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Ohio dad makes girl walk miles to school for bullying on bus

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DGRossetti · 06/12/2018 18:53

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-46471438

bbc.co.uk
US dad makes 'bully' girl walk to school

An Ohio father who made his daughter walk five miles (8km) to school as punishment for bullying has provoked a debate on parenting.

After 10-year-old Kirsten was suspended for three days from the school bus for a second-time bullying offence, Matt Cox decided to teach her a life lesson.

He made her trudge to school on a cold day while he followed behind in a car.

The video of the father's punishment has garnered over 15m views on Facebook and thousands of comments.
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In the viral clip, Mr Cox's daughter is seen walking alongside a road, carrying a backpack and school supplies, in 2C (36F) temperatures.

Mr Cox follows behind her in his car in the town of Swanton, offering commentary on entitlement and bullying.

"Bullying is unacceptable," he said. "This is my small way of trying to stop it in my household."

Mr Cox added that many children feel entitled to privileges like being taken to school in the morning by car or bus.

"I know a lot of you parents are not going to agree with this and that's alright," he says.

"I am doing what I feel is right to teach my daughter a lesson and to stop her from bullying."
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In a Facebook update shared on Wednesday, Mr Cox said his daughter had taken his words to heart.

According to WTVG News, Mr Cox broke up Kirsten's walk over her three-day school bus suspension this week.

The 10-year-old told WTVG she herself had been bullied and now knows to be kind.

Many of the 63,000 comments that have since popped up on his video have been positive, with parents of bullies and bullied alike thanking Mr Cox for his parenting.

"As the grandparent of an autistic boy who has been the victim of neighbourhood bullies, I applaud you! Too many parents do nothing," read one reply.

Read another: "Wish more parents took the time to hold their children accountable for unacceptable behaviour."

However, others pointed out that by shaming her with the punishment video, the girl was arguably being bullied by her father.

"Humiliate her by putting her on Facebook being punished. Irony," one user commented.

"Ok but wait, is she bullying other kids or did you stop to hear her explanation?" said another.

"Was she reacting to being bullied and just got caught? If public shaming is your idea of punishment no wonder she's acting out."

Mr Cox told News 5 Cleveland that he had shown Kirsten and his two other children the video and people's comments on it.

They "seem to show a great deal of empathy towards some of the sad stories that I read with them," Mr Cox said.

He added that he hoped parents would "start holding their kids accountable".

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BiscuitofChoice · 06/12/2018 18:55

Can't fathom why he would decide to publicise that.

hidinginthenightgarden · 06/12/2018 18:56

I think it is an excellent consequence!
Why give her the luxury of driving her there? It isn't far and will teach her a valuable and memorable lesson.

ErictheGuineaPig · 06/12/2018 18:59

I hate this kind of self congratulatory video. It's about making himself look good and garnering likes. And he's using his own child in the process. Hardly surprising she has behavioural issues considering...

DGRossetti · 06/12/2018 19:00

Can't fathom why he would decide to publicise that.

I can imagine all over the world, parents are showing that to errant children, saying so you think you've got it bad ?

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KonaMum · 06/12/2018 19:00

The punishment is fine in theory 1 5 miles is well within most 10 year olds capabilities and if appropriately dressed, the temperature is not an issue. Publicising it like this makes him a bully though and her behaviour was probably learned.

SantyClaws · 06/12/2018 19:01

Punish your kids = fine

Splash it all over FB = not fine.

Houseworkavoider · 06/12/2018 19:01

I would be looking very closely at why she was bullying.
I’m not saying that children who bully should not be punished, but this seems to be an ongoing problem with this child.
Short sighted of the father imo.
This video has gone viral and I’m not sure it’s fair to have this follow the girl around for years to come.

Singlenotsingle · 06/12/2018 19:02

Choices have consequences. Good for him!

MonteStory · 06/12/2018 19:03

“Bullying is unacceptable” he said whilst bullying his ten year old.

What a shit dad.

TheMagician · 06/12/2018 19:05

He sounds a bully. Monkey see monkey do me thinks.

Sethis · 06/12/2018 19:05

Walk to school, sure.

Put a video naming and shaming your own child on the internet, to be downloaded freely by anyone who wants to, and saved on who knows how many computers? Nope. Fucking nope.

10 years from now she may well be applying for jobs, her employer does a simple google search of her name, and this video pops up.

Or she meets a new friend at school and they add each other on FB, and the friend checks out her family and sees this.

Just no. People don't understand that anything you put on the internet is functionally immortal and will never go away.

Good solution to bullying. Still a despicable parent for putting this online, especially with his self-aggrandizing monologue about how good his parenting is.

Buggeroffbingbunny · 06/12/2018 19:06

He is a bully himself. Fair punishment to make her walk to school. To video and publish it is humiliating and bullying.

formerbabe · 06/12/2018 19:06

Dreadful.

evenbetter · 06/12/2018 19:18

If a parent has failed to raise a child with empathy who enjoys repeatedly bullying someone, what do they do? (There is no excuse for bullying someone. Victims lives are often affected permanently by being terrorised, many kill themselves). Saying ‘we don’t hit, darling. Use our kind words darling’ won’t work on a 10 year old bully, how do you parent a bully to get them to behave like decent human beings that don’t destroy others? Making the bully go for a walk won’t make them behave in a civilised manner but it’ll give them time to assess their shit choices.

wrenika · 06/12/2018 19:22

I think this is a perfect punishment. Maybe getting her shame published might teach her to think how others feel. I have no sympathy for bullies. He's doing a great job.

itsfuckingxmasnotduckingxmas · 06/12/2018 19:39

The walking isn't the issue. The public humiliation is the fucked up part.

Fantasisa · 06/12/2018 19:43

Bloody awful. Sounds like something my stepfather would have loved to have done and he was an abusive arsehole.

Ummmwtf · 06/12/2018 19:53

learned behaviour or what??

ILoveDolly · 06/12/2018 19:58

My thought is that his public humiliation of her is bullying. She is a bully because she has learned to pick on others from her father. His desire to showboat regarding his 'excellent parenting' says a lot about him

lizzie1970a · 06/12/2018 20:00

I hate bullying and bullies but I think this is too much. The long-term fallout from this won't be good. It just seems he did it to make himself look good. She'll be laughed at at school for this. Some will say great. To an extent I agree but it's too big a thing - fingers will be pointed at her for a long time. She could have issues with her parents in the future - both mum and dad - mum for not stepping in. Better he took her to see the parents and child she bullied and was made to apologise and felt embarrassment that way plus some other punishments - no TV, no mobile phone, no sleepovers etc. Putting it on the internet doesn't help her. It will only make her resentful. Shit parenting. If he did and and hadn't have filmed it with his "aren't I a great dad" speech then fine.

MiddlingMum · 06/12/2018 20:01

I walked almost that far to school at that age. Wasn't aware it was a punishment, more like a daily adventure with my friends.

Putting it on fb is bad though.

lizzie1970a · 06/12/2018 20:02

Last sentence - I meant the walk in and of itself wasn't the worst thing as a punishment but her dad filming and talking was not good.

citiesofbismuth · 06/12/2018 20:02

Bullying ruins lives. Totally screws them up.

alltoomuchrightnow · 07/12/2018 01:32

5 miles is nothing, I walked it daily to school from age 11

GunpowderGelatine · 07/12/2018 01:33

Can't stand this new phenomenon of parents humiliating their kids on social media. How does this solve any problems? Maybe he should take a closer look at himself to see what kind of example he's setting.