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did You marry the love of your life?

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FleeceDetective · 15/12/2018 17:37

After reading on a few different threads some people can belittle the significance of a relationship because of how long it lasted or for not being married/having children.

It got me to thinking that for myself the most significant relationship I’ve had barely got started in an official way, and would seem like barely a fling for a lot of people, but to me it meant and still does mean a lot in shaping who I am and my life experiences.

I wonder if this is true for other people, is your most significant ex your longest relationship?

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PatchworkElmer · 15/12/2018 18:32

I’d probably describe DH as my soulmate as opposed to the love of my life. As someone else has said, ‘love of my life’ for me conjures up loads of excitement, early stages of a relationship, ups and downs... DH started off like that, but now he represents stability, and safety. He is my ‘forever person’.

I think I’d be more inclined to refer to DS as the love of my life tbh, because my love for him utterly overwhelming and forever changing!

rabbitfoodadvocate · 15/12/2018 18:36

Without a doubt, yes.

Justabadwife · 15/12/2018 18:36

Without a doubt. We've been together 11 years and married 2. 🧡

CitrusFruit9 · 15/12/2018 18:36

Yes. Unfortunately he was a nasty person who ruined my life and I wasted all my youth with him.

I'm staying single now.

KanielOutis · 15/12/2018 18:40

Yes, but he is my second husband. He was my best friend, and even went to my first wedding. I wish I had the courage to confess how I felt about him before the first marriage went ahead.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 15/12/2018 20:53

I think I'm probably answering this "wrong". If there is such a thing, but No I didn't as he just wasn't remotely interested. Saying that though. In his defence I never told him I had feelings for him as my confidence was lower than a worms belly. Yes I know if you don't ask you don't get and all that.
I even read in my horoscope. Of yours trying to attract a certain someone. Its time to give up. Those words had an extremely upsetting almost tragic impact which I won't write down.
Not helped that the bloke my friend fancied felt the same.
Don't get me wrong. I'm delighted nothing came of it now as I wouldn't have had dd. I might hsve a dd but It wouldnt have been her.
Itd be ironic if he asked me out, though.
I thought that because he wasn't interested. It meant I was fat repulsive useless nothing at all going for me. However as you get older. You do realise. Like it or not, you can't win em all.
Twisted around the other way. It didn't mean my friend was model material just because she got her bloke. There are plenty of men who would pick me over her and vise versa. However good luck telling that to an appallingly shy, ridiculously unconfident 18 year old surrounded by everyone who has the bloke they want.
Me and dp have been together almost 6 years. We're not married or even living together. It may sound strange but it works, so all good.

WhyAmISoCold · 15/12/2018 21:31

No.

SleepingBooty · 15/12/2018 21:37

Yes definitely. We met young 18 & 22 but we fit perfectly together. We don't do big romantic gestures and pda but we get each other.

OhTheRoses · 15/12/2018 21:44

Yes. Knew I'd marry him the night we met. We were going out with different people. He broke it off with his gf of five years a few days later.

Called me a few days after that. First date was incredible. Second date was better. We haven't chosen to be apart from that 2nd date. 30 years ago. I thought I'd neen on love before that. Could easily have compromised but when you know, you know. Nothing objective about it.

hamburgers · 15/12/2018 21:48

Yes.

NeedToChangeMyLightBulb · 15/12/2018 21:49

Never married... but the LOML is blissfully happy with his LOHL.
Stabs me through the heart every time I see them.

magimedi · 15/12/2018 21:52

Yes.

33 years later & we are still quietly very happy.

elvislives2012 · 15/12/2018 21:57

Yup. Together 19 years, married 6 years, 2 children. He is such an annoying prick. But the absolute love of my life

ChodeofChodeHall · 15/12/2018 21:59

Yes, he is absolutely perfect for me, could not imagine a better husband.

toomanypillows · 15/12/2018 22:11

Absolutely. Married him after 11 months of knowing him. We celebrate 20 years married next year 😍

Dowser · 15/12/2018 22:18

Some very sad stories here.

Fujexa · 15/12/2018 22:18

Yes, definitely. I love my husband more than words can say. Met him aged 17 and now in our thirties. No-one holds a candle to him. I'm a very very lucky person.

myohmywhatawonderfulday · 15/12/2018 22:20

Yes I did

ILoveAnOwl · 15/12/2018 22:24

Nope. But oddly, I knew my husband would be the man I would marry from the moment I met him.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 15/12/2018 22:25

Lightbulb

HildaZelda · 15/12/2018 22:28

No.

WhereHaveTheyGone12 · 15/12/2018 22:35

I don’t believe in ‘love of your life’ or soul mates etc.

But the man I married is the man I love and love more than any man that came before him. If we were to break up I would be devastated but I’d like to think I could move on and love someone else. It’s easy for your current love to be the love of your life, because in that moment you love them. If that makes any sense?

I’m very cyclical

justcheese · 15/12/2018 22:40

No.

greendale17 · 15/12/2018 22:41

Yes

WhereHaveTheyGone12 · 15/12/2018 22:41

I’m obviously cynical not cyclical

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