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Anyone not on social media?

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BasinHaircut · 26/12/2018 21:59

I think I want (need?) to come off social media. I think that we lose so much of our lives to it (well I do), not posting but just mindlessly scrolling through Instagram and Facebook etc.

I really don’t need to see an Xmas pic of Chris from school and his family. I don’t know this person really. Haven’t seen or spoken to them for 30 years. WTF!

There seem to be some things (such as one of DS’s clubs that communicate with parents through a Facebook group but I could probably get around that somehow.

Will I feel liberated by removing this distracting mindless shit from my life?

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TheRealJoseph · 26/12/2018 22:25

Me. as I'm a person, not a product.

Nannyplumbrocks · 26/12/2018 22:27

I deleted fb about a month ago, I can honestly say I haven't missed it once. I found myself getting so irritated and wound up by people on there. It's quite liberating to be out of it all

persist · 26/12/2018 22:29

Deleted FB and Instagram a year ago. One of the most liberating things I have ever done.

The fear some people have of 'coming off' social media is indicative of the hold it has, and all the more reason to step away.

You honestly won't regret it. Thanks

AmeliaMae · 26/12/2018 22:35

I deleted Facebook a year ago and don't miss it. One of my dc's clubs uses Facebook to communicate to parents but I can search for their facebook page on Google and see what they have posted. I am happier without Facebook.

changingusernamefornow · 26/12/2018 22:36

Me! It is great. I did it to improve my mindfulness
Working a treat

dudsville · 26/12/2018 22:36

Luge is fabulous without fb etc.

WatchingTheWheels85 · 26/12/2018 22:37

Me, I don't like the idea of facebook and to be honest I would genuinely have nobody to add!

FadedRed · 26/12/2018 22:38

Me. Never been on on Facebook etc. No intention of changing that.

PseuDenim · 26/12/2018 22:38

Four years and counting with absolutely none, although MN has obviously filled the gap! I feel like my mental health is so much better now that I’m not constantly having images of perfect people living perfect lives rammed down my throat. Comparison being the thief of joy and all that

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BasinHaircut · 26/12/2018 22:38

This is encouraging! Honestly I really think we are turning into social media zombies and I want out quite frankly. I feel like I’m wasting precious hours of my life looking at memes and shit

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SearchingforYouth · 26/12/2018 22:46

I deactivated FB almost 5 years ago when I was going through a marriage breakdown. It was a self-preservation thing at the time but as soon as I did it I felt like a huge weight had been lifted. It just wasn't a good tool for my personality type - I would hardly ever post but was prone to hours of unhealthy browsing and would feel woefully inadequate to everyone else on there.

It was absolutely liberating and my mental health and general attitude to life is a hundred times better since.

I never reactivated it and a couple of years back deleted it for good. There hasn't been a single moment where I've missed it or missed out on anything. The thought of using it again makes my stomach sink!

PawneeParksDept · 26/12/2018 22:49

I left just under 2 years ago both Facebook and Twitter

I do miss Twitter at times, but I had a lurker and knew it. I was blocked from their account but tabs were kept on mine as it was public - I decided to stop the source
I might go back

Facebook I don't miss at all and will never go back, my account is down but not fully deactivated and I need to get round to that

I REALLY do not miss hearing about Sarah's hubby or Gemma's hubster, or Becky's Pass agg rants about knowing who your friends are, or Simon who really should know better checking into A and E for attention, or my really aggravating cousin trying to divide and conquer in a game of who's your favourite cousin. Or my aunt who has never in her life given anyone with MH issues an ounce of support posting memes about supporting people with their MH.
Also the fact that Katie had me on Facebook so that her sister who is NC with me (her choice ghosted me as a friend) could have me blocked but look at my photos.

And breathe

Leaving over time became like a mental declutter? Stronger as the months have gone by.

I heartily recommend it Grin😂

dancinginthekitchen · 26/12/2018 22:51

I have never had Facebook or any of the others - I just don’t see the appeal

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 26/12/2018 22:52

Yes me. .I'm too private for facebook and not photogenic enough for.Instagram. Grin.

brizzledrizzle · 26/12/2018 22:55

I am on fb but rarely use it, I don't post anything at all.

ashtrayheart · 26/12/2018 22:57

I compromised and installed an app called Feedless and deleted the Facebook app. I do check Facebook for my groups on the web and can look at individual friends, but I don’t get the news feed. This means I can still use Facebook but don’t waste much time on it.

Sparklingbrook · 26/12/2018 23:00

I have never been on FB so don't know what I am missing out on other than the odd glimpse I have had of the DS's.

I keep up with everyone I need to by text/email/phone/skype and it works just fine for me.

TheRealJoseph · 26/12/2018 23:10

Also, I've never been on any social media.

AlwaysSomethingThere · 26/12/2018 23:13

I deleted Facebook nearly a year ago and I don't miss it at all. It does have good points if used properly but it's mostly grown adults using silly snapchat filters and behaving like 11 year olds.

"Like and share if you love your nephew"

Fuck off you stupid, boring cunt.

BeekyChitch · 26/12/2018 23:18

I deactivated mine about a month ago and feels so good not seeing everyone's bragging posts. I still get "beekychitch did you see what so and so posted" - nope! Nor do I care! I kept the messenger app to keep in touch with friends/family/work but I even took the notifications off for that! Feels good.

StorminaBcup · 26/12/2018 23:27

I want to come off Facebook too OP but I use it for a lot of groups and I also want to download all of my photos first. Feedless that a PP mentioned might be a good compromise. Can you still use messenger without Facebook?

My feed seems to be full of posts from 5 days ago or loads from the same page I've liked. It's boring and mindless but I still scroll away!

ILoveChristmasLights · 26/12/2018 23:31

I don’t have any social media. I do miss out on some meet ups etc, but 🤷🏻‍♀️ if people can’t be bothered to email/text etc than I can live without them in my life.

I don’t need the drama that is FB

BeekyChitch · 26/12/2018 23:44

@StorminaBcup yes you can keep the messenger app even if Facebook has been deactivated!

Jsmith99 · 27/12/2018 00:00

I am not, and have never been, on Facebook, Instagram, snapchat, WhatsApp etc etc. I have no plans to join any such network.

I have a Twitter account in a made-up name linked to a gmail account in a different made-up name. I don’t tweet and have no followers, but I do follow a number of people in areas which interest me. I post on forums, eg MN, Guardian, under made-up names linked to the same junk Gmail account which is not linked to my real identity and is used only for this purpose.

Officially, I don’t exist Grin.

StorminaBcup · 27/12/2018 07:46

Thanks @BeekyChitch that's good to know.