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What did you have 20 years ago that you don't have now?

128 replies

lightlypoached · 15/12/2018 00:25

I'll start:

  1. the ability to sleep face down (sadly lost during 1st pregnancy, have
    never been truly comfortable since Grin

  2. a tiny waist

  3. a huuuge mortgage

OP posts:
SylvanianFrenemies · 15/12/2018 10:05

A desire to go clubbing 3 times a week (or ever).
A flat, smooth tummy.
A belly button piercing.
Roots the same colour as the rest of my hair.

x2boys · 15/12/2018 10:08

Money to spend on whatever i wanted a reasonable figure freedom to go where ever i wanted , i was 25 and single , i wouldnt change dh and my boys for anything though😃

LinoleumBlownapart · 15/12/2018 10:11

A debt

A clean house

Inhibitions

Onesmallstepforaman · 15/12/2018 10:17

My mum
My dad
My wife
A great career
A young daughter
I now have an older daughter, a hatred for cancer, and a cynical streak a mile wide. Also a determination to enjoy as much of what's left.

RetiredNotExpired · 15/12/2018 10:36

A wardrobe full of clothes 3 sizes smaller than my current ones
Long hair
The ability to survive hangovers
Patience with idiots

MiddlingMum · 15/12/2018 10:36

A flat stomach.
Toddlers.
A walnut tree.

Hen2018 · 15/12/2018 10:43

A husband who seemed quite pleasant.
No PTSD
Grandparents
3 close friends still alive
Hopes and dreams
A career
No children

Bluesheep8 · 15/12/2018 11:40

4 stone of excess weight
A group of pub acquaintances
A group of work acquaintances
My beautiful, much missed tabby cat
A fear that my life would be changed for the worse by multiple sclerosis

Bluesheep8 · 15/12/2018 11:41

I was 25 btw

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 15/12/2018 11:51

Energy
The ability to sleep all night
Hope, optimism

FurryDogMother · 15/12/2018 11:52

The right to vote in UK referenda (we emigrated 19 years ago)
A mortgage
The ability to hand-code entire websites
Warm feet (they're currently freezing!)

ohwellinthatcasetryprunes · 15/12/2018 11:57

An overdraft
Morning sickness
A Ford Escort

SageYourResoluteOracle · 15/12/2018 11:59

Hope and joie de vivre ... actually, that's not true. 20 years ago I was in an abusive relationship. Then once I'd escaped, the rest of my 20s were brilliant. But now, things are properly shitty and I can't help wonder what the point is!

CormoranStrike · 15/12/2018 12:00

A waistline
Pert breasts
A mortgage

Auntpetunia2015 · 15/12/2018 12:01

A dad,
a husband
sadly not got the first anymore and happily not got the second!

notangelinajolie · 15/12/2018 12:03

A mum and dad . My health. Hair. 2 of the most loveliest sweetest tiny little girls. A job.

Youmadorwhat · 15/12/2018 12:05

Well 20 years ago I was nearly 14....so I literally had not a care in the world!! 🙈🤣🤣

Lastbustowhitehawk · 15/12/2018 12:16

A Tamagotchi
A truly awful relationship with my stepmother - my pre-teen hormones and her menopause made for a rough few years when we made each other pretty miserable. Fortunately the years have mellowed us both and now we get on pretty well. 1998 me would never have thought that possible!

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 15/12/2018 12:26

The ability to sleep through the night without having to get up and go to the loo

Anxiety about the future

An emergent career

A whole load of guilt and shame about an inappropriate sexual relationship from 10 years earlier

Notquiteagandt · 15/12/2018 22:51

I was ten.

So a training bra (1st in my class to wear a bra. Got teased for it)
Braces
Childhood nieve optimistm and hope for future.
Naturally blonde hair no greys.

The amaizing ability to be out the house all weekend. A new top or something to wear, and keep myself really amused all on £10 pw pocket money.

A black belt in taekwondo. I mean technically no one takes it away. But cant remember any of it.

School girl crushes.

Perfect eyebrows then cane the 90s tremd for pencil thin and they never quite grew back.

Fransica · 09/02/2020 11:56

A loving and peaceful relationship.
I have been divorced for 9 years now. To be honest my life has been in utter shambles since then. I have to share the custody of my child with an half wit of a man.
I don’t see men the same way anymore. I get very irritated with the smallest of things. Have not been in any other relationships since my divorce . Friends and families have tried persuading me into getting another man but they dont know the brutal effect the previous one had.
i used to be the jovial one. The person every other person loves to talk and relate to. I’m scared the break up has ruined every possibility of me having any affection towards any man. I pray to God everyday to help me through the phase. In as much as I try to wear a smile everytime I’m really hurt inside.
to be honest, I feel like God isn’t with me no more cause of the way I used to find out I had a cheating spouse. I always felt the mistake I made was being totally forthcoming and giving him all my trust. Most of my friends even blamed me and accused me of being too open and trusting but at that time I didn’t see the essence of being in a relationship and doubting every action your spouse takes.I always felt like sorting after the services of Nerdyspy to help hack his phone was a bit too much but if I didn’t I would still be in a relationship with a cheat and a liar. Some moments after carrying in with that act was when I realized I almost already fell out of love for him cause I’ll never do that normally. I’ll sincerely make the same decision if I had to again cause I believe if he’s capable of cheating she could take my life too. Nowadays, I
advice people to take the relationship slowly and for their own sake not be totally open and trusting cause you can see where that landed me.

motorcyclenumptiness · 09/02/2020 12:10

A house, a Dad, a dog, a career, optimism for the future.

Oldraver · 09/02/2020 12:12

A husband

ForalltheSaints · 09/02/2020 13:14

A video recorder.
Gas cooker not all electric.
A redundancy notice (started later this month 20 years ago where I work now, so it all turned out OK).
Two parents and a grandmother (only have mum now).

Portulaca · 09/02/2020 13:30

Money, a career and nice clothes.

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