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Gahh... DH not yet home after a night out, hugely out of character, help me stay calm please?

85 replies

MarinaMarinara · 09/12/2018 05:51

My lovely DH is a SAHD and very very rarely goes out. Tonight he went out locally with 3 or 4 friends, I’ve met a couple of them briefly (so know first names) but don’t really know them. It was drinks at one person’s house, then out to a bar in our (small rural) town then back to someone’s house for more drinks.

We figured he’d be home around 2am. I made the spare room up just in case he was a bit worse for wear, so he didn’t wake up me and the baby.

It’s now quarter to six, I’m awake with the baby (toddler will be through in the next half hour too) the weather outside is awful and he still isn’t home, and I am really worried.

The text I sent him half an hour ago has been delivered but not read. I rang him once 15 mins ago - his phone rang but he didn’t answer.

Please somebody talk me down. I don’t mind if he’s pissed and crashed at someone’s house, I don’t care if he is hung over today, he rarely gets a night out and I want him to have had fun. I am just very very worried especially with the awful weather that he is hurt or something happened on the walk home or something. Gah! Grip please?

OP posts:
JustWingingLifeAsUsual · 09/12/2018 07:26

When he comes in at 7am, usually means he has been out about 4pm the previous day! The latest he has come in is 9am and I was in an extremely foul mood that day.

GertrudeCB · 09/12/2018 07:27

I'm sure he's just crashed out op.

StealthPolarBear · 09/12/2018 07:27

Have you looked on Facebook t see if there are any pictures of the night on his or a friends? Just wondering if eg there's a picture of him at 3am asleep on the sofa.
Yes I've always wondered that about the credit card. In my case I'd be helping to pay it off but in your case it would be even stupider!

Timetobealive · 09/12/2018 07:27

You knew he was going back to someone else’s for drinks so I think you can assume he has done that. I would be more worried if he was just going for a night on the town with a taxi back.

PouchofDouglas · 09/12/2018 07:30

Christ don’t call

mama1980 · 09/12/2018 07:32

I hope he turns up op. Fingers crossed he just crashed at a mates.

BooHasAPressieForYou · 09/12/2018 07:36

Hand hold, I've been there OP
In twenty years, DH has done this a few times.
One time he was asleep in a hedge as he had tried to walk home after missing the last bus. I got a text asking to call him a cab at 4am (he did make it up to me).
He fell asleep on the train home too and ended up having to pay £40 to get home.

I would suggest putting a few of his mates numbers on your phone, I have his now and can just send a quick text if I worry.

FestiveNut · 09/12/2018 07:38

Tell him off when he gets home. The silly sausage. Totally get why you're worried, I would be too, but in a quiet village he's unlikely to get attacked, so even if he did pass out outside, the worst that's likely to happen is a chill, it's quite mild for this time of year. Try not to fret. Flowers

alwaysontimeneverlate · 09/12/2018 07:43

Oh I hate the anxious feeling this causes. As pp said probably just passed out if going back to someone's house afterwards. I'd be logging into find my iPhone too if possible.

Hope he surfaces soon x

Maccapacca88 · 09/12/2018 07:43

Pre drinks, bar and post drinks... That’s a lot for a bloke who rarely goes out! He’s tried to keep up with his mates and has ended up asleep. Possibly in a bath tub or on a kitchen floor Grin Just take the piss out of him for being a lightweight when he shows up! Silly bugger.

CountessVonBoobs · 09/12/2018 07:43

These threads always end with the men turning up, hungover and varying degrees of sheepish. He'll be all right.

A580Hojas · 09/12/2018 07:45

You poor thing. I would be beyond livid with my dh if he ever put me through that sort of worry.

StealthPolarBear · 09/12/2018 07:48

Any update op? Or are you lying in a white towel with cucumber on your eyes at the moment?

OhioOhioOhio · 09/12/2018 07:48

Keep busy. Try and get ahead of all the housie jobs so when he does come home you can crash too.

ButtMuncher · 09/12/2018 07:49

Am sure he'll turn up with a raging hangover and apologies to boot! But totally understand your worry OP - I'd be the same Thanks

Sammysquiz · 09/12/2018 07:50

If he rarely goes out he probably got very drunk and is passed out on his friends sofa. Shit for you though, I’d have felt worried too, hope he’s suitably apologetic when he crawls in!

RedPandaMama · 09/12/2018 07:51

Hope he turns up soon with some flowers for you OP and an apology for causing you worry!

Babygrey7 · 09/12/2018 07:52

He must have fallen asleep on someone's sofa

picklemebaubles · 09/12/2018 07:55

If he had left at a sensible time in a sensible state (and therefore genuinely missing), his mates should have seen the message by now and told you.

As they haven't, chances are they are all still sleeping it off in a heap.

Original poster
MarinaMarinara · 09/12/2018 07:55

He’s (groggily and apologetically) called.

He’d passed out on a mate’s sofa (one of the mates I messaged who has blatantly seen the message and gone and kicked DH). V relieved and have told him he’s a knob.

OP posts:
greyspottedgoose · 09/12/2018 07:56

Good idea to message them on Facebook, it's absolutely not paranoid it's just human nature, Iv had to do it before, just a quick 'who's sofa is he on? Or do I need to put my wellies on and go traipsing round the streets looking for him' all was well in the end

Original poster
MarinaMarinara · 09/12/2018 07:56

And thanks for all the hand holding, it has helped!

OP posts:
showmeyourgroovymoves · 09/12/2018 07:57

Phew. So relieved for you

FestiveNut · 09/12/2018 08:02

See, all's well that ends well Smile

Groovee · 09/12/2018 08:04

Glad he's ok x