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Please can the earth swallow me up - Christmas party

62 replies

EssexMummy123456 · 14/12/2018 20:11

So so so embarrassing, I’m actually at the office Christmas party and managed to be last in to be seated and there wasn’t a seat or anyone to sit with and I know I should be brave and insist some random strangers make room for me but instead I’m hiding outside in the bar not getting a Christmas meal and trying not to cry #introvert

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Wooooooooaaaaaaaahhhhhhh · 14/12/2018 20:49

Have you not got a colleague friend who can help?

Quartz2208 · 14/12/2018 20:51

How can they be random strangers if they are your work colleagues?

Echobelly · 14/12/2018 20:52

Can you not go to the waiter and say you are with the party from X and you need a seat with them? There's no need to be embarrassed and I guarantee no one will notice or care other than to say they're sorry someone messed up the seating plan. You can pretend you had to go and take a call or something as to why you missed getting a seat

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/12/2018 20:52

Oh OP. I know it's embarrassing for you, I'd be uncomfortable too but really, nobody would think anything of it if you could just stroll in, scope out where your colleagues are and ask waiting staff to make a place for you there. Bad seat planning indeed.

I really like gamerchick's post on this thread and all of them, actually, channel her and take your place.

Your embarrassment will be over in minutes and you'll be enjoying yourself before you know it.

brizzledrizzle · 14/12/2018 20:57

Go for it OP, you are entitled to have a seat and take part.

Dollymixture22 · 14/12/2018 21:01

Ask the wait staff to sort out space. There should be enough place settings

Crunchymum · 14/12/2018 21:01

I don't understand, what has happened OP?

Why can't you go in and speak to one of your colleagues that you know? Your manager? You must know someone? Shock

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/12/2018 21:21

I think (and hope) that OP has been spotted as missing, found lurking outside, swept up into the bosom of the party and has forgotten all about this blip. I really hope that's what's happened.

DBN1 · 14/12/2018 21:22

Why can't you go in and speak to one of your colleagues that you know? Your manager? You must know someone? shock Because everyone else is seated, getting on with their night and OP feels too shy/doesn't want to draw attention to herself and get people to shift about.
Please OP, if you're feeling really anxious then take PPs advice and get yourself off (travel permitting) home or out somewhere else that you feel comfortable. If you're not at that stage then also follow PPs advice, ask a member of the venue staff to set you a place and go in once it's ready.
I presume you've paid for this evening, may have been really looking forward to it too? Then just go in and please enjoy your night. Your colleagues are probably wondering where you are and will be glad to see you arrive
You can do this! GinFlowersWine

SouthernComforts · 14/12/2018 21:30

I don't understand, is it a works do at a venue with loads of other companies, and there's no room at your companies table?

Or is it a full room of people from your company?

SouthernComforts · 14/12/2018 21:31

In fact either way I don't get it, just walk in and say hi sorry I'm late where's my chair?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/12/2018 21:40

You don't get it, SouthernComforts, that's ok but some of us do and we understand why OP feels as she does. Not everybody can just breeze in as if it's nothing. It is to her.

PolkaDoting · 14/12/2018 21:42

The longer you leave it the worse it will be. Go back, find someone you know and like and see if they can make room for you.

Ooplesandbanoonoos · 14/12/2018 22:01

May be a party night type thing with lots of tables from different work places.
Good luck OP

TheFifthKey · 14/12/2018 22:04

Oh god, you have my sympathy. I’d have the balls to ask outright for a seat if I caught myself at the exact right moment, if that makes sense, but if I left it too long I’d freeze and not be able to say anything at all.

Wooooooooaaaaaaaahhhhhhh · 15/12/2018 08:37

Wonder if the OP got their Christmas dinner.

hmmwhatatodo · 15/12/2018 10:04

Sooooo what happened?

EducatingSweary · 15/12/2018 10:43

what happened in the end OP?

Bluesheep8 · 15/12/2018 11:16

Yeah, what happened? I hate disappearing OP's!

Honeyroar · 15/12/2018 11:19

Hopefully the silence means the OP went back and had her meal and a good time.

yawning801 · 15/12/2018 11:20

I'm presuming that the silence means that OP went in, got very pissed and is now too hungover to type!

missmouse101 · 15/12/2018 22:21

Op????? People have put time and effort into helping you. What happened, or was this a fake post?

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 15/12/2018 22:26

Hopefully op has gathered enough courage to find a seat, drink some wine and is now getting her groove on ...

missmouse101 · 15/12/2018 22:27

Except it was last night!!!

3luckystars · 15/12/2018 22:30

You are 2 hours from home, so go home now rather than later on, it doesnt get closer the longer you stay out (unless your party is on a boat sailing towards your house)