Quirky lonesome mums unite here!

[JohnMcCainsDeathStare]

Perhaps I ought to have posted this in Special Needs but this is a thread where those of us who don't have that many real life friends and are not sure why can hang out here.
So if you found it hard to make friends stick in real life maybe we can get them to stick here.

As for me - I do have friends but don't often see them and those I do are mostly thanks to DH. I work in STEM and like doing stuff like outdoor pursuits, obstacle course races and video games. I am also a massive SCI-Fi nerd as well and that my nerdity is part of how I work for a living. I also have two equally quirky small boys as well.

I'm not sure if I'm quirky... maybe I am. I don't feel normal, though I suppose no one does!
I've got good friends but few and many are far away. I quite enjoy my own company and I'm quite nerdy though less in a STEM way than a general wonk and history way. I often seem to say odd things.

I'm feeling ok with myself but in the past it's been a source of anxiety.

Nice idea to unite with some like minded...or differently minded... people.

Hello, well this is a place for people who in general tend to be more lonesome but where some more human contact would'nt be sniffed at. I don't know about you but I get the feeling that if I didn't phone/message/email people then hardly anyone would contact me. In fact, I have used this in the past to weed out friendships that in hindsight weren;t great.

Signing in.... never really been successful in making friends, they tend to be people who talk incessantly so I don't have to. And they then bugger off when they find a better offer elsewhere.

Quirky, yes, not really into sci fi although Buffy is the only series I've ever been into and have the whole lot on dvd. But struggled failed to engage with people even in settings that revolve around my hobbies.

Anyway... human contact sounds interesting. Both of my kids are pre school currently.

Oh and welcome to the thread LambChops. Hopefully it won't wunk into oblivion - too much like in real life!

Definitely find making friends in real life a bit tricky. Not sure if I count as quirky though. Single mum of 2 gorgeous boys 8 and 6.

Introverted mum slides in and hides quietly in the corner with my book

Mum to 3 year old DD.

Self employed, don't have many friends and those I do have are both single and childless, which can be quite isolating.

Probably a bit quirky...not sure! Big fan of Dr Who, Sherlock, etc.

Hello anyhow!

Hello MyGast It's not a critical aspect being quirky more that you aren't alone in that making friends - as in the next stage beyond acquaitences is damn hard. That and in the past when I have had friends it turned out my friendship QC was somewhat wonky to say the least...

And hello to Nancy and Deuteragonist I can't guarantee I'll say hello every single one of you who join but I will read and comment adn also make sure your quoted correctly.

Waves at the rest of the mums out there. I'M still here if you want to hang out here.

I feel like I would probably qualify as quirky but then I second guess myself and wonder if I’m just trying to seem more interesting than I really am.

Today once the boys are napping I plan to watch YouTube videos about category theory and finish a ctf I’ve been focused on for days (gonna brute force me some md5 hashes).

Signing in too!! I'm a master at putting on the "normal" face to go to work (primary school) but underneath I'm an introverted gamer, artist, photographer and rock music fan. Don't really fit with any one and being honest, I prefer it that way. Wish I could meet some fellow quirky folks!

Hi @TimeWoundsAllHeals and @EddieVeddersfoxymop

How's everyone's day been?

I made a dumb mistake on my ctf and gave up and did the quiz. I am sure if I’d kept trying if have succeeded. I successfully reverse engineered the binary but I failed implementing a search of potential strings for the md5 hash.

Thankfully the next ctf is not focused on crypt.

Watching videos about category theory now.

Hello, not too bad today, second last day of work for me. I'm studying with the open university so been working on my portfolio which is due at the start of January.
My DD11, is also following in my quirky footsteps but was pleased for her today when a pal asked her to go out over the weekend. Girls just don't get her, she's an only child, dyslexic, a gamer and drawer of kawaii figures. Quite possibly somewhere on the autistic spectrum but as typically for girls, she masks it well and tries hard to fit in. At home though, she's as quirky as they come.

Can I come and lurk awkwardly in the corner? I can bring snacks.

My day a little frustrating - got sucked into a practical work vortex. Need to get some more research stuff sorted, I need to get some things clear before everyone goes for Xmas and plan for new year. Planning for the future is such a pain in the ass when you have to spend imaginary money. But there's no more after school for boys and I've posted all my cards. How's your days?

can I lurk too? moved to new area. not quirky but very shy.

Shit day due to my introverted social awkwardness. Its the downside of Christmas for me. I'm dreading the weekend. I wish I could just go with the flow like other people and enjoy myself.

Hello - how is everyone? We are about to set off and check out a nice walk and some illuminations. Then I need to think about dinner tonight and maybe do some prep.
Had a bit of drama with a dead fridge on Saturday but thankfully Currys was open. Just wish it was a bit colder today to keep more things fresh. Plan to prep some veg and leave it in covered pans overnight - it's my first time cooking Xmas dinner.

Hi all!
I'm looking forward to Christmas! I had a socially successful day yesterday too: went to a movie (short) with the toddler and her friend and the friend's mum. Feel like I have made a mummy friend finally, though still distant and not like...normal people have. Ha. It was good though.
One thing I have been thinking recently is I think a lot of people feel awkward, to a greater or lesser degree, and that's made me more ok with being a dork.

I know that's not what this thread is entirely about, but it's a theme I saw a bit.

Merry Christmas to all of you. Hope it's a great one!

Glad your fridge is sorted JohnMcCain (love your name!). Lucky it didn't happen later eh! Good luck with the cooking!

Hi, joining in! 👋🏻 I'm not shy just a bit odd and have no friends other than DP and my mum!

Hello! I'm odd :) and very happy to admit! I'm a sole parent in ftw, I have an (equally odd) boyfriend but we don't cohabit. So the loneliness and isolation - absolutely.

This years a bit crap Christmas wise. I've been let down by loads of people and I'm just about hanging in there.

Nerdy, horror fan, love a bit of the gay scene but not over the line myself, rugby lover, forager, all things crafty and creative. I would say music too but I'm really crap at it

There's a spin-off mumsnet group on Facebook called ChuMNs set up for this very purpose, come on over ,it's very friendly

I might do but in the aftermath of Brexit/Trump and jobseeking I hardly go there since it was not helping with my mental health. I am slowly reintroducing Twitter but my mental health is a lot better without the bulk of social media.

For me it was also a miserable time when I found out that some of my oldest friends weren't really friends in that they are very selfish and self-involved people. I have often been unevenly yoked when it comes to friendships in that it meant more to me than them. This has been compounded by the fact that my ex-friends live in friends-rich areas while I have lived in relatively friends-poor zones - means they don't miss me much. Still they saved me a job by removing themselves from my friends list and that's one less card to writes.