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So embarrassed, please tell me it isn't as bad as I think!

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ScienceIsTruth · 21/12/2018 19:19

So, I've got workmen in atm, and the last one just left for the day. I gave them each a card and small gift when they left, and as this guy has really helped us out at the last moment, I'd also put a bonus in his card.

Now for the embarrassing bit:
We were stood talking and he'd thanked me for the card, etc, and then he leaned over me with his arm out like he was going on for a hug (he's a lot taller than I am), and although I'm not really a hugger I didn't want to be rude, so I put my arms out to hug him back, and he said "Oh, are we're doing cuddles, why not, it's Christmas!" And we hugged a bit awkwardly.

As soon as he said "oh!", I realised he was actually just leaning past me and around the corner to wave goodbye to my dc Blush, but by then it was too late so we both went through with the hug.

Now I'm dying of embarrassment and he'll be back to finish next week, so I'll have to face him again.

I have to emigrate, don't I?

I feel really stupid, and don't want to have given him the wrong idea. He now probably thinks I'm weird!

I have Aspergers, but I haven't misread a situation that badly for a very long time.

It gave my dc a laugh though.

How do I deal with this?? I have to start hugging everyone, don't I? Postman, bin men,etc...... Or disappear off the face of the earth (that's my preferred option).

Please take my mind off this or tell me it isn't so bad. ShockGrin

OP posts:
QOD · 21/12/2018 19:20

Hahahahaha
It’s bad and made his day 😂

RickOShay · 21/12/2018 19:21

It’s lovely!! you probably made his day. You weren’t being mean.
Please don’t worry about this, you are fine.

Littleraindrop15 · 21/12/2018 19:21

Ahh it's fine I would have no country left the amount of times its happened to me lol

Whisky2014 · 21/12/2018 19:22

Aw no its fine! Bet you made his day :) don't worry!!

jessstan2 · 21/12/2018 19:23

Ha ha HA HA Hee Hee Whoo hoo!
Definitely emigrate after Christmas and don't leave forwarding address ;).

WhitePhantom · 21/12/2018 19:24

Ah don't worry, he's just as embarrassed! Or maybe more - after all, he started it! 😊

cadoth · 21/12/2018 19:25

Love it 😊 made me proper smile and him too probably , don't worry x

Santaisonthesherry · 21/12/2018 19:27

At least you didn't lean in for a kiss.....

anyideasonthis · 21/12/2018 19:31

No that's not that bad! I thought the punchline was going to be something much worse! Don't worry. I'd feel a bit embarrassed but not too bad... would just laugh it off.

museumum · 21/12/2018 19:33

Just pretend you’re a huggy person. I’m really not but some people are and it seems to work for them.

Elledouble · 21/12/2018 19:33

I’ve done the opposite - my boss leaned out with one arm and without really knowing why, I gave him a weird high-up handshake. Only after I walked away I realised he’d probably been going for a hug and burned up in shame.

ScienceIsTruth · 21/12/2018 19:36

He's a really nice guy, and works hard, and has stayed late to get it finished for Christmas, which we've really appreciated. The bonus was an extra day's wage, as he's coming back to finish before New Year's Eve so we (my DH and I) wanted him to know we really appreciate his help.

He showed me pics of his family, and we have a laugh while he's working, but I really over think things, so now I'm worried he thinks I'm a man eater!

Also, about an hour before this incident, I was sitting down with my home made scones for a quick break. I'd offered him some, as you do to guests, and he was working in the same room.
10 mins later, my youngest dc came down, saw them & asked for one, and I gave her the answer I always do "Nope, I don't love you enough to share these with you, they're too nice!" Disclaimer it's a joke between us, and I do always share them with her.

But now I'm over thinking that too. Blush

Do I just pretend it didn't happen?

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Sparklfairy · 21/12/2018 19:38

I did this as a teenager. We were handing our textbooks back at the end of the year. I signed the form to say id given them back and the teacher reached his hand towards me. Having a mini crush on him, I shook it enthusiastically.

He was just reaching to take the books from me Blush

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ScienceIsTruth · 21/12/2018 19:39

Santaisonthesherry, that's exactly what my DH said when he'd stopped laughing long enough to talk!!

Normally, the only time I hug people (other than immediate family) is when I've had a few drinks and I'm merry.

OP posts:
Nellabella · 21/12/2018 19:40

at least you didnt go in for a snog!

Highginx · 21/12/2018 19:41

You need a new thread Jules.

OP It’s fine but I’d overthink it too and I think I might actually explain.

ScienceIsTruth · 21/12/2018 19:41

Lol, Sparklfairy, unfortunately I can't use youth as my excuse! I'm in my 40s.You'd think I'd know better by now!

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ernjas · 21/12/2018 19:41

Oh my gosh you've made my night, that's hilarious 😂

You need to look at it more light heartedly, I'm sure he is!

FBEH · 21/12/2018 19:42

Made me laugh. Two second embarrassment. Think no more of it and now you have a nice tale to tell 😂

Sparklfairy · 21/12/2018 19:44

Oh don't worry ScienceIsTruth, I've racked up many embarrassing moments since then!

ScienceIsTruth · 21/12/2018 19:44

Yeah, Highginx, I want to as well, but my DH said that would be even worse, and more embarrassing. That's one of my things I'm not good at, I always over explain stuff, and I'm not good at letting things go.

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Drum2018 · 21/12/2018 19:46

That's so funny. You probably made his day. I'd ignore it when he said back at work - he will hopefully forget and think it was a drunken dream he had over the holidays Smile

flapjackfairy · 21/12/2018 19:46

I forgot I had the plumber in once and that he had a key. I threw open the bathroom door with my knickers and pyjama bottoms round my ankles to the sight of him reaching the landing outside the bathroom door. I thought I was alone in the house !
I screamed and slammed the door asap.
I had to come out eventually and brazen it out ! We never spoke of it. Even more embarrassing he was a church pastor at one time and I went to his church so I had to see him every Sunday! I still blush now thinking about it !
That is completely true and hopefully will make you feel a lot better ! An awkward hug is nothing !

zen1 · 21/12/2018 19:46

Oh dear OP, I am cringing on your behalf! Only one thing for it - you’ll have to finish the job yourself!

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