Dear Relative as I can't say this to your face

[Rachelsholiday]

May I just say it here.

BIL you live with your parents why didn't you buy a gift for your brother?

MIL and FIL you have known me 20 years i can buy myself a bottle of fizz I cooked for 9 of you but that felt a little thoughtless

Has your BIL got some sort of special needs or is he just a selfish fucker?

A bottle of is is what yiu take with you to give the host surely? It’s not a Christmas gift to them.

Oh no he got no gift for his brother at all and My gift from the in laws was a bottle of fizz!!

I hope you didn't share the bottle op...
Seems bil got his tightarseness from his dm.

Basically yesterday we had the BIL and my in laws and an uncle. Lovely day i cooked for everyone written my DH if my husband hadn't got me a present i would have had a bottle of fizz to open.

Not expecting anything just wanted a tiny vent on here

DM
I am over 50. My shortened name ends in ie; I have written it this way on letters and texts to you thousands of times over the years. When you repeatedly spell it ending in y, I remember how you see me as nothing more than an adjunct to you and realise that our relationship will never improve.

To my mother,
We came the weekend before Christmas because you don't invite us for Christmas. You slept the whole afternoon while my 3 beautiful children played so nicely with their little, much favoured, cousins, and then complained that my teenagers hadn't played bingo with you!!
And you thought it was appropriate to visit your friend while we were there, when you can see her every day and we live 200 miles away.

Wish I could say that to your face

I think I would Susie...how rude

DM I'm done. Again. He didn't come close whilst you were getting your diagnosis, treatment and life-changing surgery, nor showed any interest in your recovery, yet in the last 4 years you have been at their beck and call so often. No matter what I do it's not good enough, even when they put in zero effort, are downright rude and selfish and cannot between them organise stuff which I am expected to do for myself, my kids and you despite being a textbook struggling single parent with a full time job.

I'm done. No more.

What kind of fizz? LPGS is £100 a bottle and my favourite present.

DB, thanks for not buying my DC anything at all for xmas, or Easter or their birthdays...for the last 3 years.
I always buy for your DS and your DSS.

Being the bigger person is irritating now.

Cousin, I'm sorry nuts come before my DGC, it wouldn't kill you not to have nuts in the house for one evening......it might kill DGC, so nope we won't be coming round !

DFIL, you are a lazy selfish alcoholic and DMIL should have left you years ago. And wear your bloody hearing aids so we don't have to have the tv on full blast!

DM, stop sending cards and presents when I’ve told you eleventy billion times I don’t want contact from you - If anyone else did that, they’d be a stalker.

PILs, seriously we drive 130 fucking miles because you’re constantly moaning about not seeing DGD and you showed absolutely zero interest in her and we’re more interested talking about your itchy toe and Midsomer Murders.

DBIL - I haven’t missed a single one of your kids’ birthdays and Christmas’. But so far you’ve missed every one of my daughters. DH hasn’t missed your birthdays and always strives to find something really thoughtful for you. In 10 years, you’vw gotten him something about 3 times. Use a fucking calendar.

DSIL

Nan - I’m not a size 18, actually a 10-12. I am exactly the same height and weight as my sister who you bought a size 10 for. And no, I would not like to spend an hour discussing different methods of losing weight .

MIL you’re a cunt for sending home Christmas presents with your son for our grandson but not anything for our dds (all children are dhs). This is the reason I hate you, unfortunately dp is so conditioned to your toxic behaviour and desperate for any attention you give, including allowing you to use his credit card to fund your shopping habit that he’s too weak and pathetic to say anything....me on the other hand....well I’m sure the new year will bring you a few unexpected surprises! Also the charity shop will be very grateful for the shit that you sent back by the way, which is where the crap you send back here goes anyway!

*son not grandson

DP's - a week is too long to spend with us. Go and find somewhere else to stay!

Yes it does matter you didn't make any effort with my Christmas gifts - no giving me money to buy my own doesn't equate to the same.

Oh my word all those stories are horrific.
Mine is short - DM you are a psychic vampire who drains me completely within 5 seconds of walking through the door and I will never be spending Christmas or any other occasion with you again.

DM I'm so bored of listening to your health woes. There, I've said it.

I don't actually know what is real and what isn't with you.

Meanwhile, in Syria.....

Meanwhile, in Syria.....

That's uncalled for. It's entirely possible to be annoyed by relatives AND care about what's happening in the wider world.

@PoutySprou
Go away
I hope you have not had any Christmas celebrations and have given all your money to a Syrian charity. If so we’ll done but This is not the thread for you.
Everyone is allowed their own feelings

I don't know if I can let this one go sis. I desperately want too. I thought we had built bridges. But your husband bare faced lied to me. And I will do my best to forgive and forget. But in my gut, it's a betrayal to far.

Everyone is allowed their own feelings

Tbf so has PoutySprout

Dear BiL

You're an arsehole. You're 57 years old and haven't learnt any manners. Every year you invite yourself here for Xmas day, stay for 12 hours; make us all feel awkward, stuff your face and never ever thank us. You have never bought so much as a bag of chocolate buttons for our kids in 16 years. You bring nothing, in any sense, to the day yet bask in my family limelight and post photos on Facebook without asking if we mind. This year you boasted about the £50k inheritance just landed in your bank account yet still came with just your slippers.