Do you think those who recieve free childcare from their parents...

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...should pay them back when the grandparents are old by looking after them more than the sibling who has asked of little from them?

Not necessarily as a carer, but to be there for chores, general help etc.

This thought occured to me this morning as I have once again been left alone in my pil’s house, for the 3rd time in 3 days, while they have gone off to help bil dh’s (brother) with something which doesn’t need 3 of them! (Pil has gone to look after dniece(4) and mil, bil have gone to supermarket. I offered to help but bil said that pil are fine. They do it every week apparently.

Dh or I don’t live nearby, dh is working so I’m here alone.

We don’t live near family so we just get on with things, pay for childcare, take kids to supermarket or bank or whatever.

Bil lives 10mins down the road and pil look after dn 3 times a week, plus see them most days for dinner, plus general abandonment of child when bil/sil go out with friends.

Now it doesn’t really bother me now, but I’m thinking, when pil are really old and frail I really hope sil takes the brunt of the looking after.

"Mil looks so tired. But I would do too if I looked after a 4yr old at 75".

Liking after the 4 year old is probably keeping her going.

It's been proven that babysitting into your 70's improves your MH and can help to ward off Dementia etc.

My Mum provided a lot of Care for my children, after I was Widowed.

Because of that they were very close to her. When she became a wheelchair user etc, there was enough of us around that she was taken out as often as she wanted and was never alone, unless she wanted to be.

I did more than my Child free Sister, partly because I felt as though I owed her.