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Did you propose, get proposed to or just kind of decided to get married

38 replies

LardLizard · 28/12/2018 21:22

Was just hearing the story of a family member that was proposed too
She didn’t think much toy he way he did it, he have a ring in Xmas day and said are you going to marry me or what it something

So got me wondering what your story or situation was?

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inchoccyheaven · 28/12/2018 23:17

We knew we would get married early on in our relationship and dw wanted to be the ome to propose but had to wait until my divorce was finalised ( took 2 years). She apparently had many ideas but decided 2 days before the actual proposal what it would be due to visiting garden centre with her family and it was decorated for christmas. ( we love christmas)
We then went to the garden centre for look round and was trying on the silly christmas hats and dw suggested we find an assistant to take our photo in the hats on santas chair. So we did and just as we were looking at the camera she popped the question which took me completely by surprise. It was wonderful.

I then decided that as dw had never been proposed to as she had proposed to her ex husband as well that I would surprise her at some point. Which i did on the night of our engagement party with candles up the stairs and fake rose petal heart on her bed.

Loved it all.

ScreamingBadSanta · 28/12/2018 23:17

Just kind of decided.

Shodan · 28/12/2018 23:46

Both of my husbands proposed after one year of dating - one on a holiday to Austria, the second in a favourite restaurant.

The first one I had no clue about and kind of said yes because we were on holiday and I didn't want the rest of the trip to be awkward Hmm

The second I had an inkling because he'd been asking about what sort of engagement ring I'd like 'if we ever got engaged'.

Divorced twice, so clearly there's some kind of pattern there... Grin

Won't be getting married again.

icebearforpresident · 29/12/2018 00:34

He proposed but it was kind of inevitable that we would get married. We both knew (without discussing it) that it would happen eventually and after being together for almost 10 years he asked me, while we were lying in bed drinking tea at 1am. No ring, we chose that together a few weeks later.

Most of our friends were horrified at that story but it sums us up pretty well!

Birdsgottafly · 29/12/2018 00:41

We discussed it and decided to wait.

Give years later, when we were looking at houses to buy, we decided the time was right and was married within six months.

PlatypusPie · 29/12/2018 00:49

Got proposed to on the last day of a holiday - the idea was not unexpected but it was nicely arranged with at least a bit of an element of surprise and a beautiful setting. He bought a cheap ring there to act as a placeholder until we got home to choose one - heaven only knows what the temporary one was made of, because it quite quickly went green !

ecuse · 29/12/2018 00:54

Just had a chat about inheritance tax, the statistical probability of me dying in childbirth with my second child (happy to report that I didn't), agreed the easiest solution was a wedding, and did the deed 10 weeks later.

Flusteredwintertime · 29/12/2018 01:18

We had talked about getting married but it was never high on the to do list. One day I came home from shopping with DM and DS and there was a note in the kitchen with a load of soppy stuff written by DH and a ring box underneath. (I can't tell you where the note or box are now and the ring is in it!)

He had planned the whole day weeks in advance, getting my DM to ask me to go out with her on that specific day, making sure we didn't come home until a specific time (my DM talking me into buying a new outfit on her - DH had given her money for it!).

I was surprised as it was just a random day and never thought about doing the whole engagement thing I figured we'd just go down to the register office one day. Was lovely though I couldn't take it seriously as I'm just not into all the lovey dovey stuff and kept laughing - DH was so emotional he was crying, hence him writing the note instead of speaking!

KeepServingTheFestiveSnogs · 29/12/2018 01:36

we'd been together about 4 months. Sat in a pub garden at the pub at the road at the top of my parent's house, chatting about what we wanted from life.

Him: I suppose I'd better marry you, then.
Me: Is that a proposal?
Him: I guess so
Me: That's not very romantic!
Him: That's the best you're going to get out of me.

Went back to my parent's house. I wandered off to have a wee. Came back, we had relatives over. Cousin was crying. Everyone else was smiling. He'd only gone and asked for my dad's permission in front of everyone!

Married two or three months later.

23 years ago.

KeepServingTheFestiveSnogs · 29/12/2018 01:37

p.s. My crying cousin is always soppy!

knittedjest · 29/12/2018 02:14

We talked about it. In fact we went from not even dating to being engaged in two hours over McDonalds cheeseburgers. It was very romantic.

Escolar · 29/12/2018 02:18

He proposed in Paris (after lots of hints from me!). No ring as we chose that together later. Together 21 years now, married for 15.

Flyingarcher · 29/12/2018 11:58

He neglected to ask me but did ask my father for his permission. I only knew I was engaged because my mother kept giggling at me at breakfast the next day. We went ring shopping. So technically, I suppose I never said 'yes' either. It will be 30 years this year!

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