"She has pushchair/car seat/changing table"
Haha! First thing I though was changing table!
I've been changing nappies over 30 years hate changing tables, they force you into unnatural positions for doing this task that hurt your back. And take up too much space. Much easier to do on bed, sofa, your lap, even the floor! Mind I can do it one handed at speed! 😂
Baby bath - they outgrow them really quickly even if you do use one, far easier to use sink then normal bath possibly with a bath seat or support like these:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00CMR3H04/ref=ascdff_B00CMR3H0457279432/?tag=googshopuk-21&creative=22110&creativeASIN=B00CMR3H04&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310091553021&hvpos=1o2&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2789775538373018020&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007340&hvtargid=pla-489481435581&th=1&psc=1
https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B01CUF91B6/ref=mpssa1120aa_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1543943127&sr=8-20&keywords=baby+bath+seat
Skirts & dresses for girls - pita! Especially when they're crawling.
Babygrows, legging & top combos basically soft comfy, easy to change clothes FAR more practical. Bear in mind wash instructions. Utterly pointless buying handwash only or worse dry clean only clothes for babies! Cotton that can be flung in the machine & dryer repeatedly is much more sensible.
"90% of 0-3 clothes. Again grew too fast, and it's a pain to squeeze them into tight clothes, rather size up." So true. I never buy smaller than 3-6 months, but generally 6 months + (bearing in mind likely weather then too) as that's when gifts start to tail off.
"or cute little baby bath towels." I do find hooded towels easier on wet wriggly babies the hood kinda anchors it.
Moses basket - we were kindly given one but rarely used it, mainly we (safely) co-slept until she went in cot around 4 months.
Bottle warmers - bloody useless things that take forever to heat a bottle. Far quicker to pop bottle in a jug of boiling water!
Maybe I'm the wrong generation but I don't like sound of perfect prep machines. Too much to go wrong and difficult to clean sounds like a recipe for a food poisoning disaster to me! I bf until dd 9 months then had to FF and I've ff loads of other people's babies, I just think sticking to boiling water + formula keeps it simple and less room for error.
What I consider essential:
Bath, bedroom and sick baby thermometers. So reassuring.
Wipe clean change mat - preferably with raised sides like:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/East-Coast-Nursery-Origami-Changing/dp/B0758HR44V?ref=OcttCABSellerC6015603112&pfrddp=6d9856a0-6ee3-54f0-819f-e72553c9aacc&pfrdds=mobile-hybrid-5&pfrddt=30901&pfrddi=60156031&pfrddm=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&pfrddr=CZ6770CAC71Z716EE6HF&pfrddr=CZ6770CAC71Z716EE6HF&pfrddp=6d9856a0-6ee3-54f0-819f-e72553c9aacc
Can NEVER have too many muslin sheets, towels, bibs or vests!
Baby bouncer chair, though they're likely much more advanced since I bought one, it was the only way I could get peace to get stuff done when dd was tiny. She ALWAYS wanted to be moving.
I'd say ALWAYS get one with a carry handle dd used to go nuts if taken out but if I carried it to next place I needed to be she was fine.
Thermos flask/cup - excellent idea! And a bit more for her than baby.
"Washable toweled liner for the changing mat, means baby doesn't have to lie on a cold surface. You can get packs of three from Mothercare for under £10." See I just laid them on the hooded towel I wrapped them in out the bath.
"think i go too excited when she found out it was a girl" scans can be wrong I'd stick to neutral/unisex items for now.
Small "Tupperware" pots, really useful for weaning portions. If she ff you can get ones for taking portions of formula out with you.
"Snowsuit if winter baby" yes also fingerless gloves for mum!
"And really useful - hand cream and nice soap for parents who have to wash their hands all the time" OMG yes! Aveda hand relief (yes awful name) recommended or calendula cream. (Also good for sore nipples)