Find It Hard Not To Correct People

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I think I am turning into my DM, as she is very hot on grammer (or is it grammar?!), spelling etc. I have got into trouble a few times on Facebook etc as I have (unintentionally) offended people who are dyslexic. A lot of the time though it isn't dyslexia or learning difficulties but just laziness or ignorance. I just can't seem to help myself! Yesterday I saw a pic of a Facebook friend at her Christmas party - her DH had captioned it "X's Xmas Due" instead of "Do". I commented that since he had written due, I thought he was saying that she was expecting again. I noticed today that the comment had been removed & the caption now read "X's Christmas Party". I felt bad! But as I said, I just can't seem to help myself. I wonder what some folks actually learn in school. Does anyone else get bothered by stuff like that? Misused apostrophes are another one!

Sorry for that Bit; people do tend to lose their concentration, minds, heads... over LadyR.

It’s better to be kind rather than right.

Saying that, I have to stop myself correcting mispronunciations such as mischievous, vice versa and damp squib.

Asked for it be removed because you don't like the answers? 🤔

Op maybe it has done you a favour if it it stops you being a knob.

Don't do it, people will assume you're extremely ignorant and have no social graces whatsoever, regardless of your concern for correct grammar and spelling. It's very rude indeed. That's grammar with an A since you ask.

@Hellonheels are you supposed to drink snowball with cocktail cherries in? I’ve bought some for Christmas, first time, never knew this.

Maybe retrain to be a primary school teacher. Overworked, underpaid and under appreciated. Make a real difference to the SPAG rather than picking holes in people online.

Villanelle I think opinion may be divided on the cocktail cherries. But to me they are nothing without cherries!

I use Opies cherries and add a spoon of the syrup to the mix. Really fancy one now!

Snowball

Since I am the lush person who introduced snowballs to the thread, I feel I should have final say in the Great Snowball Debate. And the answer is NO CHERRY as they are vile things and an insult to real cherries. You're welcome.

I'm neutral on the cherry debate but now I want a snowball and it's not even 9.

Bit we must agree to disagree. Cherries are the best!

What the actual fuck is a snowball?

Correcting people's spag mistakes online comes across as pompous and nasty. You can't know why people are making mistakes so it's unkind to judge them for it. Perhaps they have learning difficulties and they've worked incredible hard to reach the level they are at or perhaps English isn't their first language. I struggle with SPAG but I'm not stupid at other things. To dismiss someone as dumb purely based spag mistakes on an informal internet post is wrong.
TBH I'd rather be thought of as dumb than as a pompous know-it-all.

I can still remember a wedding I went to when I was about 5, because I was given a glass of lemonade in a champagne coupe (one of the wide, shallow glasses) with a cocktail cherry on a stick - I was fascinated by the way the drink fizzed when I dipped the cherry in, kept me quiet during the speeches anyway!

Snowball is advocaat and lemonade, I think. A Christmas treat for us as children, we were completely unaware that it had any alcohol in though!

I always think people who correct others spelling and grammar on social media or forums are pretty pathetic and obviously lack better things to do in their lives so are looking for a way to feel superior and stroking their own ego in any little way they can. Like we are dealing with social media not nuclear codes here governor. Someone missing an apostrophe means absolutely nothing in the grand or minor scheme of anything.

And who cares if it's out of laziness or not. Social media is the epitome of laziness and a complete waste of time. If you take it so seriously that you literally cannot help yourself from correcting other people you need some sort of professional help because you clearly have no life.

The irony is that social media has made written communication so much more prevalent now

Neverunderfed have you never had a snowball. I actually want to cry for you! It's the taste of Christmas!

I've never even seen one. I may have to rectify this...

I never correct anyone (unless asked, e.g. once editing the novel of a friend whose SPAG were dreadful.
But I do seriously despair at our education system, when otherwise reasonably intelligent people who don't have dyslexia, have never learned the difference between your/you're, its/it's, there/their/they're, lose/loose, who's/whose, etc.

These things are not remotely difficult! A cheap book from Smith's will soon sort them out for anyone who CBA.
I say this as someone who never had the slightest difficulty in sorting them out with my Arabic-speaking learners of English - one or two of whom were not even literate in their own language.

And I really hate the attitude of, 'Nobody except nitpicking old,pedants cares about these things any more, so who gives a shit?'

Many certainly do still care - making elementary mistake will frequently mark a person down as thick, uneducated or just plain CBA sloppy. And if someone makes them on a CV when applying for a job with several applicants, theirs may well be the first to be weeded and binned.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER Not a single person on this thread has said they don't care about it. They have said that it's knobbish to correct it. And that it matters less on social media than a job application for example.

Anyway, have a snowball and relax

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER "making elementary mistake will frequently mark a person down as thick, uneducated or just plain CBA sloppy*"
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Below is a post I made on a similar thread running. The quotes are from that thread but there has been plenty similar here. I wonder if you would be so quick to judge so horribly if you thought about it for more than a moment?
I'm sure I've made mistakes here. Do you genuinely judge me as thick or sloppy or uneducated? Or will you trot out the usual "well of course I didn't mean people with disabilities" which of course you won't know about anyway on just reading their thick mistakes?

"Badly educated
It is just ignorance
I honestly just fail to see how or why people can't understand this
So few people care about whether they're using the wrong word
Annoys me intensely
presumably their teachers did try to tell them, and they didn't pay attention or retain the information- or they just don't care
I hate when I see/hear grammar errors but I bite my tongue. It just makes the writer/speaker look badly educated"

All of these are direct quotes from this thread. I have just posted on another thread to say I used to be a stickler (in my own head as I'm not a twat!) but have lost some of my language and SPag due to a brain issue and subsequent medication.

How do you think people like me feel when we see the above comments? Genuine question for those who have posted them?

If you don't have the grace to come back and answer this, I'll tell you. It makes me feel even more sad and shit than I already feel, struggling so much with the basics. Please don't take stuff for granted as it hurts to lose it and hurts even more when you're judged as ignorant for losing it

And I've just noticed your own elementary mistake. The irony. How does it feel knowing you too could now be judged as thick in that smug superior glass house of yours?

Knock yourself out OP. You should, however, be aware that everyone will think you are a smug twat.

Ironic that your own post isn't exactly free of faults!