Dear Relative as I can't say this to your face

[Rachelsholiday]

May I just say it here.

BIL you live with your parents why didn't you buy a gift for your brother?

MIL and FIL you have known me 20 years i can buy myself a bottle of fizz I cooked for 9 of you but that felt a little thoughtless

Wow, sli/bil, so you’ve got a smart tv and we haven’t?
How incredulous were you about that yesterday?

But don’t worry.... the next time we’re on holiday that we’ve paid upfront for, we’ll think about your smart tv and everything else that you are in debt with, and the fact you are so in debt that you can’t afford to go out, so the only thing you can do is....watch your smart tv 😂😂😂😂😂

..we’ll send you a postcard.

I need you to go home now. I need my space back and not to have to listen to your theatrical moans and groans all day long.

We have a dog, this is her home. If you don't like it don't come to stay.

You have to sleep in the living room because there is nowhere else for you to sleep. The DC are far too big to all squash into one room these days.

I need my space back. Did I already mention that?!

Not so "d"s, l only sent a thank you text this year as when l didn't last year l got told l was wrong not to have. The reason you are a stranger to my children is your a selfish cow and l don't really care to want to get to know your son because from what l have seen of him in the short bursts l have seen, he is very like you and could do with a good telling off. We are no contact most of the time which suits my life fine, my children aren't missing out by not knowing you. Please don't think when they are older they will care if you rock up and say hi l am your aunt.

Sil don't ask for gifts in excess of £100 if you are only going to buy gifts from the local discount store you know l am involved with.
I am sorry this is the second year without your Mum l lived her too, dh deals with his grief silently and doesn't share it with the world please try and respect that.

Every year you invite yourself here for Xmas day, stay for 12 hours; make us all feel awkward, stuff your face and never ever thank us. You have never bought so much as a bag of chocolate buttons for our kids in 16 years. You bring nothing, in any sense, to the day yet bask in my family limelight and post photos on Facebook without asking if we mind. This year you boasted about the £50k inheritance just landed in your bank account yet still came with just your slippers.

Why haven’t you told him to fuck off though? Why are you putting up with this?

I legitmatly found the exact name you plan to name your unborn baby in a take-the-piss 'baby names for chavs' book.

DM
I know you're struggling with my marriage breaking up. But it was my marriage and I'm dealing with it. When you met my new dp today, you were rude, ignorant and downright nasty. He's kind, sensitive, so good to me, he was ridiculously nervous about meeting you and your behaviour towards him was nasty and uncalled for.

@LivinLaVidaLoki
Don’t be your mum... she wouldn’t want that for you

It was supermarket Prosecco. I think I am more upset that my BIL didn't get my DH anything. Particularly as he insisted on buying his DB a brew coat. The family enable BIL behaviour and In laws just dont 'do' presents.

Whilst I am here DB you stunt know how to parent so please don't tell me how to. You left all of your children before they were 6 and moan about supporting them.

Bloody auto correct appalling spelling sorry

My whole house stinks of my 85 year old mil’s perfume and it’s making me furious.

Dear Uncle-in-law and random in-law family friend. I do not want parenting advice from people who evidently did such a poor job their own children want nothing to do with them at Christmas. HTH

Also, dear 15 month old DD, thanks for saving all your epic night-long teething tantrums for the week of Xmas, when we are 500+ miles away from home and all 4 of us are camping in a single bedroom. I’ll remember this when you’re an easily embarrassed teen

Sister,

You have been NC for almost 9 years now. I sometimes wonder where you are but for the most part am relieved that your toxic energy is elsewhere. You have a nephew and niece that with thankfully never get to know the real you. I still think you're incredibly selfish and you forget that all 5 of us suffered not just you. I'm slowly healing but differently to you. I have now begun to realise that you "disappearing" is possibly the least selfish thing you've done. Definitely for the best. Goodbye.

I don't celebrate my birthday as I only have terrible memories as my parents are abusive. I look forward to one meal a year. I love Boxing Day lunch.You know that, it's been the same since you both were born. But of course you both can't manage to be polite to each other. Screaming at each other and storming off over the stupid Xbox. I thought you both had understood that this behaviour is not acceptable and I told you we'd sort it out after lunch. You both ruined our family holiday this year with the screaming, aggression and kicking me in the stomach. Because I've only wanted to go to this place for 32 years. I do so much for both of you. I don't work so I'm there for both of you and do your therapy. I don't expect anything except one pleasant meal. I'm sick of this. I'm done with Christmas. I'm taking the decorations down tomorrow as I cannot deal with you both upsetting me again. Christmas is hard enough with the terrible memories from being with my parents. Again ds1 I just despair with you physically threatening your brother and being so aggressive. What about all the therapy we have done? I'm exhausted. I worry dh will leave as it is this level of shit constantly.

Why have you bought age 6 months clothing for my DS, your grandchild, when he’s ONE????!!!!!! So annoyed!!!! Can’t exchange as I have no receipt

Mil Your allowed to thank me or complement my food. It won’t kill you

Sil. Your meanness is got to the point I’m getting angry about it. You don’t have kids but I’d rather you got me and Dj nothing for Xmas than not get the kids presents for their birthday. It’s not their fault they have birthdays near Christmas.

MIL...

FYI, sending me £20 via PayPal for your gd's 7th birthday was shit. Would a card have killed you? Especially when compared to the presents you buy for the others.

But even that was better than the Christmas gift of fuck all.

I've been pushing DH to maintain a relationship with you all for 14 years, despite seeing your blatant favouritism of sil, now you've done the same to my child? Nah, I'm done.

Oh, and yes we have a little money, because we fucking WORK for it. Tell the others to give it a go. I've never known people go on and off the dole so much!

Gdad Alexa isn't real!!! Be nicer to gma than Alexa please... Alexa doesn't care if you say sorry for swearing at her. Gma does!

Hi
I'm deleting my post as it could be quite outing. I'm going to nc and get advice in relationships x

Ex-MIL .... stop contacting me crying about your useless son (my ex) and how I am not making enough effort for him to see our child over Christmas!
And how poor you can't see her.
Courts are not allowing any of you - that is what is happening - leave me to parent my daughter as she needs one parent to step up!

DD
I have supported you through all your emotional, practical, financial and MH difficulties. Whenever you have needed me, I have been there for you. I put so much thought into your presents. I ordered items from abroad and hunted down an out of stock (and therefore over priced item) to put a smile on your face. You came into a lot of money, all through December parcel after parcel arrived for you. You couldn’t afford much in previous years but I was grateful for whatever you could get me. I thought this year you might be spoiling me a little. Turns out none of those parcels were gifts for me. In the end I got a couple of cheap stocking fillers from you. I could have lived with that if you had shown some thanks for the gifts you received but you opened each one, muttered a half hearted thanks and moved onto the next. I didn’t even get a thank you for the stockings i’d Prepared for you and your partner. I don’t want to be disappointed but I am.

Dear MIL. Fuck off. DIL.

To put it into context, DH is one of 4, but the only one of them stupid enough to run around after MIL 24/7. She informed me on Xmas Eve "I know (your DH) is the one always running around, but he has no ties and no responsibilities"

Fuck right off from a height you evil old bitch. If that's the case, then what is single SIL with no children? What 'ties and responsibilities' does she have?
As far as you're concerned though, I obviously shouldn't be seen as an important part of your son's life. After all, I'm only his fucking wife!

MIL, just because I’m not a Corbynista, I’m not automatically a bad person.

Oh, and you know I’m not letting DS drink alcohol in our house/your house yet so stop fecking going on about it and making it such a big deal. He’s fine with it - why do you have such a problem with it?