Would you be comfortable with this?

[VeniceBitch]

If your boyfriend (of only a few months) said that he was going for a drink with a girl he met on tinder and used to date - would you be OK with this? They never slept together but were/are obviously attracted to each other and got on well.

I think he's angling for you to dump him, so he can blame you and look

On the information you have, she's a friend. They went on a few dates, it wasn't right, so they stopped dating but they still get on. Unless he's acting dodgy about it, which he doesn't seem to be, it's a drink with a friend. There's no rule that says only friends made before you met your partner are valid.

Oops 'friends made a long time before you met your partner.'

Nope. Not a chance. Seeya!!
He wants to see if she fancies him anymore. Then he will either cheat or finish with you. Could not entertain this nonsense, a man having a female friend is different to a bloody tinder date.

Ok I’m going against the grain and saying he isn’t necessarily doing anything wrong. I remained friends with a few people I dated and am friends with people I met through tinder, where we decided we didn’t want to date but wanted to remain friends. I wouldn’t drop them because I entered a relationship because they’re friends, and I wouldn’t like a partner insisting something untoward is going on when it really isn’t

In fact I went to dinner with one of my Tinder friends the other night - and his girlfriend! She knows how we met and it’s never been an issue

Weird. Normally the responses on here are different to this when a new girlfriend is unhappy about their boyfriend meeting up with a female friend. Is it because they met on Tinder? I'm not saying he's not dodgy, he might be, but equally it might be perfectly innocent. They briefly dated but it didn't work out. They remain in contact and meet platonically. That's really as much as we know. Basically you need to work out if you're happy for your boyfriend to have platonic female friends (ex's or not) and if not end the relationship

No. And waste no more of your time and effort on this one OP!

How you haven't laughed in his face is beyond me.

Do not let him walk all over you like this!
He wants to go out for a drink with an old flame? Fine. But you won't be there when he gets back.
Tell him in no uncertain terms to get to fuck.

Him making out like you're being unreasonable is worrying behaviour - whether he's up to no good or not. You're entitled to your own feelings on this, without anyone invalidating them.
It'll only get worse.

Cheeky bastard.

Oh, and do not (under any circumstances) do the pick me dance.

Plenty more fish in the sea. Ones that'll actually respect you, your feelings and your relationship.

Maybe she doesn't know he has a girlfriend?

Anyway no I wouldn't be okay with this.

He's playing mind games with you, tell him where to go and next time raise your standards

I can't believe you acted cool and and now you'll be worrying etc about this all night knowing he's having right good time with his old flame

Oh, absolutely not.

ABSOLUTELY. NOT.

'Friend' or not, he should have more respect for The Relationship than to put it under this unnecessary pressure at this point.

Would you do this? And have the reaction to his concerns that he's had to yours?

I suspect not.

I get your point of view op I really do but it really depends if he comes across as untrustworthy or if its just jealousy at play.

One particular friend in my group was a tinder date of one of my closest friends he goes out regularly with the fríend and her now long-term partner, with us as individuals and or in groups. Same circumstances as your bf said.

I'm also friends with a previous tinder date and we went further than just dates but there was no relationship spark.

If he values her friendship then you can either accept it or let him go unless he is being underhand and cheating in plain sight then ltb. The circumstances in which they met is a bit void imo.

Oh no op bin him off