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Ohio dad makes girl walk miles to school for bullying on bus

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DGRossetti · 06/12/2018 18:53

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-46471438

bbc.co.uk
US dad makes 'bully' girl walk to school

An Ohio father who made his daughter walk five miles (8km) to school as punishment for bullying has provoked a debate on parenting.

After 10-year-old Kirsten was suspended for three days from the school bus for a second-time bullying offence, Matt Cox decided to teach her a life lesson.

He made her trudge to school on a cold day while he followed behind in a car.

The video of the father's punishment has garnered over 15m views on Facebook and thousands of comments.
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In the viral clip, Mr Cox's daughter is seen walking alongside a road, carrying a backpack and school supplies, in 2C (36F) temperatures.

Mr Cox follows behind her in his car in the town of Swanton, offering commentary on entitlement and bullying.

"Bullying is unacceptable," he said. "This is my small way of trying to stop it in my household."

Mr Cox added that many children feel entitled to privileges like being taken to school in the morning by car or bus.

"I know a lot of you parents are not going to agree with this and that's alright," he says.

"I am doing what I feel is right to teach my daughter a lesson and to stop her from bullying."
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In a Facebook update shared on Wednesday, Mr Cox said his daughter had taken his words to heart.

According to WTVG News, Mr Cox broke up Kirsten's walk over her three-day school bus suspension this week.

The 10-year-old told WTVG she herself had been bullied and now knows to be kind.

Many of the 63,000 comments that have since popped up on his video have been positive, with parents of bullies and bullied alike thanking Mr Cox for his parenting.

"As the grandparent of an autistic boy who has been the victim of neighbourhood bullies, I applaud you! Too many parents do nothing," read one reply.

Read another: "Wish more parents took the time to hold their children accountable for unacceptable behaviour."

However, others pointed out that by shaming her with the punishment video, the girl was arguably being bullied by her father.

"Humiliate her by putting her on Facebook being punished. Irony," one user commented.

"Ok but wait, is she bullying other kids or did you stop to hear her explanation?" said another.

"Was she reacting to being bullied and just got caught? If public shaming is your idea of punishment no wonder she's acting out."

Mr Cox told News 5 Cleveland that he had shown Kirsten and his two other children the video and people's comments on it.

They "seem to show a great deal of empathy towards some of the sad stories that I read with them," Mr Cox said.

He added that he hoped parents would "start holding their kids accountable".

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Butterflycookie · 07/12/2018 01:34

I think it’s a great idea. Will teach her a lesson and probably will never bully anyone again

moredoll · 07/12/2018 01:35

So he bullies his daughter to show her that bullying is wrong. Confused

AboutThat · 07/12/2018 01:44

Making her walk was the perfect consequence

BUT

Only bullies humiliate people on social media

LakeIsle48 · 07/12/2018 01:46

That is child abuse. Her father is a disgrace.

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 07/12/2018 02:08

I think he was very upset with the lack of remorse and lack of impact of the 1 week bus suspension. The assumption from his daughter that he would just rearrange his day to enable her transport needs

I think it's also him being frustrated with other parents at the school that have been more lenient with their children. He's publicising his response as an example to them.

I think it's gone too far.

user764329056 · 07/12/2018 02:51

Bloody awful of him, could have been dealt with in private in a much more healthy way, what a disgusting role model

brizzledrizzle · 07/12/2018 02:52

I think making her walk was appropriate given she'd been bullying others on the bus but the publicity was child abuse. Bullying is learned behaviour, he needs to see where she has learnt it from, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

wyoudo · 07/12/2018 03:01

Don't disagree with the punishment - however, his reaction and publication makes me think he's a narcissist bully and why she is perhaps behaving the way she is. Poor lass. doesn't know whether she's coming or going.

EnidButton · 07/12/2018 03:02

Walking to school instead of taking the bus. Fine. 5 miles isn't that bad. Wrapped up, 2 degrees is ok.

Filming it and trailing behind her lecturing from the warmth of a car is a double dick move. Putting the video online is disgusting attention seeking behaviour and just makes me wonder why she was bullying in the first place. Unhappy kids bully.

RoboticMary · 07/12/2018 08:40

I probably wouldn’t have chosen to put it online, but he’s teaching her that actions have consequences. Good for him.

NotSureThisIsWhatIWant · 07/12/2018 08:42

Bullies are the result of bullying. I’m pretty sure that walking kid is bullied at home by her dad.

BeanBagLady · 07/12/2018 08:45

Walking to school as a consequence of bullying behaviour in the bus: great.
Humiliating her in SM and grandstanding himself: shameful.

Following her to ensure her safety: fine
Following to film and publicise it: not fine.

I’m not clicking because I don’t need to see this girl.

bigKiteFlying · 07/12/2018 10:03

The walking isn't the issue. The public humiliation is the fucked up part

^^This.
It's not a huge distance and my own children if they couldn't behave on buses and trains ended up walking even in rain and cold weather.

I don't get why that wasn't enough and he felt the need to publicly humiliation her as well.

Pebblesandfriends · 07/12/2018 10:05

Good on him for teaching her a lesson but not the best move putting it in social media. How is she meant to rehabilitate with a permanent record of her mistake?

Stompythedinosaur · 07/12/2018 10:47

Walking to school because you've been banned from the bus is fine.

Videoing it and putting it on social media is horrible and abusive.

LakeIsle48 · 07/12/2018 20:51

Bullying isn't always learned behaviour. Children who are bullied sadly sometimes become bullies.

Andro · 07/12/2018 21:03

Making her walk? Fine - abuse the privilege of using the school bus and lose it for a while (especially since dad made sure she was safe en route).

Putting it on social media? Not fine - and it's scary how many people don't understand the impact this kind of thing can have years down the line.

LemonRedwood · 07/12/2018 21:10

Considering that average adult walking pace is 3mph, 5 miles must have taken her a while though.

Agree that it's an appropriate consequence although 5 miles may be a little far. Plastering it all over social media is not appropriate.

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