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If you have 3 children..

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AnxietyForever · 19/12/2018 22:13

How did you know you wanted a 3rd?
I have 2 DS, a 5 year old and 1 year old, I mean if number 2 was a girl I think I would have been content with just the 2, however I feel like I cannot rule out a 3rd and it's on my mind.
I suppose I would be fine with another boy but a girl would also be lovely and complete the family.
What were your reasons for having 3 or more?

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Kerberos · 19/12/2018 22:15

I always wanted three

It's fucking mayhem. I love it. Wouldn't have it any other way.

I'd always have felt like someone was missing if we'd have had just two.

SonEtLumiere · 19/12/2018 22:17

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ForAMinuteThere · 19/12/2018 22:19

Second the mayhem comment! Reading between the lines are you sure you're not thinking of it just to get a girl?

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Deadringer · 19/12/2018 22:21

I had a boy and a girl 2 years apart and just didn't feel finished. After a gap of 5 years we had our third, now we have 5 altogether and love it.

Perfectly1mperfect · 19/12/2018 22:22

I only have 2 but just wanted to say that after our second, I knew I was done. The fact that it's on your mind, to me, means you would like another. I don't think you will ever regret having another child. I do think it would be nice for my children to have more siblings, but I knew having more wasn't something I wanted.

Theweasleytwins · 19/12/2018 22:22

1 and 2 are twins

Ive always felt odd/weird (dyspraxic) and being pregnant with twins i never felt like i had a normal pregnancy/child experience

WanderingTrolley1 · 19/12/2018 22:23

Big gap between DC1 & 2, didn’t want DC2 to grow up alone.

WoodBurnerBabe · 19/12/2018 22:24

I knew I wanted another almost as soon as DS was born. He had an elder sister - and now has a younger one as well. I felt just as strongly as soon as DD2 was born that we were done. Hard to explain really.

DramaAlpaca · 19/12/2018 22:25

I always wanted three. Didn't really care what sex they were, but had a slight preference for boys. I came home from hospital after having DS2 & knew even then I'd have another. Sure enough I had DS3 a couple of years later. My family feels complete with three.

BuffyFan · 19/12/2018 22:26

2&3 were twins - 3 was never the plan, but once they were born in could totally see what others love about a big family. If we were 10 years younger and quite a lot richer I'd have hankered after number 4

BookWitch · 19/12/2018 22:26

Another one who always wanted three.
I have three dds.

with two DSs, be prepared for the endless assumptions you are doing for a DD, and if you do have another DS, people will assume you are disappointed. Be prepared for that.

I love having three - they are now 24, 20 and 17, they were far enough apart for me to enjoy them as babies individually, and close enough for them to all get on.

Rumboogie · 19/12/2018 22:27

2 and 3 are twins, but I don't think my family would have felt complete with only two. Wouldn't have minded a fourth , if we had been younger (and richer!).

jpclarke · 19/12/2018 22:30

I had a boy and a girl but just knew I wanted another, we have tried for number 4 too!! But it wasn't to be and now I am really undecided about whether I want to try again. Life is busy with 2 and a third wasn't a major difference. I have 2 girls and 1 boy and I would like another boy so I do get the want but if you do try you need to be able to be happy with another boy.

soundsgreektome · 19/12/2018 22:30

Three just happened! eldest 3 and a half when youngest born. Total mayhem indeed. Two felt ok, three feels like we are complete.

m0therofdragons · 19/12/2018 22:33

Dc2 was twins. Three is plenty... they're quite lively Grin

Drogosnextwife · 19/12/2018 22:34

I would absolutely love a third baby but we don't have the room and it wouldn't be a very good decision financially but none of that really matters the reason I had to decide against it for now was I don't think I couldn't mentally cope with a third, my second was a nightmare baby and I had pnd so I doubt I could go through that again. It makes me really sad sometimes.

13amielsaoranna · 19/12/2018 22:35

I have a DD and a DS very very close in age and I really wanted a 3rd, people couldn't understand why because 'I had one of each'. I never did have a third baby, I'm very happy with what I've got, but kind of wish we just went for it and had a third. If you feel like a third go for it, but don't do it because you want a 3rd baby, not because you want a girl.

13amielsaoranna · 19/12/2018 22:37

Sorry should say do it because you want a third baby!

stillnotjustamummy · 19/12/2018 22:41

3 girls here. Just didn't feel finished. And I though I was finished until my last one hit three, but now I'm not sure and the gap seems too big to have another! The world is built for families of four though, hotels, cars, group entry, fairground ride requirements... but I love having three, they are a proper unit!

PaperChains100 · 19/12/2018 22:42

I knew I wanted another as soon as I had DC2, but we gave ourselves time to really think about it. DC3 came along 3 years later, and I absolutely knew I was done, family complete. I count myself very lucky to have had such clear feelings and been able to act as I've wished.

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AnxietyForever · 19/12/2018 22:43

I mean I don't want to lie and say a girl isn't one of the main reasons for a 3rd, however I wouldn't be disappointed with another boy, I love my 2 boys there great.
Saying that I always knew I would want 3 anyway, it definitely wouldn't be now, maybe in a year or so when the baby isn't such a baby and I can enjoy him more.

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namechangedtoday15 · 19/12/2018 22:44

1&2 were (premature) b/g twins and I wanted a normal pregnancy. Having had a sister I also wanted another girl.

I don't regret Number 3, she completed our family. Shes brought a real joy to all of us. But, with the benefit of hindsight (9 years after Number 3), I do realise that life would have been easier as a family of 4. Its chaos, expensive and definitely has an impact on my career having 3.

MaraScottie · 19/12/2018 22:46

I have a boy and a girl, 6 and 4.

A third is always on my mind, I adore them as babies but I think having 3 talking children might send me over the edge!

I'm also 38 and the higher risks are also putting me off. My heart wants to take the risk but I think for the sake of my sanity, I'll have to stick with 2.

GodolphianArabian · 19/12/2018 22:48

I knew i wanted a third after second was born. I knew I was done once third was born. I love that I feel like we have a big family without it being too crazy. Although it can be a bit of a madhouse at times. There seems to be a lot more refereeing to do with three although that could just be my lot.

RNBrie · 19/12/2018 22:49

I wanted 4 but number 3 has finished me off Grin

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