps. It was wonderful, I cried a lot. Been married 11 years now ☺

mellongoose · 28/12/2018 22:06

Down on one knee at a quiet place special to us. I thought he wanted to in principle but had no idea he was going to do it so was completely blindsided!! The ring fit and everything. The boy did good.

Lovely memory 💕

SmokeAndBone · 28/12/2018 23:00

We decided together - no formal proposal as such, but he did ask my parents 'permission' before we formally announced our engagement.

Badadadum · 28/12/2018 23:13

It was about 2 weeks after we started seeing each other - I think it was more like down on one elbow iykwim, I said yes and that was that....20 years later still married!

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