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How old is too old?

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JayKayCeeDee · 06/12/2018 22:28

What's your cut off point for a final baby? we have 1 DS whose 14 months. was born prem but seems ok! Took 18 months to conceive. I'm 32 and DH is 40. How long would you leave it if you wanted another child?

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bluecanoeforyou · 06/12/2018 23:48

I'm 35 and Dh is 55, we've been trying for about a year but nothing yet so it's probably not happening for us

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JayKayCeeDee · 06/12/2018 23:48

ive got 2 and a half years until im 35 that's time right?

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JayKayCeeDee · 06/12/2018 23:49

Sorry bluecanoeFlowers hoping it happens for you

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Aneira11 · 06/12/2018 23:50

I’m thinking 42 for DC3

ChristmassyJumper · 06/12/2018 23:51

I’m hoping to have my first at 39/40, so....

Didyeeaye · 06/12/2018 23:52

I would say 35 would be my personal cut off but I'm probably ambitious.
I only have 1 DS atm so need to find a good man and have baby no 2 within 5.5 years!

EdtheBear · 06/12/2018 23:53

42 - want to see them through uni before retirement.

As a youngster i said 35, but I wasn't in the right set up until 34 so didn't give me much time.

Kescilly · 07/12/2018 00:11

My cutoff was 30 and then life happened, and children didn't. I'm 35 now and pregnant with my first and feel so incredibly lucky.

holasoydora · 07/12/2018 00:17

When I was 32 I thought 35. Now I am 40 I think 45!

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JayKayCeeDee · 07/12/2018 19:11

Today I'm back to sticking at one child lol decisions decisions

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Escolar · 07/12/2018 19:16

I had my last baby at 35 - I expected it to be harder to get pregnant but it happened quickly. Still having regular periods now (at 44) so I could probably have left it longer.

Rememberallball · 07/12/2018 20:57

We are going for ivf next month; if it’s successful I will be 2 months off 48 when baby arrives and DH will be 51. It would be our first child together though DH has 2 adult children and we have 2 grandchildren!

VladmirsPoutine · 08/12/2018 12:24

Remember Good luck! I can't say I envy your position but here's wishing you every success!

knittedjest · 08/12/2018 12:37

For me the cut off was when my children started having children. I hated the idea of a aunt or uncle being younger than the niece/nephew. I had my last at 38 and my first grandchild was born a couple of years later.

Fatted · 08/12/2018 12:39

I'm 38 and I've decided no more! But I had a pretty rubbish experience with DS2 and decided there and then I was done. That's when I was 35.

I'd say probably up until about 40 if my circumstances were different.

zenasfuck · 08/12/2018 12:41

It doesn't sound like you really want a second child
It's ok to stop at one

I had my one and only at 20. I'm now almost 36 and the idea of babies and school runs in my 40's horrifies me

ItIsChristmasTime · 08/12/2018 12:44

Surely the cut off is when it’s right for you? I always wanted to have had all of my children by 40 but I hadn’t taken into account things not going to plan.

HippoLatte · 08/12/2018 14:48

I'm 35 but feel no different health wise to when I was 30 so I would probably think I'd be happy enough to be pregnant up to around 40, possibly even 42. We have 3 already though so don't want any more.

A580Hojas · 08/12/2018 15:34

Mine was 40. I made it with 2 weeks to go.

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anewyear · 08/12/2018 17:15

I was 32 when I had my First child, 35 with my second ..

Hedgehogblues · 08/12/2018 17:19

I'm 40 and my partner is 50 and I'm pregnant with our first child

Kokeshi123 · 08/12/2018 17:27

"You could take the approach that you will just shag and see what happens. If it does and everyone's happy then congratulations. If it doesn't and you have already made peace with just the one then so be it."

Yep, that was what we did (the deal was that if I was not pregnant by 40 I would have my tubes tied). Got pregnant a couple of months before my cutoff point.

It's been easy so far. When you have a second after a big age gap, you get all the chilled-ness and perspective that comes from doing things the second time around without the exhaustion that comes from having a toddler and a baby together--and the older child can genuinely help out with the baby.

It's fine to stay with just one child, however.

shazkiwi · 20/12/2018 23:49

My cut off was 43 years old for me. But having said that I factored in my husbands age (he is 10 years older than me). If my OH had been closer in age to me I possibly would have stretched to 45 years old.

StoppinBy · 20/12/2018 23:49

If you mean how long between babies, there is 4 years between our two and they love each other so much.

The gap has allowed me to have one on one time with both my children and not just my first. For me it has worked out great.

If you mean age I would probably think round 40 I would be saying I am not having any more kids.